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Hi moving forward thanks for replying so quickly and your kind response. She’s not got a great track record of being able to articulate what her needs are. Tends to keep things bottled up. Do you by any chance know if there’s any books for teenagers that covers trauma? thanks again

Hi there - looking to ask for advice on how best to look after my teenage daughter. we found out a few months ago that her step sister had been abused by family member. My daughter has just confided to me that the same was done to her by her grandfather, with whom she used to have a good...

Thank you so much everyone for your replies - it’s much appreciated. I’m catching up 1:1 with her therapist tomorrow to also get her advice on how to approach. Thanks again

Hi rumours, Yep we already have a therapist that she started seeing relatively recently and seems to have a good rapport with.

Hello guys - really need some practical advice here. My daughters step-sister has told her mum that she and my daughter were sexually abused by their grandfather several years ago. My daughter would have been 7 at the time. My daughter has never said anything about this. Given her age I don’t...

Hi everyone, Not posted for a while...looking to get some independent view on something? Two years ago I got fired: - by a boss I thought was a Friend, who I had respected and trusted immensely - example, when I found out my dad still hits my Mother, he was the person I asked for advice on...

Hi everyone Sorry it's been a few months since I last posted anything. Things have been busy as I moved country. Desperately need some help/advice. Apologies in advance if this is in part too graphic. I was raped in 2011. My view was that I wasn't particularly upset or bothered by it...

thank you @TreeHugger - i think trying some alternative form of therapy would be an idea. It's just a shame because I have spent several months building a relationship with this guy, and he has gotten to know a great deal about me. The idea of starting all over again is a bit disheartening -...

Yeah, I think you may be right re: my cynicism...it's not just that though, the concept of getting angry and imagining beating people to death isn't particularly appealing. This T is the longest I've ever seen anyone for...so I don't really know what other options are available. The issues in...

Hi Stenni - I went to see this T for help, but not with any particular approach/methodology in mind - he had been of the view that something "cognitive" wouldn't be necessary or helpful, as I have no problem "thinking". I just don't know what other methodologies other people's T's use in this...

Hi guys I've posted previously whether others have had any experience of Intensive Short Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP)...it seems very "sensory" focussed in that it pushes you to physically feel sensations of feelings/emotion in your body; it's driving to shut down anxiety which is...

Hi Yep, "work" (which ranged from school, to university, to my career) was my primary coping mechanism for (not) dealing with all the stuff that happened at home and elsewhere. As a kid, the one thing my parents valued above all-else was academic achievement, so I worked my a*se off...and it...

"With friends like these..." :)

Ugh...just 'NO'!! Seriously with you on this, if any muppet thought to do that to me on facebook (not that I really use it)...I'd hit the roof. The thought of random (and likely spectacularly condescending) messages being auto-sent is just beyond disgusting. As to the point of the notifier...

By way of update... I've just accepted a new job...so that's one less thing for them to worry about. Plus it means I won't have to resort to moving back to the UK out of financial desperation. I've told my sister that I'm taking medication. They'll like that. Spoken to my Mum a couple of times...

Yeah, my ex-partner said something almost identical: "you know that wasn't 'right'"....uh, really? It's all the more confronting because my father had a horrendous childhood; plus he now (ironically) is a member of the judiciary...

hey I'm still working on this. My previous T flat out said, "that is physical and emotional child abuse" and "you and your siblings should have been taken into care temporarily." i felt like I had been hit by a freight train. Literally turned my world upside down. I didn't believe her...

Hey, I told my sister I have an appointment with a "Doctor" on Friday. I don't want to lie to people, it's not "me", but they don't seem willing to accept my right to have a different opinion on this, so I'll tell them I'm taking something...it can be the ultimate placebo effect...I (pretend...

Hi Scout. Re "That you're not doing what right?" - the therapy he's trying is ISTDP (physically feeling feelings/emotions) and I am not very good at that... I just got an email from my sister this morning pushing me to: - see doctor to get pills - provide a regular breakdown of my "treatment...

hi @Flower Power; @Stickler and @scout86 - thank you all of you for your replies. I appreciate them a great deal. By way of update, I've not had any further random calls from my siblings...which is certainly a relief...there's enough going on already. I called my Mum on Monday...bit odd...she...

Hey, thanks for the links mate... Hmmm....not sure, the gas lighting thing (especially the original film) seems to be about people doing that with malicious intentions...I don't think thats the case here...though the situation does certainly leave me feeling "nuts" - I don't think they intend to...

Thanks Cashew. Good points...I especially like the "edited" part at the bottom. Thank you.

Go to sleep!!!!!

Uh, as frightening as that sounds...you may possibly be onto something... My T disagreed with them...but it's hard for me to pick him over my own family...plus more complicated because he may just be telling me this to make me feel better...(no issues with authority or trust there...!)