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Does her father not drive? Or not have a vehicle? Why is she inserting herself into the situation?

Stop worrying about her and concentrate on your child. Kids come first. See legal advice about establishing paternity, child support, custody, and visitation. Make sure your son is safe. After that, worry about her.

This. This is what the “ride or die” people don’t understand. Or all the sufferers who post about hanging on. This shit is devastating to a supporter. Not only is it devastating mentally and emotionally, but it can literally cost you your home, family or financial well-being too. THIS is why...

Moving on from a bad situation isn’t hard hearted. Sometimes that is the healthiest and strongest thing to do.

If you haven’t run into her for the months that she’s been coming to your town you probably aren’t frequenting the same places. Even so… don’t give her the power to make you hole up in your own town. Don’t give her the power to affect your daily life or mental health any more. You escaped. She...

You’d be surprised what I can imagine. I’ve known my sufferer for 30 years and we’ve been together more than a decade. He’s the air in my lungs… and I’ve had to come to terms with the *fact* that at any given time he may become to ill to be in a relationship anymore. What about in a way that...

You’ll never be able to grieve and move on if you’re waiting for her to come back… which is what it sounds like you’re actually doing. I would take a look at what makes you happy (and don’t say her… think about what you need from a partner). It’s been two years of this. Do you want 50 years?

My sufferer has neuropathy, but his is from nerve damage related to combat injuries. He has pain, partial paralysis, tingling, numbness, and at times some instability walking. I’m not sure if his is related to PTSD or just his physical injuries.

If you do not set boundaries with your sufferer they will run you over. That is hell on earth… and as somebody with an anxiety disorder of their own, I can tell you that as hard as it seems, the boundaries are what’s going to save your sanity.

You need to ask yourself this…. Are you OK with thinks as they are now? This may be as good as it gets from now on. That lashing out behavior really sucks.

It’s a huge learning curve. Nobody knows what they’re getting into when they start a relationship with a sufferer. You have to have a rhino hide for sure. It a tight-rope walk… being empathetic without being a doormat.

Might I suggest thinking of things another way? Giving her that space is a loving act. She needs it to feel better and you want her to feel better. Step back, take a breath, and stop the catastrophic thinking. She didn’t say “I want to break up” or “I don’t want to see you anymore.” She...

That’s the thing with isolation periods. They’re coping mechanisms for overwhelm. She’s not always going to be able to communicate that she is beginning to feel symptomatic/stressed/triggered. She has a mental illness and sometimes it will get the better of her. Ideally she would communicate...

Honestly, if you can’t handle giving her space for a few weeks a PTSD relationship probably isn’t for you. My partner isolates as a coping mechanism. I have to be OK with that. I understand that he needs that space to feel better and that it’s not about me. Giving him that space and not taking...

Are they taking advantage of you because you have PTSD? Or does of it them?

If he isn’t in the headspace to talk in general he isn’t going to jump at the chance for stressful relationship talks. Nobody can tell if his behavior is PTSD or not. It’s very individual. The advice I would give you is to ask yourself if you are happy with the way things are now. This may...

Don’t worry so hard about that door that you can’t actually move on.

If she says she’s not ready to date I’d take her word for it.

When you say that he isn’t seeing you for months is that because he currently lives in Italy? Or is he close by and isolating?

f*ck that guy. He’s still manipulating the situation by choosing a date for you to pick up the cat. He will dangle it over your head and then put it off again. Go get your cat ASAP. Tell him, don’t ask. Then block his number and any social media… him and everybody he knows. You don’t have to...

I’d take him out of the equation and box his stuff up and leave it in the garage or something. “Come get it tomorrow or it’s going on the curb.” It’s your place now, not his anymore. You don’t have to be a storage unit so he can drag things out.

With as much disrespect as I can muster… f*ck that guy. Not only is he a complete asshole, he sounds like he has little girl proclivities too. That alone makes him a horrible person. Pine sol in your drink? Did you call the cops and make a police report? His daughter is also a horrible person...

Untreated PTSD is pure unadulterated hell on a relationship.

… because it’s so helpful when short tempered grumpy motherf*ckers help you with tasks. 😤

Maybe I should be concerned at the frequency at which this thought crosses my mind… but he can blow it out his ass in the nearest, most convenient direction. I used to be sweet 🙄