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Yes, this makes sense to me. I understand completely. Thank you.

I can see how you never get to the underlying issue, so I know it's not the answer in the long run, but do you at least feel justified? I would love to just be able to assert myself and feel justified afterwards. Instead I end up feeling like I was a bully or that I overreacted. Sometimes, even...

Great suggestion. Unfortunately I've had a lot of trouble setting boundaries and teaching her to take responsibility. And I can't seem to figure out how to get back on track. It should be easy, right? Just start now, right? But it never seems to work. A big part of it is that I notice mistakes...

I politely pointed out that your information was incorrect. Instead of debating it maturely, or heavens forbid, admitting you were wrong, you insulted me numerous times. Now you act like you're taking the high road and have the hubris to suggest that I was "attacking" you. Sounds like accusing...

Oh, they threatened you, so that makes it correct? LOL. Lawyers threaten the other side in order to get them to cave. That's what they do. Welcome to the real world. You spout misinformation, and then when challenged you whine and moan on several posts, insulting me and accusing me of splitting...

I have not tried it, but now I will definitely look into it. Thank you.

It's not about having the last word. It's about not wanting someone to base a decision on wrong info. You gave the OP a lot of info and advice. The part about the possibility of being on the hook for the attorney fees didn't seem correct. It seemed contrary to everything I had come to know...

We can't post links here, but you can google whether the losers have to pay. You'll see that it doesn't happen in personal injury. In fact, when it is alluded to it is specifically said that the plaintiff's lawyer can be held responsible for bringing a frivolous lawsuit, not the plaintiff...

This is not accurate. You would never have to pay the other side's lawyers' fees in a medical malpractice case, unless your claim was an entire fabrication. There are very specific laws about when the losers have to pay the other side's lawyers' fees.

Edit: I see you've already come to the same conclusion about what kind of answers you'd get, so I'm deleting this post

We're all looking for a cure. It's hard to know what's worth it and what isn't. It's part of our stupid affliction. I think there are true mediums who can help, but there are a lot more frauds who are looking to prey on the vulnerable. Chances are you'll be ripped off.

It's as if you're getting abused all over again. It's one thing for a parent to cause the condition in the first place, but then most of them will compound it by denying it or making you feel it's your fault or that you're being overly dramatic. You'll find no comfort nor peace of mind from your...

I know exactly what you're talking about. I can feel that when I read about others volunteering and doing so much outside themselves, but for some reason I can't really get there with me. I think a big part of my problem is that I am so inhibited by being a father. I was a lot more functional...

I appreciate the suspicion that it's not laziness. Little affirmations like that can help a lot. But I disagree about collecting disability not hurting anybody. There are people digging ditches and breaking their backs to earn roughly what I earn. I can't help but feel that's unfair. Some of...

Yup, that's me. I need so much time to recharge and refocus. I have no idea how people get so much done each day. Then I remind myself that my natural inclination is to gravitate to the couch. Then I struggle with whether that's my fault or not, or even if I decide it's not my fault, then what...

Oh my God that's so relatable. My thinking is even more warped when it comes to confrontation and power exchange. If I assert myself, I feel like a bully and feel sorry for the other party. If I don't assert myself, I feel like a coward and failure. And it's not only in normal confrontation...

Out of blue I'll often realize that I've been hammering myself, that I've just been treating myself like garbage for days or even weeks, and then I'll feel sorry for myself and have compassion for myself. But it dissolves within a day. It's as if I'm just not allowed to have healthy feelings...

Thank you for the replies. Not only do I hear you having the same problems, but I've been reminded of some other feelings I have. JEK, talking about blaming oneself and feeling like you're always wrong. I always come back to feeling that way. Even after I've convinced myself I'm right...

Missy, no one is calling you dumb. Maybe the pictures meant something; maybe they didn't. Maybe one of your PTSD symptoms is posting whatever comes to mind to get some feedback when you're feeling lonely or bleh. So what? No one is judging. Be happy!

Does anyone else struggle with knowing what's your fault and what isn't in your current lives? I don't mean what happened in our childhood. I know many people can't convince themselves that their childhood wasn't their fault. But I'm talking about knowing it wasn't your fault but being unable to...

I'm sorry if my post was construed as judgmental. That is a misinterpretation. I pointed out that sexual arousal was a whole different story from just wanting friends, but I was not judging that sexual arousal. Sexual arousal could be natural and pure or it could stem from a bad place, but...

If you knew they would like them, then to me that's totally normal. But I think it's something to explore if you could fill in some of those blanks and get back there in your mind.

It's not "normal" as in most girls don't do it. But just how odd it really was would depend on your motivation. Being lonely and using your artistic skills as a way to get friends seems rather harmless and innocent, even if the pictures were of naked women. On the other hand, if there was sexual...

I don't think you're overreacting. I can understand how you'd feel (even though I'm male). It sounds like you really want to do the right thing, and although you know it's right, other people's possible views makes you feel conspicuous. I don't have any real advice, other than to give you a pat...

It was wrong on many levels, and I believe it was a sexual act. She was definitely getting some level of sexual gratification from that. I remember my 2 year old daughter coming into my bed in the morning and jumping on me when I'd have a morning erection. Even though there was a blanket and a...