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Its 4am and I should be asleep so if that seems badly written expressed or edited and doesn't make sense I apologise sleep deprivation and insomnia don't bring out my best ( you are right) if you'd like the name or books or audio on this topic please let me know

Ahh I can't edit that now I didn't mean ( as it sounds you have NPD but personally I wondered if it was me who had borderline or NPD it wasn't according to my therapist ) but as your little " person" is being pulled this know if she is in any way as toxic as my mum ( and goodness knows she's...

Your mum sounds like she has some traits if NPD and goodness knows I almost drove myself crazy because I was looking from every angle for at least five years to try and give my mum any reason not to have traits of NPD in the end my inability to shut up and my excellent ability to self sabotage...

Yes totally " you're just a child" as a response to how you feel implies in the context of abusive , thoughtless and or just plain emotionally illiterate , emotionally selfish parents at least " so you don't matter" or at the very least ," you don't really understand or can't feel your...

Thanks wishful

Thanks wishful thinking yes I'm sure an " I'm sorry " isn't very meaningful it it happens over and over again. ..I have to say during my worst period of several years ( for me SSRIs were helpful only in numbing me to the pain and made me lethargic) I often apologised and even said I'd change ( I...

Brilliant question I don't know but I've wondered this myself thank you

I agree and appreciate this point has merit BUT it doesn't lesser the impact and I think , with the education and understanding we have had in the last twenty or thirty years , at least in the developed world , if one is unintentionally abusive they would actually acknowledge it after the fact...

I'm so sorry this happened to you but I think part of the insidious nature of abuse IS THE GREY AND WHITE PARTS. Especially in childhood and adolescents , I believe its called trauma bonding when the the abuser is alternatively nice, normal and abusive. You as the victim want the other person to...

May I suggest you ask the therapist the question "Isnt abuse abuse ? How do you think it is assisting me and helping me move forward discussing black and white thinking " IF her answer isn't good enough perhaps ask your self the following ... " Is the therapist or therapy type or both really...