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That's great that you've been feeling good recently! Sounds like things are looking up for you. Good luck with the new school year :)

This does sound a bit odd. I used to have a therapist that was like this. We spent one or two sessions talking about EMDR and then just went for it. We did practice going to a safe space to calm down if I got too overwhelmed. Once. We didn't have a system to calm down after every session or to...

I think you're right that I need to stop wasting energy trying to change them and make boundaries based on what we have now. At this point, things aren't going to change much unless they decide to be different. It's good to know that at least I won't be the only one living this way. With most...

Thank you for the encouragement to prioritize myself. I do think I need some distance from my parents to fully recover. Hopefully, that will happen soon for me as I go back to work. After I move out and don't have to spend so much time living in my parent's world, I think it won't be so easy to...

That was incredibly inconsiderate and cruel of him. You don't deserve to be treated that way. Does he often seem to not care about your feelings?

It's true that it makes me question my own sanity when they pretend that nothing ever happened. I feel like I have to be a different person around them than I am around anyone else. It gets confusing for me and slows my recovery to be switching back and forth from fulling accepting my trauma to...

TLDR: I haven’t felt a connection with my family in years due to self-isolation. I want to feel closer to them, but they often make me feel horrible. Advice? After my main trauma at 11 years old, I started spending all of my time alone, hiding in my bedroom. This didn’t get better for the rest...

This has stopped me from getting back in bed, the few times I've done it. I should try that now and see if it still helps. Thanks for the reply :)

Update: officially out of bed as of yesterday evening🏅😎

Hung out with someone new (my partner's friend) at his house and didn't freak out! Even managed to talk some. I didn't realize that during most social interactions since the abuse I've been terrified into silence until now that it's starting to go away. When I was in the long-term psych ward, I...

I've experienced CSA and I also have difficulties with sex. I think most of us do, on whichever end of the spectrum, unfortunately. My issue isn't physical, but it's also an anxiety issue. I'm usually okay during the actual act, but the build-up to sex and the come-down afterward tend to make me...

Yes, a lot of the things that are in it were her suggestion and it was her idea that I do it in the first place. But I had to visualize adding every detail to the world to make it "real". It was only an idea before that. But now it seems like the others in my head actually spend time there...

Also: warm concrete on a summer evening :)

Any food at all Sunsets Christmas decorations Bodies of water, especially creeks or the ocean Animals Plants Being in nature Rain and snow Whispering and soft speaking Rainbows in real life Also sparrows and chickadees! All little birds Being wrapped up in a blanket with a stuffed animal Hiding...

I'm not the best at this yet, but I have found a few things that help. Just being willing to listen to my younger parts without shaming them or wanting them to go away. Doing some of the things that they want to do (one of my young parts will always request that we watch a specific youtube video...

I think this is a good move. You're right that she deserves to have someone that cares and I'm glad that you're helping her. I used to try to read self-help type things to try to "fix" my problems, but really it was just me trying to make the feelings go away without actually feeling them. In my...

I've been using a mood-tracking app for years without really doing anything with the info, just using it as a checkpoint to ask myself how I'm feeling. I just looked closer at the mood charts and noticed that these slopes are incredibly similar: a steep drop in my mood on Mondays (therapy days)...

Thinking of it as a long-term slide back up instead of expecting to feel better right away may be helpful for me. I tend to get stuck in the cycle of finally convincing myself to do one of those good habits and then being frustrated that I don't really feel better after all of that effort. I...

Old post I know, but this advice has been SO HELPFUL for me over the past week or so. Thank you for posting this. When I actually acknowledge what I'm stressed out about, during the day and when I'm asleep, my nightmares don't have to try as hard to make me aware of what's going on with me. I'm...

Hi everyone. Any tips about making yourself get out of bed when nothing seems worth it? I've tried bribing myself with things that usually make me feel good like food or going out somewhere fun, but it's like I don't care at all. Everything feels blah or worse. Really it's been like this for a...

Oh okay, I understand what you mean now. I feel the same way about integration naturally following functionality, that's how it's worked for me too. Taking over again 6 hours away sounds terrifying. That makes me grateful that most of my other parts seem to forget that we know how to drive.

This is almost exactly what I was going to say. I used to stress out over labeling my sexuality until one day I decided that the label really wasn't that important. What do I really need it for? I'm attracted to whoever I'm attracted to. Ironically, I figured things out not long after I stopped...

I think that it's great that you've realized that doing this is unhealthy and that it's making you feel worse. For me, that's been half the battle in resisting unhealthy behaviors. Then all I have to do is recognize that it's unhealthy while I'm doing it and then redirect myself to something...

This has been my experience, too. As I work towards getting the parts to work together and letting them express themselves this has naturally led to me partially integrating. Or at least I think that's what's going on. It's hard for me to tell if I'm not hearing from them as often bc they don't...

Reading this thread has helped me feel less alone. I'm not officially diagnosed with DID, but my therapist is treating me for dissociative issues and I relate to a lot of what is being said here. My therapist isn't too big on labels, which I say I'm fine with, but sometimes I just want to know...