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Thanks @Lanes I know her well enough to know this was out of character for her, that said maybe her not being so cruel was out character(?). Who knows. I have a 5 year old daughter that she was going to meet later this summer for the first time. I'm actually sort of glad she did this in a way...

Ugh... I feel for you! I'm going through the same thing. My girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago. Said some really hurtful things. Second time she has left, but this was more traumatic. Said she was "never in the relationship emotionally," that she's "been trying to understanding...

So is there anything I can do? I wrote her a letter the last time, but she had already reached out before she received it. The letter seemed to really resonate with her. I'm lost without her. She was my heart and soul. Her words cut so deep though. "I no longer want to participate in this...

@EveHarrington I meant "well" in terms of reconciliation. So she's gone then in my situation. Yes? She had an episode tried to work it out, but was never in it after the first time anyway. Is that what you're saying? I'm just trying to work it out in my head so I can move on myself. If I'm...

@EveHarrington Could you elaborate? This whole exchange does? Do these ever end well? I know she came back from the last time fairly quickly, but she wasn't herself and was saying that herself prior to that wasn't the real her(?). Can this all be numbness? Or fear?

@Junebug @Zanshin not a peep from her since those awful things she said Tuesday. It feel like I'm going crazy. Constantly checking my phone hoping it's her.

@Zanshin I took your suggestion and I decided to send her an email. Just said "I want you to know - I am worried about you and I'm here for you if you ever need me." I've done all I can. If she comes back that's great. I know I've done everything I could to be understanding, show her I still...

@Junebug - you mean like she feels nothing right now? Has no ability to? Can't that last a long time? Do they ever come back from it and realize what had happened? I'm sorry... I am having a hard time this afternoon and mind is racing.

@Zanshin Yes. We had that deal too after she bailed the first time. I saw that on here and that's where I got it from. I know promises like that can be thrown by the wayside when triggered though. I don't think she would be too responsive to any communication right now. She's gone. I need to...

@Zanshin so when it's this definite like that, this adamant. Does a sufferer come to her/his senses and realize that it was just a defense mechanism? or in your experience is what's done done?

I know pushed her a bit to get the "i haven't had emotions in this" I was just trying to reassure her I was still here for her and not going anywhere and that I love her.

So my girlfriend, well ex has PTSD - I first wrote about it in the link here: https://www.myptsd.com/threads/she-left-me-due-to-ptsd.60773/ By way of background she was physically abused by her stepfather and father and was in an office in the military. To summarize we started fast and then...

So an update. She came back and we were slowly trying to get right and trying to mesh and iron out our issues over the last six weeks. All of a sudden yesterday she stops talking to me. No response to calls or texts. Then she sends me a text -- a text! -- saying "we just aren't compatible...

So she came back today, but still seems a bit out of it. We discussed it a bit, but she seemed uncomfortable with it. Trying to act like nothing happened, but she still not quite herself. Gonna try to keep my distance and play it cool for bit still. Still feel like she might bolt again... Thoughts?

Ugh! 24 hours have passed since she reached out to me. I want to be patient, but I really want to reach out to her. But have to sit and wait for her to contact me again. Right? I just feel like I wasn't supportive enough in my message back to her.

You're right @ladee I didn't mean to come off like I wasn't getting the books. I will. I guess my defenses are still up. I am just afraid to have the the mindset that she's back only to have her break my heart again.

Thanks @Sweetpea76 - the links were very helpful. I will look into the books. I haven't heard from her again, so I feel like I'm not out of the woods yet. I guess I'm cautiously optimistic (?). I passively as possible told her I am here and I'm not leaving her side. Hopefully, this a start to...

Well she got back to me today. Sent me three text messages: "Hi love, I'm sorry" " Just thought I'd send you a text, but I'm still with the social worker." "My mind is everywhere." To which I replied: "I understand. I sent you a letter. Take your time. I'm not going anywhere." She said...

@Casey_03 Thanks for that. I know that's a possibility. Maybe I'm still just in denial, but she said she never moves this fast with anyone. But you could be right. Maybe it's a new pattern to deal with the stress. Maybe she lied to me. I don't know. She has destroyed and my faith in...

Oh I know it was fast. I didn't initiate the pace, she did. I'm usually quite cautious. I don't know what else to say other than it felt as though we "clicked." Everything was perfect, but I had in the back of mind it was too good to be true. I just don't get it. Just over a week ago she said...

Thanks @Casey_03 I just want her to know I'm not going anywhere. I fear I pushed too hard and she's gone for good. She has my heart and I ruined it because I was so scared of losing her.

Hi - So I found this forum searching for support. My girlfriend (31)and I (34) have been dating for three months. It moved very fast, but we were perfect - soulmates. I never had opened up to someone like this before and she has not either. She was physically abused by her father and...