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Hello FindingMyself88, so sorry to hear you're having a hard time. I just started study at a small campus too. I was so petrified on the first few days and in the lead up to orientation. Each day is one more towards the goal. I will never ever go to a hospital for psych help ever again, so...

Hi Change, what a great accomplishment and how inspiring to me. I just got a medical clearance to study in the health profession today as the first step back to the work I love. I feel like I won lotto!

Hi Bill, do you feel like telling me what is making you angry? I understand if you don't, just asking.:shy:

Hi and welcome, I'm pretty new here too. Just as the other members above have said, I don't think you will find people here will need you to have a life threatening event in order to find support and the kind of reflection you seek. Each person experiences traumatic events in totally different...

Joeylittle, that last paragraph really does make sense, when you talk about the power imbalance. It's the thing I get stuck with in therapy. I go into it with an inherent power imbalance that I'm very comfortable with. I need help and am looking for help of someone wiser and 'older'. Then...

Interesting article, I wonder how said cortisol affects people on a long term basis such as in prolonged trauma.

Hi Kage, once again, you are a wonderful man. I'm currently going through the same thing as your partner. I'm 5 years into this relationship and didn't have a guy like you, nor did I realize at the beginning that I was going to have those reactions because I had stayed single for 12 years...

That was a brilliant presentation, I've never heard of Dan Siegel before. It made me wonder a few things too. Like when a child is neglected or abused in early development, how is the child's brain regulation impacted, where the child did not only learn to delay gratification but learned not to...

Thinking of you :)

Thankyou Pixi23, I'm so glad that you reached out, I hope you keep letting us know how you are going.:D

Ok, thanks Whitebird, I understand. Maybe you could write some questions for him too, like asking him what he thinks is the reason you are feeling so shut down or how he sees your progress. Maybe whether he has ever experienced what you are experiencing with another client and how he plans to...

Hi Pixi23, at my worst times of being trapped, either in a psych ward or in a relationship I coped by having a plan. When I don't have a plan, I just get stuck in the endless pain with no way out. That lead to suicidal ideation, which is not the best plan. I look back on those times I felt...

Oh Gwhizz, so sorry to hear you are feeling so overwhelmed. I'm so glad that you are still here and had the courage to tell us too. I appreciate all your insights and honesty. You have helped me feel validated and welcome here, which I really needed. Thankyou for that. Rest and take everything...

Yes Shimmerz, if I feel anxious I can get a tickle in my throat that feels like their is fluff in there that makes me cough, then I start coughing so hard that I dry wreech. I'm so sorry to hear that you and your children went through what you described. No more to elaborate on for both our...

You did a great thing and yes, reward yourself. Cross each new bridge as you come to it with the same courage and breathe and believe, as your name say. Every time I see your name on here, it reminds me to do the same. :D

Hi Kage, welcome and know that not only are you doing a wonderful thing for your relationship and your partner's healing, you are helping other survivors of rape related trauma to know that there are good, safe, caring, patient men, who talk the talk and walk the walk. Such a rare thing to find...

Yes Justmehere, I have experienced what you are experiencing having pressured speech. I've seen it in others who have other types of diagnostic labels, as you describe too. Having said that, I do firmly believe that just because someone displays a behaviour that carries a label as a diagnostic...

Hi Whitebird, I often make a mental note to myself during the time between sessions to bring something up in therapy, then completely forget about it by the time I see my T again. I can't imagine both of us not having anything to say, with my therapist. Are you saying that there were...

Hi Hope4Now, you have my full compassion. Your Mother is very fortunate to have such a kind, caring, forgiving, emotionally intelligent daughter and when you see her, hold that knowing in your heart. ((((Hugs))))

FridayJones, that post was so enlightening and entertaining all the same! It reads like a day in my life! So true that they 'self police', that's a great term for it and food is the currency of love, I say that often. It was so strange and unsettling for me to join my inlaws. I would get a phone...

Hello J, I too have stood in the shadow of cherished daughters. My best friend had a Dad like that. It was knowing her that started me realizing in detail, just how dysfunctional my upbringing really was. I've met so many men that love, cherish and protect their daughters, with their lives if...

That would be great Suzetig, thankyou. I'm so afraid of letting this define me. In two days I have to go to my general practitioner, act really together, not show any tremors or weakness, explain my goals, demonstrate insight then ask him to sign a form to say I'm mentally fit to work in the...

Me too Suzetig, it's a huge investment that I've finally come to accept, I have to make. That's exactly what I've always done, symptom management. I go to therapy in a crisis and stop when the crisis is over. I can't keep living in the default mode of no debilitating symptoms. The other thing...

I really appreciate this thread too. It is making me contemplate why I have always disengaged from therapy in the past. I think that the early stages of therapy are about building trust and safety. Then we start building a narrative that involves using our intellect to dissect experiences and...

I agree ghotiff and scout86, that it is a really important skill to have and develop. Please don't interpret what I'm thinking as me wanting to be 'right' either but since you have pointed that out, it has made me ponder the dynamics of comfort v's empathy, when someone asks for either. A...