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@Rosan1507 I respect your decision to see where the relationship goes. I hope within that time you work on yourself. Getting yourself in a good place to set boundaries and to know and understand your boundaries. Learning to not take things personally and having a plan in place for yourself...

@BanjoraLost I understand your hurt and confusion. With everything going on in the world today is stressful and now adding this stress to your life must be hard. Are the kids with you now?

Can you be in a relationship with him if he’s still friends with the person he cheated with? If you can’t, you should tell him and see what his reaction is. I do see red flags, he’s still friends with the other person, which starts the relationship off with stress and he’s not really thinking...

@GTR38 do you feel like your getting what you need from this relationship? Are you ok with how much time you spend together?

What I get from what you have written, he does well when he feels people can trust him, when he’s feels he’s has choices. He seems to feel in control when he has responds abilities, which to me would be having some kind of control. Building this kind of a relationship with his teacher would...

I think your on the right path with talking to the teachers. Is he in a regular class? You mentioned he does well in another class his in. What’s the difference between the two?

@Trist67 just wondering how your doing?

Hi @FullSpeedMrSulu, I think you did a great job sharing your story. There is a lot of support here and I do hope you stay. I’m a supporter and I want you to know, there is someone out there for you, you just haven’t meet her yet. I know it’s very hard not to take it personally. It’s more...

I agree with @Sweetpea76, just see what happens with time. Just continue on like you were before, sending jokes.

@Trist67 I just want to send you a :hug: I do hope you get a lawyer. You have the proof that your not the reason your husband has PTSD. You have poof of all the people you have asked for help and you also have poof from your sons school. You have all that proof to show CPS your husband is...

@Muted is it possible to find a therapist to help both you and your husband? To help you both understand and work through this time in your relationship together.

It’s completely understandable that you would struggle with the sense of loyalty. She has been your therapist for a long time and she has helped and supported you through your recovery journey. Her past support doesn’t change, but her present support does. A line was crossed that changes the...

I’m just wondering if your struggling with your sense of loyalty towards her, because of how she has helped you in the past?

I can understand your confusion and mixed feelings. You felt a real connection with your therapist and she must of felt the same connection with you. But that is where the problem lies, if she had any other feelings, other then professional SHE should of ended any kind of relationship...

Is your husband in therapy?

Just because he has PTSD, doesn’t mean he gets to behave badly. He is still responsible for his behaviour. I think you have every right to check in with his teacher. Your his mother and maybe his teacher can add some support for your son. It’s ok to keep things between you and the teacher.

It is a struggle, but we do understand what your going through and how painful it can be. Do you have anyone who can check in on your son?

Sounds like he symptomatic, but he’s still responsible for his behaviour. You need to set your own boundaries and if you feel your son is in harms way. Let your husband get mad if you come home to be with your son. Your son comes before him. Also, welcome to the forum and just know your not...

Sorry you and your suffer are going through a hard time. I’m happy to hear he’s starting therapy this week. Just know it normally gets worst before it gets better. I feel one of the hardest part for a supporter is realizing we have to step back and understand we can’t control, what we have no...

You do have a lot going on. I know it’s hard to just sit and watch. You can only control you and your actions. This^^^ is his feelings and until he goes to therapy and works them out, nothing you say or do will change them. No matter how much we love someone, we can’t make them better...

Can you give a little bit of more info on how he self’s destructs ? I know it’s hard and we all want to help and fix the ones we love. He has to be the one who wants to fix himself. He needs to take the steps to work on his PTSD. Do you know why he hasn’t done therapy? You can’t pull him...

Did you take this trip to see your friend?

She should at least understand you setting your own boundaries.

You do realize she can’t self-diagnosis herself? She’s a therapist, do you truly believe she doesn’t see any of her behaviour as abusive?

I truly hope your hearing everything @Sweetpea76 is saying. When I first came here I followed her advice and my relationship got so much better.