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It’s really hard to say how this will all play out. Even knowing what a “typical” symptomatic period is like for your sufferer isn’t a guarantee. That’s why you have to decide what your limits are… and you’ll figure it out as you go along since she hasn’t been symptomatic before. Eventually...

“Evil” is a lashing out word, especially when it’s aimed at somebody who didn’t do anything wrong. That’s projection.

That’s hard to say. I’d prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Trust me, I know it sucks. The uncertainty is worse than the blame sometimes. There have been many a time where I’ve wondered if I was single now or not. Eventually I got kinda zen with it. I know how long I’m willing to...

I would give him a little time and see what happens.

As much as it sucks, sometimes all you can do is wait it out. Protect your kids, protect yourself, and wait it out.

Has he cut off all contact? Sounds like he panicked when things got real.

Yep. You can’t make a case when they’re in a spiral. There’s no logic, there is no defending yourself. You said what you needed to say. You’re being patient and empathetic. That’s all you can do. It’s also OK to be frustrated and pissed off at the situation. It’s awesome how they talk...

Is this the first time you will be seeing each other face to face?

I think most people are shocked when they see what actual PTSD looks like. They have the TV version in the head. I also think it is easy for PTSD to fly under the radar in the honeymoon phase of the relationship. Eventually your partner will actually be symptomatic enough where they can’t mask...

So is it the inconsistency that’s confusing you? Welcome to the forum, by the way 😃

You think people are giving up? It is more difficult and more loving to accept reality and let somebody go when they tell you their needs and wants. When somebody with PTSD says they don’t want to be in a relationship because they cannot mentally and emotionally handle being in a relationship...

You get to the point where you realize that you *have* to stop the madness. You have to set those boundaries. Does it sound like a good idea to let the person who is not mentally well run the show? If she gets mad at everybody, she gets mad. You can’t let her make the whole family nuts while...

I know I fell in love with him before he let me see the PTSD. Believe it or not, I think that’s true for most supporters. We don’t really know what we’re getting ourselves in to. Somebody can say “I have PTSD” all they want, we still don’t *know* until we get blindsided. Love is a good...

I’m sorry @Bootstrap … that sucks. Death by a thousand papercuts

You all have to understand it not just a rapist thing… supporters are a stand in generally. I get demonized but my vet with Combat PTSD. That’s what sufferers tend to do… they lash out and project. We’re the closest target. It has nothing to do with male or female, or trauma type.

Emotional numbing is a symptom of PTSD, and sometimes somebody is just not healthy enough for a relationship. It has nothing do with what you or he wants. It is just the way it is. He isn’t making a decision, he has a mental illness. Sometimes they *can’t* love somebody back. You can do...

One of the first things long term supporters have to give up is the idea that we can help or fix. You cannot love the PTSD out of somebody.

@enough you need to keep in mind you are in the supporter section. This isn’t the place to come and get offended by reasonable questions.

I don’t think that is true. A lot of us have close and/or romantic relationships with sufferers. My partner has severe Combat PTSD, and while he can be symptomatic and horrid at times, he is still “him.” Doubt it. She’d still find something to lash out about, and you wouldn’t have your sister...

Here’s the deal. *You* are not in charge of her mental health. *You* are not “triggering” her. *She* is being triggered. She is the one responsible for that. It’s happening in her head. You would never be able to avoid everything that may be triggering to her. She doesn’t even know what all...

Your mom is mentally ill and you are an adult. You do not need her permission to have a relationship with your half sister. You also do not need to apologize to her for *her* irrational behaviors, triggered states, or lashing out behaviors. She is the only person responsible for her emotions...

At this point in time he can blow his PTSD straight out his ass. I’m on a coffee break for the rest of the weekend.

May as well say what you need to say at this point.

Ain’t it a bitch when they know everything? It must be exhausting.

Have you met with your attorney yet? This is a matter for your separation agreement. You have a say in the daycare situation. She doesn’t have custody established, so right now you both have the exact same rights. Don’t be afraid to seek custody if you think she is unstable. There are probably...