Recent content by Zef

One way is science. There is actually a brain process that enables humans to 'get over crap'. . .to move on, etc. PTSD severely damages that process. The hippocampus is very important to the 'get over crap' process in our brains. . .and there is enough research out there that indicates damage...

I know I'm late to this, but this line made me tear up with laughter after a very angry day. You are the most excellent. :)

thought I would give you some attention. :) Just wanted to agree that the list of distorted cognitions is a pretty powerful tool. . .and not just for us, for everyone with a human brain. :) How many of our abusers may not have abused us if they had been aware of their own distortions? How...

The 'Bernie won't win' thing frustrates me. First, because the actual evidence has him running nearly neck-to-neck with Hillary (and with bigger leads than Hillary against any Repub). . .even with a whole lot of people saying they like him most, but aren't going to vote for him 'because he...

Some things to try during what sounds like a real crisis. If you have a t, call. If you have a crisis line available, call. Try this for a few minutes. Every phrase your brain spits out, add 'for now' at the end of it. Example: I'm so done. . .for now. I'm so tired of it all. . .for now...

My first reaction is that do you feel it is creepy or stalkerish? Are you uncomfortable with it? In a broader sense, do you set boundaries when his symptoms infringe on you? If you are OK with this, then that is what matters. If you become not-OK with it in the future, then you can set the...

My trauma was so tied up with religion, that there was absolutely no way for me to maintain religious beliefs and heal. One of the few strong memories I have was lying in bed when I was 14/15 and making the final decision that I would rather God kill me than stay alive under the conditions he...

How about another 'P'? Profane. . .finding the humor or absurdity in your abusive environment. My traumas were tightly tied with the religious community I was raised in. . .finding the Profane was a huge help in my survival.

That is beautiful. Thank You

I Coulda Been A Contender, I Coulda Been Somebody.

I haven't confronted him, but my siblings have. . .over the phone. I think they felt a little bit better, but not as much as they hoped. If you do want to confront, I would suggest a few things. 1. Check yourself to see if you are up for it. Then wait for a week to see if you are still up...

. . .when you think you have successfully 'been in the moment' because you spent the next two hours analyzing everything about the moment.

Appreciate your post and agree. My post was probably not accurate, but my brain does connect the two concepts in a way that lends itself to condemning self-compassion. . .so that is definitely worth further discussion if other people have the same thought patterns. Thank You

Just wanted to say you're not the only person dealing with this. I seem to need some sort of permission. . .like t specifically asking. . .before I can get my mouth to work. . .sometimes permission isn't even enough.

This is my initial reaction, too. But, I recognize, in myself at least, that this is all or nothing thinking. Self-compassion is probably on the same continuum as selfishness, so the trick is finding a good place where they balance. It sounds like we are both so far at one end of the sprectum...