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Do you have a tutor that is understanding you should have support and someone who understands your difficulties . Remember this is not your fault but difficulties are like waves if you turn your back on them they will engulf you so you need to face them head on . Easier said than done i know ...

How can you avoid ‘retraumatising’ the client? How do you work with the client who can’t properly remember the trauma? What do you do with the client who cannot stay present during a session? How do you deal with dependency? How...

If you have a faith then you would know that god would understand your decision and the answer should come from knowing you are no less a person . Maybe missing one might make you feel that you are better being alone or not . Whatever you decide you are no less a person or no less devout . There...

Bereavement is always hard . I was present when my mum died and it was very distressing . However it was expected and inevitable and brought her peace . When it is unexpected it is very different and i cannot possibly imagine your pain of loss . I can only say you are not alone and we all share...

You need to protect yourself if his behaviour is becoming violent . You seem to have done everything possible to support him and shown true dedication above and beyond the call of duty. It seems that he is broken, bitter and angry but he should direct this to those who damaged him and not to his...

It is unfortunate timing that your therapist is away before you have even started to begin. I hope that you can be positive in being aware that you have support and that is important . Life isn't always as easy as we would like but life is a journey and not a destination the good life is a...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

Well that's sad but see it as a lesson learned and remember if people use us its only because we allow it . Use this experience to give yourself that inner strength to start again . Don't be too easy or too desperate to find another take your time as someone as special as you is worth waiting...

You need stability and you need commitment you cannot waste the here and now waiting to start your life. When you feel it's right for you then you must decide whether there is a meaningful relationship in this . There are many beautiful people in the world who will love you for who you are and...

And many are religious . I was once told that people who believe in god and have a faith are of low intelligence . I responded to this by stating the NHS in the UK is full of devout Muslim surgeons, Doctors and nurses and many of the pioneers of surgery, dentistry and other areas of medicine...

No i am a Christian i have a faith but not a religion religion destroys . faith is not religion and religion is not faith .

All religions are nothing to do with faith and many Christians have died at the hands of muslims in Turkey and elsewhere . Being a Christian means loving all whoever they may be the Church does not represent anything but a place of congregation and means a different thing to many people . If...

religion and faith are two different things religion is an invention of man . Faith works if you believe and want to but early Church in UK and other European were using religion to control and ensure obedience from the masses. Using Latin meant much about what was taught was believed as there...

I think first you need to stop making apologies for wanting help and someone to talk to . It's direct because it needs to be. You cannot help others until you sort yourself every counsellor knows that . It seems as i read this it would be good for you to do so to as if the roles are reversed...

It seems very real to me as you describe like an out of body experience looking in on a session where you are not invited . I would not be concerned as it all makes sense to me. Writing down feelings help and is a good way of communication with alters when you are not around. will keep in touch

I supported a lady with DID who was promiscuous she having a sex alter. Client had 20 and i was big brother to family. I called them family so they knew they were loved supported and were not lost . Whatever pain they had was no more. I communicated as a real person speaking to another real...

If you allow them and only if you allow them will people abuse you. real friends are the ones who hang around in the bad times good time friends are not really friends. don't beat yourself up . be yourself you are unique special and will be to someone like you . Don't waste time on stressing...

I understand from my own experiences it took me 40 yrs to speak out and even then it was in a setting where we were required to share. I was studying counselling and Psychology and realized that i had not dealt with my own inner demons. Sharing one to one and discovering my fellow students had...

We are here to share and help and bring hope to others is that not important. Do not understand the reaction . PTSD has many faces and many threads Dissociative Identity Disorder is as a result of extreme trauma as a result of child abuse a most extreme form of PTSD . How we deal with trauma...

Say it as often as you can and make him understand that whatever it is he is dealing with he is not alone. Often the simplest most obvious things are the best . As a family tell him how important he is to you all you are a team . Try to stay calm if he becomes angry as this will diffuse any...

I understand this working with a client with DID who had 20 inner people they talked to me and i shared with client who at first was angry as they revealed things she wished me not to know . Ashamed and feeling worthless eventually her inner people from a 2 yr old to teens to adults revealed...

I feel for you to think suddenly your life is just about perfect then it's taken away. People might say he was cruel and selfish but that would be so wrong to say. Whatever it was that wasn't perfect for him certainly wasn't anyone's fault it a tragedy. I hope that you find the support you need...

Don't overthink the situation it won't help . Is your daughter anxious about or worried about you and that is revealed in her reaction to this. I think you have done a brilliant job. You need to tell each other how much you love as it's often the simplest of communications that make a...

So you are the only one who as ever messed up made a mistake felt so worthless you don't give a damn . I supported a lady with DID an extreme form of PTSD. Her inner people called her a sex toy / Fxck toy she hated her life of abuse but sought abuse. This was learned behaviour. Being an abused...

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