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I’ve been reluctant to write anymore on this thread. I did reach out to my T. She has never “not replied” on the day of a phone call/extra session request…. Until last Tuesday. I went through all of the reasons it could have been in my head and created a plan of action if she hadn’t replied...

Seeing my therapist has been very helpful and I have noticed that family communication and my relationship with my husband has improved because of it. You don’t have to tell your family that you are going to therapy. I chose to, but it was almost a year before I told anyone besides my husband...

We always read that we can tell therapists anything. Unfortunately, therapists aren’t always on their A game and let their reactive human out. This isn’t your fault. You hired him to help you and trusted that you could share your angry feelings. I’m glad he said that he would seek council...

@PTSDisaster the book is called: “Life, Reinvented” by Erin Carpenter, LCSW

I cried about mine indirectly last week and I think it set off a disaster of emotions, but I wasn’t crying about the abuse. I was reading about what childhood sexual abuse does to the neural pathways in the brain and how it disconnects the communication between the right and left brain and why...

I’m actually trying something new. You spend 15 minutes writing down all of your fears/resentments followed by 20 minutes meditation. Morning and night. You don’t try to process it. You just write it down and leave it there. This was on “crappy childhood fairy.” My T suggested I google it...

I went into it wanting to talk about my traumas. I’d journal, ask my therapist to read some of the sick stuff that happened to me. Watched her eyes flutter a little. Kind of like a test. Will you be the one to witness my pain and validate me or turn your back on me like the last one did...

@Friday choice number 2. There were some problems a few months back where I was overwhelmed and seeing my T twice a week. The insurance company started questioning my T why I was coming in so often because I was getting close to running out for the year. (30 sessions a year without approval...

@Wendell_R It is hard to say whether it is the “flu” or “hell,” though. I tend to be dependent and avoidant—very contradicting. I have tools. Am I using them? I’m really trying. I’m afraid that if I’m wrong, I’ll be stuck without help because my therapist only works M-W. Just my luck. I...

Today, I realized that I tend to avoid working on on trauma by feeling bothered by other trauma. My T already knew this was going on. We are still trying to bring everything down in SUDS by using Flash EMDR before working out the detailed spots that really bother me. So, today we put both big...

Approaching this as anxiety: My daughter was having this at school-tore her arm up with intense scratching. Her Psychiatrist, matter of factly, said it was intense anxiety. She prescribed her a really strong antihistamine (already takes effexor and a tiny dose of abilify). It...

I like what Friday said, give it a go! You have nothing to lose. If it doesn’t work it isn’t your lack of achievement…. We can put that on the medical stuff. ;-). Also, college isn’t for everyone. My T tells me to have compassion for the negative parts of myself. Hopefully, you can apply...

I do this too. I even watched an entire movie where a young woman confronts her sexual abuser and sees that he now lives with a single mom that has a young daughter. It is so twisted, yet I could understand the conflicted feelings that the young woman had. 13 reasons kind of froze me. I...

@Chris-duck No, I don’t know your situation. Also, my digging around comment was aimed at your therapist, not you.

@Chris-duck I am curious…. If your SUDS is 0, why do you need therapy in the first place? Or more specifically, Emdr therapy. We work on things that are bothering me and affecting my ability to function in my day to day life. If things weren’t bothering me, I’d be living my life fully. I...

Years ago, my T recommended a book called “Dance of Anger.” By Harriet Lerner. It is very helpful in how to deal with controlling moms/people. Also, I am now better at letting stuff that mom says roll off of me by approaching everything as an observer rather than letting it anger me and cause...

If it was no big deal when you did it, I question where your SUDS rating was before you began. When the rating is below five, doing it alone probably wouldn’t be so bad. My T has sometimes encouraged me to continue emdr on my own during the week, but tells me that I should stop if it isn’t...

@FauxLiz Wouldn’t it be nice if there were gender less therapists?

I run into maternal transference with my T quite often. She is very good at helping me through it and it doesn’t scare her, but she is also a supervisor and closer to the end of her career. We once talked about the TV show that I’m watching called “In Treatment.” She said that erotic...

I have this issue. It is much worse now that I’m working in person more and more. I seem to have more trouble with words when having to think more three dimensionally. My meds do fog me up as well—and middle age.

Very excited for you! I’ve worked at home through the pandemic and am now in some sort of hybrid situation. I recommend a nice work space, plants and a betta fish, lol. I also typically ate lunch out of the house in a park or in a different room.

You may want to try a different type of therapy. I started with cbt. It was full on exposure and that therapist didn’t offer me any coping. I asked her what I could do to help myself between sessions and she said “words of gratitude.” Not so far in, she sent me off to my current T who does...

During my original emdr sessions, parts appeared. Not so much actual parts, maybe? I would just disassociate a bunch, live in different realities. I would speak to my therapist in plural, cope by separating my trauma self from my current self. She would ask me what age my emotions were...

We had been working on hugs. And parts of me like it very much, other parts don’t. Then the pandemic hit and we were online and then she’d be in person for a pocket of time. Back online again (due to building construction). Most of her clients prefer online, so my preferred day turned into...

@Waterbear, I have been with mine for almost 4 years now. I have gotten much better than I used to be, I just wish that the connection feeling didn’t scare me so much. It feels like “build and destroy” at times . She will casually say, “the push and pull.”I just want to be able to trust it...