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It sounds like you have had a really crappy life, I'm sorry :( I know where you have been and I know it isn't easy to get above water when you have so may things dragging you under. When I left my ex I moved 2000 thousand miles away with my three children (6, 4, and 1yr) and hid for a year...

One more thing too. I was single for 2yrs before I felt like I was strong enough to have a healthy relationship with someone. You first need to re-learn who you are and love yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with anyone.

All I can say at this point is I am so, so sorry :( You deserve so much better, and I hope you find it, but you have to leave before he kills you. He may not physically kill you but he will drain you of everything you are until you are nothing but a walking corps and then he will toss you out...

well he's right there. My guy doesn't give to sh&ts about my past (which is far from pretty), but my ex was always throwing is in my face and telling me I was worthless because of my past.

I know. That is what they do. I was so lost my family and even best friend didn't recognize me. And I burned all those bridges too, I had no one when I left, but I found support and I have people now and I know who I am, and I am LOVED by a man who loves me back! I even told him the other day...

He has no emotions or empathy of his own so he needs to leach them off of the people around him. You are a great source for him, don't let him drain your life, please! You deserve better then that!! My ex wan't physically abusive until it was the only way he could get what he needed out of me...

It will not be easy. He is under your skin and he won't let go easy. He will be sweet or sad or whatever he needs to be to get you to feel like you can't leave, but you can. You are stronger then he lets you believe, because you know the crazy thing is, is that the people who are the most...

I can't get into detail about the horrible nightmare I lived but it included him beating me when I was pregnant (killing the baby), giving my small children black eyes because they touched his things, and sexual abuse beyond your worst nightmare. The psychological abuse was so profound that...

There is a wonderful website called psychopathfree.com they are a support sight like this one for people who have been in relationships with psychopaths.

You can't find anything on being in a successful relationship with a psychopath because you can't be in a successful relationship with a psychopath. My relationship lasted 7 years, by the end of it my soul was dead ( that is the only way I can describe it). I have Complex PTSD because of him. He...

You are loosing sight of who you are because he is basically a leach attached to your soul. I'm sorry this is harsh and you probably don't want to hear it, but it is the truth. You can't be yourself and be with him.

Are you asking me that last question @toomuchlovetoletgo?

Because nothing you do will ever be good enough... not because you aren't good enough, you are perfect the way you are, he is a psychopath and they need to leach off of people's negative emotions to survive. You have two choices: 1. You mold to his every want and he will drain you until there is...

No, there is nothing you can do. He has to work it out on his own, he has to choose whether or not he will let it effect the way he sees you when he's awake. You trying to do anything to change his view of you (being kinder or more appealing to him) in real life will more then likely make it...

I dated and marred a psychopath (he was diagnosed after I got away from him), the relationship was a horrible nightmare and ended when he tried to murder me. He is incapable of loving you by the vary nature of psychopathy. Do you really want to be in a loveless relationship?

I agree that it is stress, my current boyfriend has replaced my abusive ex's face in my nightmares, my subconscious loves to tell me that all relationships will end in death (since my psychotic ex tired to kill me). It is hard for me to tell myself they are just dreams even though in reality my...

I haven't been stable enough long enough to know what my baseline is, but I'm sure it's naturally on the high end (morning, noon, and night ;) ). It's more the feeling that "I can't get enough" or "I have to initiate to keep the control and keep him coming back" that I know isn't healthy. Also...

Thanks @Anarchy your comment made me laugh out loud and put a huge smile on my face :D

I don't know if it will work, but my guy texts me every day and so does my best friend. I don't have to respond with anything other then "I'm ok" or something small like that but I then know they are still there, if I don't get a text I start to worry they have given up on me. I can still be...

I did a Google search of "Torture survivors books" there are a bunch of them in the 'shopping' tab. Some are personal stories and some are academic books. I hope that helps :)

@Anarchy no sexual abuse in my child hood but I met my husband at the age of 19 and we married when I was 20 before that I was saving myself for my husband, so he was definitely the one who molded my sexual identity. I was thinking about this all night and I think I came to the conclusion that...

@Justmehere thanks! I didn't think to Google it that way, I'll be doing that now :) I think my is worst when I feel like I'm not in control.

I like to listen to heavy metal (angry) music as loud as I can, lay flat on my back on the floor or in bed with my legs straight and my arms to my side, close my eyes and just listen... if that doesn't work I cut while listening to the music. It's about a 50/50 shot, but it's the only thing I...

Ok, this is kind of personal but I've Google all I can and still come up with nothing helpful so here goes: I was sexually abused by my ex (he was my first and only sexual partner for 7yrs) since I left the relationship 2 1/2 years ago I have had multiple one night stands a long term FWB and...

First off I LOVE THAT MOVIE(s)!! and think that is a great idea! I may have to have my boyfriend watch them now :) one thing my boyfriend and I did after we established that we were going to really make a go of this was to make a rule that: I'm not allowed to break up with him when I am...