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@Sweetpea76 laid it out very well, the only thing I could add is. You never asked for abuse either. Your wife needs more therapy then EMDR once a month or so and you setting boundaries helps everyone. you have a daughter now, it’s not just you anymore. Your wife is responsible for her own...

Yep!! Wish there was a love it button.

This ^^ shows her, you don’t trust her. For some people, that would be an attack on their integrity. Even if it was your issue, you made it about her. Your first big argument was an attack on who she is as a person. If she is someone who lives strongly by her morals, this is a big blow...

Wondering the same?

I can understand your feelings of not wanting to be alone. I hope you don’t mind me asking, on a scale from 1 to 10, ( 10 feeling completely alone everyday). What would you rate the feeling of being lonely is? If I treated my husband the same way as you treat your wife, would you be telling...

How do you feel about her? Are you trying to stay in the relationship because you love the person she is? Are you staying in the relationship in hope she’ll become the person you wish she would be? Or are you staying in the relationship out of fear of being alone?

When they say,” you look great! Do you feel comfortable saying,” thanks, sometimes the inside of a book doesn’t match the cover and then just smile?

Hi @abbynormal1929 , I’ve read some of your other post so I hope I’m up to date. I’m a supporter and hope I’m not over stepping. I’ve read some of your story and it breaks my heart to see you living in an emotionally, mentally abusive relationship. Your wife is sucking your energy, she’s...

Sorry to hear your going through a hard time. You say your ok with your wife having a girlfriend, but also stating your needs aren’t being meet. A relationship is 50/50 and if your needs aren’t being meet there is something wrong in the relationship. Maybe it’s time to take a step back and...

You seem to be good with giving her space and I know it’s hard. Take this time to focus on yourself. A lot of us supporters go to counselling ourselves as part of our self care. Learning to set boundaries and having someone support us with our feelings and needs. Relationship are hard to...

It sounds like she is isolating, which a lot of sufferers do. The sooner she gets into therapy the better. Your doing good with giving her, her space. I know it’s hard and to be honest scary. Has she reached out to you through text or is it you that does?

Does your girlfriend have PTSD? Or just depression? Has she ever been in therapy?

I’m sorry you and your son are going through this. I understand how hard it is trying to figure out what’s best. Sounds like he’s in the beginning of his therapy and it always get bad before it can get better. The person that needs to come first in all this is your son. Verbal and emotional...

You have the strength, you came here for support and you got it. You are worthy of the help and support you need, we all believe in you. You have more strength than you know, you can make that call.

Keep up with your breathing and yoga, it’s great self care. You’ve been in a manipulative relationship and the waves are normal. It’s understandable to feel scared, keep telling yourself, you were ok before the relationship and you’ll be just fine without it. Keep your focus on yourself...

No your not over thinking. I agree with everyone above. You stated your daughter had a co-sleeping history with her birth mom , which I’m sure was hard to break. It would be a step back for her and could be confusing for her also. You made the right choice.

Are you seeing a therapist for your PTSD? If you feel you may of subconsciously push him away then seeing a therapist would be your first step.

You mentioned wanting some ideas to help with your marriage. You can start a thread in the supporters section, if your comfortable sharing what your going through.

Hi Danu1977, welcome to the forum. We are all here to help support you. Hope you’ve taken sometime to read around the forum and please ask questions.

It’s ok to feel angry, you have a lot on your shoulders right now and he’s not doing anything to help himself. It can be frustrating to watch someone not taking the steps they need to get the help to move forward. Try not to be hard on yourself. The only person you have control over is you...

I’m a little confused in the meaning behind this statement. Are you saying we shouldn’t be sharing our experiences and what has worked for us as supporters?

I believe feeling can. I agree with Sweetpea and it will take work on both sides.

That is do scary, please keep yourself safe.

Stay safe.

It was disrespectful for her to put you on speaker phone and I can understand being upset about that. You said when she has a minute to call you. Could it be that she already had plans for the day and she would call you when she could sit down and have a conversation with you. It seems you...