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@Sweetpea76 Thanks! @Anarchy I totally agree with you. I believe no contact has allowed me to view the whole situation out of the fog, so to speak. I have no intention of ever talking to her again, but all the while I'm also still preparing the chance she might try to contact me again (when her...

Hey all. I just thought after the news I found out about my ex it was time to update my situation. I have been no contact with her since our incident which caused me to move out and never look back. I still talk to her foster brother from time to time and he told me her felonious assault case...

@Anarchy Thanks for the words of encouragement. I may have porous interpersonal boundaries and she definitely exploited them. She also didn't have many boundaries because during arguments if I didn't agree with her, she would feel we didn't need to be together because of a simple disagreement...

So here I am a week later and I've had so many ups and downs it's driving me insane. I plan to call and see if I can get some therapy to help me cope with this emotionally abusive breakup, much to the advice of you all. At times, I get this heavy overwhelming body sensation no matter what I'm...

@Sweetpea76 Thank you for the advice. I plan to stay away from her. Fortunately, I was able to get a hold of the landlord, who has been sick lately. Unfortunately he told me I can't get out of the lease unless I can get her to agree to sign a new lease, but there's two problems with that: the...

Unfortunately this situation keeps getting worse and worse and I feel like I’m only writing this as a cry for help because even though I’m no longer with this woman anymore I empathize with her despite how much she must hate me right now. That night (a little over a week ago) she came home...

@Anarchy Well it turns out the guy is married, but not legally married. That means he's agreed to be married to his wife, but they haven't obtained a marriage license yet. I agree. It's difficult not to think about her when I'm sitting in our living room alone wondering where she is. As time...

Hey all, here's an update of what's transpired since then and it seems like it's reached an unfortunate end. Past couple months have been a mix of good and bad. For the record, she is a legal marijuana caregiver and patient, so the work she does down in the basement is cultivation. Her, me...

So I decided to move back in at the end of the month to give it one last shot. By this time, she had started talking to her mother and brother again as well as getting a part-time job, which has lifted her spirits a great deal. Through that, I started to feel better and hope started to creep in...

@Chava I noticed she's getting desperate as well, and that's because I've moved out and it's the end of the month, so if I'm not back there in a few days, the rent doesn't get paid and she's SOL if I'm not there to support her. I do find it interesting she's still trying to manipulate me even...

@Chava Today, I've reached out to a therapist whom is well versed in PTSD, BPD and DBT skills. Hopefully everything will check out and she can get the therapy she needs to get better. The person she used to be was so addicting to be around. Sadly, she has become someone much different and says...

UPDATE: Okay, last night we drove to see her therapist. I sat in as a guest to see if something can be done about this relationship. To say the least, she was quite angry with me for standing my ground and telling her I have my needs as well, and we both need to work on giving each other what...

@Sweetpea76 Thank you very much for that realization. I had no idea there was such a thing as a stressor. She does see a therapist, but only once a month now due to her moving to the city we live in now. She used to go a few times a week before she moved to my city. @joeylittle She see's a...

Hi, I'm new here and have been lurking these forums for valuable information since my girlfriend told me she suffered from PTSD. I've gone from curiosity to a desperate need for information in only a couple months. I met my girlfriend in February of 2015 on a whim as me and my brother were...