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Wow what a nice guy. No guy should talk to his wife that way.

I have to disagree with this statement. Her "friend" knew she did not want to have sexual contact with him. He knew she was drunk and passed out, and took advantage of her. She did not tempt him. She did not send some message that he could have interpreted as I want to have sex with you. The...

This, very much, was the case for me. When I was diagnosed it was a relief, because it gave me an answer to why I was reacting to things. Does this mean I am glad I have it? no. I wish I did not, but knowing what it is, is much better than not knowing.

I am very glad to hear this!

Just keep saying no. She will either not go back to him, or stop asking you.

Is she asking for advice, or approval?

Unless he goes to some rather intensive counseling he will never stop, and she needs to stay away from him.

Anytime a person faces an event that could of easily ended their life, be it a medical emergency or a trauma situation, it can bring about depression. I was in a serious accident in 1989, and remember well lying in the hospital bed crying because of the depression. It does affect your ability to...

@trying2movefwd First let me say that I am sorry for all you have endured. It is horribly wrong for a husband to treat his wife in this manner. As a male I cannot begin to understand the pain you are feeling. However I did want to respond to your post, to let you know you are not alone in this...

I agree this may not be torture, but I disagree that you can escape it. I was bullied to the point of emotional abuse, the staff knew about it, and did nothing! Also an abused woman is at her greatest danger when she tries to leave the abusive husband.

Perhaps the use of the words abuse and torture are just semantics.

Ideology would be in terms of religious or similar beliefs. Political I am thinking more of prisoner of wars or people deemed political enemies like spies or insurgents that are fighting against the government.

My thoughts on the subject are simple, and they are just that: My thoughts. Abuse is something that someone does for personal gratification: whether sexual, power/ dominance/ of pure narcissism. Torture is something that is done for political or ideological reasons; a method of gaining...

Many of us feel this same way about PTSD and our experience. It is one of the reasons we do not compare trauma. When we have been traumatized it is what it is. It is not the kind of trauma we suffered, it is more about the trauma being unprocessed. So please do not look negatively at yourself...

Survivor means you came through the ordeal, you survived it. How you live your life, with, or without, meaning is up to you.

Put him in a barn, nail his wiener to a post, give him a dull knife, then set the barn of fire.

Many of the members will hit the like button, so you will know it has been read. Not everyone who reads the post can necessarily understand your situation, or it is too painful for them to respond. As you continue with the forum you will develop friendships, and a support network. As for...

Frequently with PTSD when you are diagnosed, and start treatment, it seems to get worse as you start dealing with it. It does get better. It just takes time. As for being in another relationship? There are good people out there, and you have the opportunity to meet someone wonderful, so don't...

This is a good question. I will start by saying why I isolate :Safety. I know if I am alone, then no one will do something that I perceive as being hurtful. I cannot answer how long it last, and even stranger I think I compartmentalize when it comes to isolating. What I mean is this. I will get...

As a general rule we do not compare or judge one another's trauma. While I do not think it is your intent, your statements could be perceived as condescending, and belittling. Tony g had a traumatic experience that he is dealing with, and I think we should be careful how we question his, or...

Is it a question of attention, or acceptance? I think sometimes people will do things to get attention, because, in their minds, attention equals acceptance. @Simply Simon I think your original post about posting :), and how you recognize, and question, your response to craft posting shows me...

Thinking your story is insignificant is part of this whole garbage associated with trauma and PTSD. No one's story is insignificant; that is why we encourage members to not compare stories. We do not try to "out trauma" each other. Our story is just that: our story. You may think your story is...

@joeylittle It sounds like you have covered it all very well.

I read the post and contextually it is not a personal attack, but an attention getting statement making the valid point that the negative opinion of an internet stranger does not matter.

I am going to try and write this in a way that does not offend anyone, but I think it needs to be said. There are three separate yet connected issues here: 1 The suffering of the victim. 2 The US stipulation that someone is innocent until proven guilty. 3. The courts requirement to follow the...