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I think he is sharing with you because he trusts you. He feels safe to share with you. He may be trying to show, not all people use vulnerability as weapons. But he would have to trust you to not use it against him. It’s a good feeling to know that you have people in your life that see you as a...

Welcome to the forum. I’m sorry for your loss. Have you done any therapy? I think that would be your first step to healing. Just made sure the therapist has experience with PTSD and trauma. Sending you a hug :hug: if you expect.

I’m sorry your going through this. You’v had a lot of responses by people who care. From supporters and sufferers and they have given a lot of great advice. I would like to give you some advice also. But I hope it doesn’t come across or taken the wrong way. My words are only meant in a positive...

I agree it sounds more like blame shifting and projection. If your not feeling good about yourself and know your doing the wrong thing. It’s easier to throw it on someone else. Because if you acknowledge your wrong behaviour, you know you need to change it.

Do you engage in the arguments or have you set some boundaries?

@Swift thanks for starting this thread. As supporters it’s hard to see the one we love in pain. It’s hard to understand why our sufferers don’t feel safe to talk to us. We do understand some things can be hard for sufferers and sometimes can’t meet our needs. But the funny thing is, for most of...

Thank you , thank you, thank you. I’m grateful for all the hard work you put into keeping this site safe and running.

Welcome to the forum :)

I write things on our bedroom mirror, so when he reads it, he can see how I see him. I leave it there for a couple days. He had a couple down days so today I wrote. You are beautiful, kind, compassionate and fierce . I love you. In lipstick :)

Maybe she trying to show you , you have a right to feel these emotions. You are safe to feel these emotions. Maybe she showing you her emotions, so you can see. You can feel and experience your negative emotions and still be ok after. Experiencing negative emotions and learning self...

I’m not sure I’m answering your question right but I’ll try. When my kids were little they believed in Santa. But Santa wasn’t just a person, he was a sprint of Christmas. The sprint of caring and giving and he shared that sprint with other. That way if he couldn’t be there, he sprint could. You...

She needs to be in therapy. It up to her, to do the work. You need to be there for you and your kids.

@Sighs I have seen so much growth in this post. You have let yourself feel all hurt, fear and painful emotions you have tried to keep buried. You have let yourself see your inner truth. By doing this you have also learn self compassion. Self compassion is hard to reach, but when you do it is a...

@Sighs, I send you support and I really do hope your week goes nice and smooth.

I’m sorry @Nick777788 but I don’t understand what you mean by indirectly. Are you speaking through a 3rd party?

I have to agree with @Snowflakes. I know it hurts and it’s hard to let go. But I feel if you keep finding ways to talk to her on FB, ect. She may get very angry and get a restraining order. She has asked for space and blocked you from all social media. Which means she really can’t deal with a...

@Sighs, I can understand why your so hurt. Being in a relationship is 50/50. If he wouldn’t get upset if you met an ex for coffee to talk about him. If he would go out to dinner with your ex and his partner and so on, then maybe he doesn’t get. But if he would loss his sh*t if you did any of...

Hi @Nick777788 , welcome to the forum. I would like to ask a couple of questions if that’s ok? How long have you been in a relationship with your gf? How do you know she has a fear of intimacy? Are you asking her to change who she is? Has she talked about breaking up? I just want to make...

When he agreed to having the boy stay at your place, was it when you where out for dinner with his ex and her partner? Did he ask you if it was ok if he stayed?

Welcome to the forum :)