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Absolutely, thank you Admin!

Logically I understand all of this, but being in it my logic isn't working. My emotions are on overdrive. It's taking every ounce of strength I have to not talk to him right now. It's always a little rough to give space when he's isolating, but this time it's excruciating. Knowing the...

Thank you! It's quite frustrating. I try to learn new tactics to cope myself every day. Part of the problem is that depending on how he leaves, he triggers me and my PTSD as well as my adopted daughter. This particular episode is quite different than any in the past. I feel so bad, but I need...

Thank you for your insight. He's very much an isolater, and a lot of what you say reminds me of him, that's why I thought to ask you. It's not fun being blamed all of the time... but when he's good, he's pretty damn amazing. I'd talk more, but I'm completely exhausted. Thank you so much again!

I posted on my diary, but I'll give you a synopsis. My SO of 8 years and I both have PTSD, but it manifests differently, so I don't always understand him. (Hes an isolater, I'm not) Things have been pretty good since his last isolation. Anyway, he's been a SF NCO in the AF 24 years, 3...

@Freida , I have a question if you're up to it.

I'm going through a very similar situation. My s/o of 8 years had one of his former colleagues ..and best friend perish with his crew in a medical helicopter accident Thursday night. It didn't take long for him to turn on me. The first 12 hours he wanted to be with me, then suddenly I became...

Thanks, Freida! That means a lot to me coming from you!

I'm not trying to add fuel to this fire, but the only thing I would like to point out to you is you said : I'm wondering what you mean by that because the way you stated it infers that you are expecting someone else to behave in a certain way....that's not how boundaries work. Boundaries are...

Yeah, I pretty much took it this way too. That the point trying to be made isn't "blame" or wanting to change her mind regarding her doing what she wants for her birthday, but wanting acknowledgement for the OP's feelings too. Like, the OP didn't want her to cancel her plans, but was looking to...

In our house, it's the same both ways. It's easier for me when he lets me know what's going on. I also tell him when it's rough for me and I need a little "extra" from him. It's when we DON'T do this that everything unravels. It's when we try to handle everything ourselves that we have problems...

Not everyone does it...I don't, never have in 20 years. But I will "check out" emotionally once in a while. My father never ghosted either. He would just not come home on time because he was always in the bar. I think that it seems like a common theme here because its one of the biggest...

Where I'm at in the states there are noise ordinances after a certain time at night... it stinks that you don't seem to have that. I'm happy to help, sorry the police didn't help more.

That was in fact quite poignant. What lovely advice! I have put this into practice myself a few times. I call it "fake it until you make it". I've accomplished several things using this method. Regarding the rest of your sentiment, very insightful. I certainly didn't see anything resembling...

I have a neighbor that often turns his music on at night and it's so loud it drives me crazy. I need it rather silent at night because I'm an insomniac as it is. So I asked him once during the day and explained to him he was keeping me up every night. I've only had to ask once again since. If I...

I'm in the Midwest too, southeast WI

Not to bad, under the circumstances. My kids and I took advantage of the unseasonably warm weather and worked on some needed repairs outside today... it felt really good. Mr. Man invited me to a dinner date tonight while the kids all hang out, so I'm going to enjoy myself tonight even if it...

She's awesome, right?! Well, you both are, really!

I'm glad to help! My PTSD was diagnosed almost 20 years ago, and I generally manage fairly well, similar to you, possibly. But I know that there are times I can't explain my feelings or reactions other than to possibly chalk it up to my own PTSD. That's why I asked. I still see a therapist...

I agree with @Snowflakes. Most people here can decide if the "advice" is appropriate for them or not, but sometimes sharing the post can be cathartic for you and the rest of us. That's how communication happens. I think most of us have forgotten at times how normal communication happens since...

@Snowflakes, I'm so sorry your having a rough time. It is so easy to have the emotional ups and downs. I cannot remember, but do you habe PTSD too? I think i recall you saying you did at one point in a conversation. Regardless of whether you do our not, you are bound to have your own ups and...

I don't even think it's just dysfunctional families. I know my family is dysfunctional, and it's just a lost cause at this point because no one is interested in changing. (other than me) But even in my s/o's family, they don't get it. They live about 4 hours away and we barely see them twice a...

Unfortunately, it would completely backfire on you. Ask him what his wishes are... Ask him what you can do to make it easier for him.... and don't engage in her selfish behavior.

My rant? I'm flipping tired of watching him be a hypocrite with his son. It was okay for my daughter and I to babysit yesterday, but he's taking him to his second shift tonight. I'm sure that there is resentment building with his co-workers. I did ask him to bring it up with his therapist on...

I hear you! I work outside in this crap... it blows, but pays good. I always say I want to come back as a bear for the same reason