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Is that what I want? Honestly, I really care for this woman. I can't explain it. And the feelings were there before all of this happened, so it's not a "rescue or pity party feeling". I didn't respect her boundaries when she told me to just leave her be. Like I said, abandonment fear kicked in...

Agreed. If I pushed it too hard, so be it. If she comes around, my heart will be happy. Either way. I have to take in that happiness is my choice, and that I have the ability to connect with someone

She's in her late 20's now. She has attended therapy sessions. She kept justifying her decision to walk away by saying "my physicians, my family, and my friends all said I can't be in a relationship." I never got to ask the question but I wanted to ask "what is it that YOU want." And I do...

Thanks for further explanation; and I apologize for the defensive post. I should have rephrased. I'm just curious about the processing of these emotions. She knows she hurt me. And she even stated it was really hurting her to tell me to go away. She expressed guilt over the fact that she's...

Thank you for that. I have two yellow Labrador retrievers who greatly ease my stress. However, a stressful time in my family life coupled with a stressful time with this experience makes me demoralized. I don't care about understanding. I care about how people treat each other. I want to be...

So you're of the opinion that self-serving a need for escape by hurting someone else is just an "oh well, didn't mean much to me" moment? That's an excuse. And I find it to be an immature one. At the end of the day, we're all adults. If you're not ready for a relationship, you don't do the exact...

I know it's somewhat of a moot point.. But can you speak to how someone with PTSD views their (ex) partner after something like this happens? Am I a villain to be ridiculed to pacify her decision? Am I someone who was wonderful to her who she ultimately felt undeserving of? Here comes the...

I don't know. The things she wanted me to change weren't personality traits. We got along like peas and carrots. I made her laugh and laugh and laugh. She made me feel cool, like I had a friend that I had been looking for. I had something to look forward to. I enjoyed being a good guy to a good...

That's the thing that bothers me the most. She taught me how to be a better person. Her sensitivity made me aware of the things I can be better about. I'm in a professional environment where short hair is more acceptable. I shouldn't have smoked. Little lies hurt. Always be kind. It's like she...

I really appreciate it.. It's a nice place to be. There is no possible way I could explain this experience to anyone that I know personally without them looking at me funny. More importantly, the advice I get here from those with first hand experience is really helping me get back to the normal...

If I could only get my head and heart working in conjunction, I might actually be dangerous :). I believe this is the right answer, too. As Rafiki says, "It's in the past". I have another question, if you'd be so kind, regarding the time we spent together. I had long hair, which she demanded I...

Wow... You're incredibly spot on and in touch with these types of situations... It's uncanny... She kept mentioning me being the "bad boy" and it was almost like she was living something out in a fantasy world (btw, aside from tattoos I resemble nothing of the sort. I'm educated, good natured...

Haha slow it down is right... The weird thing was that she kept saying "good things take time" but then would completely just surrender to that ideal and move at light speed... I'm wrestling with the idea that this might be my fault for acquiescing... As if I had taken the initiative and slowed...

I just thought I had found someone that could be my person. I never judged her for any of her shortcomings. It's not in my nature. But when the time came, there was no short of attacking my character and my flaws. It hurt. And even then I didn't need to bite my tongue.. Because I had nothing...

Who does she resent? Herself? She found me and pulled me into her world. Pushed for me spending time with her and her family, and into a relationship. I wouldn't be confused if I pushed this all on her... I was just minding my own business when she came into my life and turned it upside down.

Thanks for the heads up. I know it's not healthy. Just dealing with abandonment issues that had been repressed and then boom; here comes something at a million miles an hour that just came in and wrecked me. Time to keep calm and carry on, I guess.

Yeah. I feel like I've lived a thousand lifetimes in thirty days. She sought me out, filled my head with promises, acted it out for a while, and then just woke up one day and told me to save myself from her because she's broken. I don't understand her inviting me into her life that intimately...

Thanks Sheila. Everything is a tad over dramatic in her world, but I do want to heed the warning. I'm just confused to no end how in less than 24 hours everything can just be dashed to pieces. As far as the threat, I didn't come by unannounced.... Just sent text messages.. All supportive and...

Greetings everyone. It's been a long few days living inside of my own head. I'll provide a little background and then listen to any and all advice with an open mind and open heart. I'm a 26 year old male. I'm genuinely a happy, life of the party, sympathetic person. I was involved in a long...