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I'm sorry you're going through this also. I'm in day 4 now and still no word. I guess I'm lucky in the sense that I can usually tell when my girlfriend is leading up to a push as she starts verbalising her doubts with us (always the same things she says) in a way where I think, "Are you trying...

Hi meggles, I can kind of relate to your situation in I often wonder what I should do, how do I handle a push and what to say. I've asked the same question here only about a week ago. But, really, there is no proper way. I'm currently going through a push that was the biggest push I've been...

Thank you, Simply Simon :) I was really struggling with a lot more than I realised until I found this forum. I mean, I'm still struggling, but I have a far better understanding now since spending the many hours reading in here. Although not every story is the same as mine, reading about the...

Yeah, that is true. In that aspect I am really glad I am long distance. At this point of time, getting all the pushes in person would be too much. I've been through 2 of them in person back before I really understood anything and was confusing and frustrating. I don't know if I'd still be here...

That's exactly what I started thinking of doing a day or two before this last big push. Just stepping back and letting her come to me instead of it being me going to her with the intimacy/next meet issue. I figured that out a bit too late though as she pushed not long after. Long distance makes...

I'm going into day 4 of the initial push and day 2 since we last spoke. Part of me is telling myself that she won't return to me, but the other part tells me she will. The things she said to me 2 days ago were so nasty that she's probably thinking "How could I ever return after saying that and...

Yeah, it can be extremely hard to just remain calm and cool and not take things personally. I'm naturally a slow person to anger, so I guess that's gone in my favour in this. There is only so much one can take though and I found it's finding that "in-between" line where you need to not take...

Thank you sangamo. I'm sorry you're also going through this. It definitely is a hard place to be put in by someone you love, but I always think she's in a harder place than I am. If I had not found this forum, I would still be feeling trapped in a confusing cycle. This place has saved a lot of...

It's so uncanny that you and I are kind of living with the same uncertainty at the same time. I can absolutely 100% relate to everything both you and Glara have said. When I first posted, the push wasn't that bad, but it was amplified to a new level yesterday (as you've read in my thread). Now...

Yeah, she's definitely one that is quick to anger. It's really hard to judge just what is really going on when she does this because, looking at the last few things she said to me, she says, "You are a good person. I do like you and like talking with you. Meeting you was so hard. I knew meeting...

Thank you also, Junebug. Sorry, I can't tag anyone because I'm using my phone :P You are right. That's what shocked me about the whole thing. She went on the cruelty spree and then said, "See, I'm too much of a b1tch." If she does decide to pull me back in (which she kind of already started at...

Thanks Thunderstorm. I am sorry for what you're going through also (I have read your thread) and I hope things work out for the best with you also. The way that I see it is that there is an extremely fine line between PTSD and just being an a$$ for the sake of being an a$$... She was being an...

Thank you, Junebug :) The circle analogy was the only thing I could use to describe how I see the whole situation as a supporter to someone who doesn't understand. I'm glad it does make sense and I wasn't seeing it too wrong. People really don't get why you choose to stick by your sufferer and...

Also, just to quickly add, I think backing off about suggesting meeting up again is the best thing to do. I've tried suggesting every work-around option besides randomly turning up unannounced. She can't handle feeling like she needs to "entertain" someone until later in the evenings when she's...

Thank you both :) Early on when I still didn't understand the push/pull I really felt used. I couldn't understand why she reached out to me, initiated affection and sex while telling me, "I'm surprised I've let you in to my little bubble because I don't let people in", but the moment I was...

New member here and, firstly, I would like to thank every single one of you. I've been "dating" a PTSD sufferer for the past 6 months. I've never been so close to someone that suffers from it before, so it's been full of the ups and downs that all of you know so well. I've spent hours scouring...