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    Relationship Husband with ptsd

    Even with all I've learned about PTSD, I still struggle with this one - how memories, even recent memories, can become completely distorted. I understand that people can remember things differently, but when it comes to the objective reality of how things happened (eg. we were happy together)...
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    Relationship Need emotional support..still miss him so much

    There's no timetable for healing. Take as long as you need.
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    Relationship What do I do now?

    Reading things like this are simultaneously validating and disheartening. On the one hand, it helps to not take things personally and to know that I'm not alone. On the other hand, it triggers a strong sinking feeling of: "Oh... I guess we didn't really have a 'connection like we've never had...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @Friday I think your post could be helpful to @AllConfused once she's clear of the initial blast. But right now I don't think she needs to hear, "Relax, it wasn't that bad." Of course, a breakup's not as bad as a rape or murder. But pain is pain, when you're in it. When you're violently sick...
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    General What are they thinking?

    @lostforgottensoul I just wrote this to someone in another thread. I hope it might offer some perspective on why it's so difficult to get closure for yourself and move on.
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    One day at a time, @AllConfused. Maybe he'll reach out again. Maybe he won't. And if he doesn't, it's going to feel like the end of the world for a while (but it won't be). The reason it feels like the end of the world at first is because it's not just heartbreak, it's lifebreak. It doesn't...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @AllConfused long enough to be embarrassed to say :) It’s been a couple years, but it’s not like I’m a wreck every day. I go through phases where the pain gets brought back up for whatever reason, or no reason, and that’s when you’ll see me pop back up on this site. For this time, I had a...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @SweetPainfulLoving You articulated my daily struggle so well. Wanting to (at long last) let it go completely. Not knowing how. Try to get angry and embrace a "who needs this shit?" mindset, and my compassion fights back. Try to be compassionate, and my anger fights back and says "who needs...
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    General What are they thinking?

    It really sucks that you guys were bailed on my some people who didn't take the time to learn about PTSD or just lacked the compassion to love you through the bad times. I was moreso thinking about past partners/friends who were making an effort, who were being loving and kind, and got pushed...
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    Do you ever... sometimes... eventually... get what they are talking about? Maybe even years down the road, while you're in therapy, looking back on things, and realize, "Oh wow... they were right. That really was shitty."
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    If it's of any comfort, it's highly unlikely he knew any of this was going to happen. You'd be surprised. It's not.
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    @Junebug You said nothing wrong :) You've been incredibly generous sharing your experience and offering your insight. It really is more comforting than you know. I can't imagine what it would be like for us blindsided ex's if this forum didn't exist, and if kind people like you didn't openly...
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    General What are they thinking?

    Thanks for being so open about what you've gone through, @Freida. I'm sure anyone in your life who got left behind while you were living your nightmare would appreciate hearing this from you as well.
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    Relationship He stopped communication; will he come back?

    Want to add a couple footnotes/disclaimers to @Junebug's post: Just because the other person isn't fighting for you, doesn't mean you're not worth fighting for. Just because other supporters in other relationships discussed on here bear some responsibility for the breakup, doesn't mean you did...
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    General What are they thinking?

    @LuckiLee I ask myself this a lot. I also ask it out loud in therapy every once in a while too. I don't know the answer myself, but some guesses I've made as far as it relates to my experience: -I think the emotional whiplash of it just f*cked with my brain, and has lodged the whole experience...
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