Search results

As I sit here thinking this afternoon I think he would be most happy locked up in a house with his big TV it wouldnt matter where we live:rofl:

Thanks Bec one of his main problems is he is doing up a old Holden ute well he was he hasnt done much lately? But it is his hobby and I would not get in the way of that. A lot of bits and pieces of car not big dirty bits but small pieces that he sits and polishes and that sort of thing. I have...

Thats it Jods like we spoke of moving out of town I said give us a year or so to get the house up to scratch for sale but he was in to it like a bull at a gate painting and things then he burns himself out and thats where we are now he is not up to doing anything. Next time I will keep my...

There are just the two of us home now as the kids have moved out. I always said once that happened I would have a really nice and neat house. Hubby is a clutterer he has junk everywhere all the time I am forever picking up after him. Just lately I feel like I am becoming like him I see stuff...

Thats great Bec!! Enjoy these times!

Thanks guys yes I think the finance problem will always be an issue with him he always worries about money? Yes Nicolette even yesterday he was helping me lay some tiles and he was being really fussy and he said being in the Army made him be like that as in having perfect straight lines etc...

We have been married 26 years when hubby has good days I used to get a little bit excited I think just to lap it up and enjoy those good days. But when the shit hits the fan with him I am cranky and dissapointed which is quite normal the mood changes wear thin after a while. When hubby feels...

Yes Veiled 12 months ago is part of our life that he chooses to forget he says he can not remember a lot of things he did at that time when he was in control ( we thought) of our finances we are just about caught up with a lot of debt that he did get us into! I control all our accounts now and...

Thats it Kathy I dont really know what sets him of? It may have been that? As Anthony said once we live in a Military city there are probably heaps of triggers here I have mentioned to him a few times does he like it here and he does. Maybe he has to try and deal with these triggers he did a...

Not that I can think of Jim! I understood when his Dad died that he crashed for a couple of weeks. But lately life has been fairly normal that I can think of I suppose it doesnt need much to trigger them off hey!

Thanks Bec he seems to be having a shit week again very down. He bit my head of last night for something. I was so tempted to say something to him along the lines that I am all he has got which is true as he has lost all his mates over the time but I thought I probably should not upset him any...

I hope Matt does alright and understands why you were not quite right in the morning!:hello:

Thanks Bec no things are about the same I did manage my day off he got out of bed at a reasonable hour on THAT day! Still eating junk I am at work through the day he goes and buys pies and chips for lunch. I must remember to start making lunch for him! I know he is in bed until midday when I...

As Veiled said Kathy a very moving post! I know that if I said to hubby thats it I am out of here he would go downhill very fast. He did this last year and contemplated suicide after things were not good between us this is the way life is and yes I could not bear to think that me pushing or...

Yes Kathy I agree with you! It was never heard of years ago I still try to explain it to people when they ask whats wrong with him?

Hi Evie Thanks for your input it is appreciated! My friends know he has PTSD but I really dont think they know and understand what it is. The older generation as in my parents dont seem to be able to understand that PTSD can lay people up like it does?

Enjoy the time with them Kathy because as we know they grow to fast!

Thanks guys I do appreciate getting an insight in to the sufferers point of view! Do you think the reason he is being stubborn is a case of self esteem as well? If I get someone in to do the morning shift am I taking away that one reason that he needs to get out of bed that one day of the week...

Looking at my two dogs laying beside me while I am on the computer they are so faithful I love them!

Thanks guys its good to see from a sufferers point of view at how hard it is to wake up yes he is on meds. This has been going on for years and it wears a bit thin after a while I know I need to put up with it as it is obvious to me that he doesnt want help he has had PTSD clinics and...

Deary me Bec thats the last thing you guys need! I hope he gets through this ok:hello:

Thanks for those ideas Kathy he still says he is ok to work that one day after talking to him about it. The loudest alarm clock may wake him but doesnt get his butt out of bed. He has tried going to bed early it doesnt seem to help. Selfish you say I dont think a person is selfish if he only...

Thanks Kathy no we need to be open for 5 days a week as we provide a service. I go over to golf at 7.30 am and put the phone in his room and wake him up knowing he will not get out of bed until at least 8am. He asks me to ring him in 20 mins to make sure he is up he just has so much...

I after some opinions on which way to go here? He is not getting out of bed till late I run the business and am ok with that. He does the one day a week thats all he could handle! The thing is that one day he works I am constantly waking him up to get out of bed and I can feel myself getting...

Thanks Guys I did have a lovely day Hubby ran the business and I spent the day at the golf club with the ladies we had cake and wine. It was Melbourne Cup Day as well so a bit of gambling went on I won $97 on the horse that won. I just put money on the horses with family birthdates and won so...