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Dissociation is on a spectrum, from minor everyday things of zoning out while driving to the same old place because it’s just pure muscle memory pretty much all the way up into DID. Everyone falls on that spectrum somewhere. I don’t think the things you are describing are dissociation though, I...

This is a good topic for your T. I allude therapy to a Pandora’s box. There’s so much that gets locked up in our heads, predominantly overwhelming emotions. Once you get into good therapy, that box slowly opens and leaking things out little by little so that you can process those things and work...

Ya, I think support with flowery words and such can be okay in some situations, and most likely if you aren’t especially close to the person you are supporting. But at some point doesn’t it cross into enabling or even codependency on some level? Because to be truly supportive you would need to...

Exactly. I’d much rather be called out for my behavior (I’ll fight back at first but I’ll thank you later) because how am I ever going to improve if I’m placated at every turn? If I come here upset because my kid is doing something I don’t agree with, I would fully expect to be called out for my...

That’s exactly what I mean. It makes it difficult to really listen when people are being supportive. Because my mom could easily come on here and get all kinds of support. But if I lay things out from my perspective she’ll be demonized.

Dissociation or not (which doesn’t quite sound like it to me but I’m not a doc), he has a responsibility to get himself help and be a team partner in marriage and parenting. I’d be finding a new therapist personally.

I would be beyond frustrated too. My thoughts? You are enabling the crap out of his behavior. I get there’s a fear for your own livelihood which is driving you to do it, but you may have to seriously consider what your limits are and what you’re willing to do for your own happiness and sanity...

Feeling better. I’m pretty positive I’m safe now. That was just a really hard couple of days where I was really fighting sh urges and really considering any way I could get in. I’m doing better now though. Thank you for checking in.

Say person A posts. They are an adult who was in an abusive relationship and children were involved. If that person posts regarding difficult behavior of the children, the response seems to typically be very supportive to the parent and not so much towards the child with the difficult behavior...

I can’t really speak on the avoidant part since I’m very very very disorganized lol. But I do think I would have been open to it, provided it was done in a loving way and when I was calmer and maybe had just come down from a more anxious/angry state so the person can be like hey look at the...

I did and I didn’t. Like I figured there would definitely be at least one more wave, but I thought we had a decent handle on it. Then the protests started. I really don’t want to go into any debate on should they or shouldn’t they protest, but I knew it would drive numbers back up. I just didn’t...

@blackemerald1 yup in the US and right where some of the major protests have happened. Those counties are reporting upwards of 300-400+ new cases each DAY which I could swear is far worse than it was before. And we were on such an awesome decline. We’d gotten our numbers so damn low and now...

I don’t have any good advice to add to what you’ve already done. But I wanted to chime in and say thank you from the bottom of my heart for being someone so willing to educate yourself and to be so patient with him. We desperately need more people like you in the world. Though I know how hard...

I can understand the judges feeling. I’m definitely prone to feeling it lol. But one thing to remember is people are born rebels. If you push back too hard on something they’re likely to do it out of spite. Especially if they are still in the space of using harder things to cope. She has to help...

Our numbers are insanely high in almost no time at all. I haven’t heard if there have been any changes to reopening so I seriously doubt it. But it’s incredible how fast we jumped right back up.

Gotcha, for this site the most common thing you’ll see is weed. There’s others and there’s alcohol but those are coping mechanisms (negative ones) but they are just yet another way to numb out and try to deal with the overload of feelings. Or to just feel something at all sometimes.

I’m not sure which post that was, I’m definitely one to say ummm no. But you have to remember everyone here is on a different part of their own journey. Sometimes that includes still using drugs. I’m one that’s incredibly against it- but that’s just me. You are free to express your opinion on...

I’m not sure what you’re referring to. Everyone here seems pretty open to discussion about them. Everyone comes in their own way and drugs and alcohol are frequently one of those ways. This is a pretty tough group in that you don’t have to worry about trigger warnings or upsetting people...

You’re right that I am biased to a point. You’re right that I wouldn’t have the same automatic skepticism towards prazosin. Because I have a certain level of trust towards western medicine. Is it perfect? Absolutely not. I’m actually all for using holistic remedies when appropriate and even in...

You said what I was thinking in a much clearer way. Thank you.

I think I’m losing sight of the difference. Or I’m fighting both. Or my brain is just that screwed up. Background: CSA for years starting from a very young age. This CSA was twisted and morphed into what I knew to be “love”. A person that touches you clearly loves you that much to risk their...

I’ve done that, no idea how to fix it or what it is. Happens everywhere, not just with T and it’s so incredibly embarrassing.

This has me nervous 42% increase in cases

Okay, we can make ten million excuses for the rookie all we want. What about the other guys? They were fully capable of stepping in and not rookies.

Every single word of this!!!!