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Hi Cassandra and whoever needs to hear it...My inbox for this post pinged just now with your note and I definitely know how you feel. I noticed my last post was Nov 8 last year. That was just a week before an acquaintance from work who was overseas began reaching out to chat. I gave it a chance...

I just love you Freida. I don't fully know if I'm dealing with meh or "him" wanting someone as you say to keep confirming he's worth it. Marine's social page shows he's in deep trouble emotionally so I took the advice of my combat vet pal and have been pinging periodically via text during the...

Thank you all for your honest input, all appreciated, even the tough love. Wishing everyone a peaceful holiday...

With all due respect @Sweetpea76 - That doesn't sound completely correct. @Freida 's original thread starter on page one says as below my sign off line here. It asked for supporter thoughts on ghosting etc. She asked to know what supporters are thinking and feeling when it happens. I think I am...

Hi @Freida - Is it weird that I'm so relieved to see your reply? Anyone's reply but mostly from you, thank you! You are 100% right about immersing in a high stress job to avoid the demons, I totally see him doing that! It's the only thing he excels at or does at all really.....I so wish it...

Hi Ronin and thanks for taking the time to reply. But to clarify, he did not tell me about the job first, in fact it seemed clear that I wasn't first. What pissed me off most was that he was so gleeful about it, but with no hey, I'm sorry I've been out of comms for 10 weeks and thanks for...

Hail Mary help, Freida, Eve. I don't want to give up on Marine, he has my heart still but I think he may be gone, this time....I do understand his inner struggle but it gets the best of me, we have been back and forth almost 4 years, it's so exhausting.... I try not to help unless he reaches...

The very ironic thing is, my dear, that you actually did just explain it to us perfectly, and that's a gift. (you know I love and admire you babe for your sassy way with words and openness!) I would give anything to have the Marine say these very words to me and just open up the...

I apologize Eve, I assumed we were talking about the trauma portion as well. That's where my headspace when on this forum. Shake hands, pour vino, be friends again please. Reading more carefully I agree it's silly to assume a breakup in itself is PTSD causing unless one is especially emotionally...

Hi Anthony. I wanted to hear your truth, which frankly is all I've ever asked of him. Sadly, I realize silence is an answer isn't it? Thank you for the reply sir.

AN Anthony, first, can I thank you on behalf of hundreds on both sides of this challenge? THANK YOU! For doing something so important as launching this site. I hope it gives you a smile as you realize how many you've brought together from both sides of this journey and all side of the world...

Eve, we're not talking about teenage angst here if I'm correct....and how it makes my skin crawl to hear you say that so cavalierly. That's actually not true and I believe this is currently being evaluated DSM as relationship based ptsd, it's widely discussed in psych communities over the last...

How did you know? This guy resurfaced after 2.5 months, just landed his dream job and is all excited blah blah blah. He's calling my pet name, Miss, I asked politely why he's picked up like nothing happened with no apology and it sent him back into silence. He has always been crazy weird about...

I'm so sorry @Beenthere1230... I have one of these too, a boomeranger. I once read douchebags get ptsd too and I'm more and more wondering if this is the simple truth in my case. A terribly damaged combat vet who also happens to be just a terribly selfish man. I didn't know him prior so the...

@Freida Hey lady, I was thinking about you today, and ALL of you other fab humans in these 88 pages of heartfelt transmissions! I just wanted you each to know I'm send a little bit of strength and stardust in whatever way it's needed, at whatever point you are on the journey this evening!

Yeah Freida, that's the cognitive distortion shit-ton-o-fun talking. Picturing this as a light going out helps me visualize how it feels to Marine. If you haven't read Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" I highly recommend. It was like salve, gospel for my wounded brain when I was recovering...

@Freida Woop woop! You're such a wicked rockstar and ya don't even know it ;) While you're at it, put this in the pipeline...People who have the most difficulty sorting things due to PTSD are really quite closer to "normal" than they think. They are perhaps the most thoughtful and caring among...

@Woundedhealer - The end goal to reach and the hope of every single person on this site! :)

@Freida Oh Lady, how I I've missed you and your smart way of getting thoughts out of your head and into writing! I wish I'd seen this last night so I could have replied right away and let you know that you will not get a cricket variety reply from this girl! I'm sure the lag time in bestie...

@lostforgottensoul and @Freida, you two are brave souls and I appreciate your audacious sharing! You give max insight into the suck of the ptsd rabbit hole from the supporter side. I'm getting more savvy after 3.5 plus years of riding the wave with my combat ptsd vet, but dang, it still smarts...

I know this is an older post, but for others just coming on board and reading through, just know that there are others that are going through this same learning process too as we have our little aha moments that, hey, this isn't just garden variety douchbaggery. It sure as hell stinks of it...

LOL, @Hojay on the narc-splanation reference, touche ;) and thanks for the reminder and detail on vulnerable narcness. I think one of your keenest points is noting reasons for isolation as a tip off for who's who in the cluster B zoo. None of it's good or comfortable for those of us...

Hate to hear it Mum, but that's why we're here; to give each other those aha moments, or huge big bada boom WTF! moments right?! Hope you're feeling fortified too after whatever you've encountered :)

YOU are not going crazy, darling Hojay! The fact that you consider you might be is probably the result of the gaslighting and constant hammering away of your sanity, which is more than likely, in my experience, the darkness of narc-ness (feel free to use that!). I def had a tangle with ptsd...

Huge pains Freida darling :) Why? because you've each shown us in some way your wonderful essence and it's in our nature to recognize that in people despite outward challenging behavior. I guess we're inclined by nature to persist and not give up the fight easily and that part of us is why...