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@StrongHeart , Wow...you seem to be describing exactly my own situation. His great communication skills when he is fine, the amazing romance with which it all started, and then the complete change from day to night when he goes through a bad patch...the inability to reach out and then the shame...

Great...he is letting his parents see him today but not me...I feel well and truly rejected now :(

Thank you. Today it is a beautiful sunny day and I wish I could spend it with him. It is his 40th birthday. But he is having timeout this week...and claims that every kind word or act cripples him...anybody can explain why?

I don't know your story and each one is different but you never know how things may develop. I think that, as supporters of PTSD sufferers, we owe it to ourselves and the other person to look after ourselves and keep nourishing our minds and souls, regardless of whether we decide to stay in the...

Thank you so much! This is my opportunity to learn the art of resilience, I guess. You did a lot for me today, I am grateful.

I just heard from him - he is having a very bad moment (I have seen this coming for a few weeks, to be fair) and is going to isolate himself for a week. So I guess it is not the time to try again...but thank you for the support. x

Thank you. My boyfriend puts his foot down with me to reassure me that he cares and that I am attractive, etc. I try to do that with him. As for this gift, I already tried the exact approach that you suggest. I said that it would make me happy, that I had been looking forward to it for a long...

I am glad we can all help each other here. I suspect that what has happened to both 'our' men is that they got a bit scared of their own involvement. Actually, I have had a very honest conversation with my C about this. I asked him why he had changed so much after the initial big declarations of...

Sometimes all I need from my boyfriend is a simple "I'm here for you if you need to talk" sent via text when I am having a down moment, I don't always reply and he never expects a reply, but it gives me that reassurance that I know he is really here for me. I don't know what to suggest really...

Thank you so much, this really helps! I do talk to him about my insecurities. I am VERY insecure...I was sexually abused as a child and that affects my sense of self worth. I explained that to him very early on. I explained last week that I need reassurance because I am inclined to think that...

Lucycat, He has explained it to me, to be fair. He has told me that he needs to hide away and find some balance. He has also explained why he prefers texting rather than answering the phone, which is fine with me. I just hope that long term he will be ready to move in together. I understand...

Hey Katerina, Your words really give me so much hope on a day when I am feeling physically sick with worry about this relationship. So thank you. He hardly ever hides from me for longer than the weekend. Normally he asks to see me every day for tea and for a while after work. So it is...

Hi Solara, I have lived alone for most of my adult life, so I am not in a hurry at all to move in with him in that respect. However, I am 35 and I am hoping to have a family at some point, so it is a case of 'technical' times constraining me. When I met him, I told him what I wanted out of...

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Hi, For what is worth, I can empathise with you. My boyfriend of 5 months has been behaving along the same lines, first pursuing me, declaring that I am the woman of his dreams, asking to be in a committed relationship, then pulling away and finding it hard to express his feelings to me ('I...

Hi @ Lucycat I can see why you would say that maybe something else is going on. I challenged him on that on month 1, when I realised I was kept at a distance. I really don't think he is hiding anything from me, I genuinely don't get that vibe. He is recently out of a relationship (he left her...

Hi Jtini, I really feel for you...I wish I could give you a hug. As someone who is dating a PTSD sufferer (and with problems of her own, which make it harder), I think the hardest thing to endure is the lack of empathy from the sufferer when they cause hurt to those around. I guess human...

Hello, I am grateful I stumbled upon this forum...I am so lost... 5 months ago I started a relationship with a man who shows signs of PTSD, although he has never been diagnosed. As far as I know, he never sought treatment. As other member said, at first he was head over heels in love...