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I originally posted this on another website, before I found this one, but I thought you'd like it here. Imagine this scenario: Scene: I am out camping with friends. As I sit down by the lakeside, it so happens there is a rattlesnake under me. I call for help. The snake is removed and safely...

That's a pet peeve of mine. People using "I'm just kidding," and "You're too sensitive," and "You need to grow a sense of humor," as code-speak for, "I reserve the right to make any mean, abusive remark I want to make, at any time, with no consequences."

He says it's not enough notice to take the day off and make the appointment with me. I was thinking maybe we could discuss it with our pastor or a deacon instead, then, but he wanted me to just go ahead and tell him what I had to say. The result is that he has agreed, when I'm bothered, to say...

Some. Current thinking, according to my own psychologist, is that a sense of humor rules it out, but I know people with an autistic family member who would disagree. The thing is, sense of humor can be learned. So can social skills. It's just harder for some people than others. Hubby is...

I'm bringing this back up again because of an ongoing issue with my husband. He has PTSD also, plus social anxiety, and I wouldn't be surprised if he ends up diagnosed with Avoidant Personality as well. He himself suspects he is on the autism spectrum. He simply is incapable of resolving a...

I'm constantly stuck in a no-win situation. If I say what I'm feeling, I'm being demanding. Say it twice, and I'm a nagging old shrew. If I keep my mouth shut, I'm trying to punish others with the silent treatment. Start my sentences with "I," and I'm being self-centered. Start my sentences...

I had to heal quite a bit myself, before I could help someone else. To do that, I had to get the hell away from my childhood family once and for all. They kept trying to hoover me back in. I *knew* the lifestyle was crazy, but since I was the odd one out, the only one complaining, it was easy to...

Thanks for your responses. They are helpful. And thank you for the reassurance I'm being heard. That is a big battle of mine sometimes. When my nephew first moved in with us, as I say, he was terrified. He'd dealt with my mother so much, he expected long lectures and tirades and yelling and...

You know you have PTSD when someone walks into the room and says hello, then has to peel you off the ceiling.

I'm talking about either our own emotions, or that of another person in the family. It's hard to adjust to healthy thinking and healthy situations. When things have always been crazy, you come to expect things to be crazy. "Normal" throws you for a loop. Last night as I was settling into bed...

Oh goodness. Here an ostrich, there an ostrich, everywhere an ostrich, ostrich, Old McDonald had a funny farm. It's easier to convince themselves I'm crazy and have a bad memory than to admit they either abused me or let me be abused on their watch.

When you constantly find yourself checking with other people to make sure they heard it that way too, so you know you're not being gaslighted.

Hi. I'm a middle-aged married woman with two adult children. I come from a background of severe child abuse and neglect. So does my husband, who also has PTSD, but he copes with his symptoms a lot better than I do. At least he can earn a living. I am unable to do so. My daughter and nephew...

Hi. Brand new here. I just wanted to say thank you so much for starting this thread. It's an excellent question. Posting to subscribe.