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Right. That’s where she went wrong. My T has said she sometimes has clients she feels like she could be best friends with (and has insinuated many times that i am one of those people) She also has told me she is glad she learned about counter transference because she was feeling that with me at...

Yes but when you were in therapy with her it was her job to help you manage those feelings. It’s not wrong to be attached that way to someone who is qualified and able to help you, who has strong enough boundaries and is healthy enough not to need your attachment. She has hurt you by pulling you...

In one situation the person moved. In another situation the person just stopped responding to me (she was much older, a pastor’s wife, with abuse in her past who told me she understood how i was feeling and wanted to help me). So I didn’t willfully end either relationship. They did. And it was...

I have had several relationships like this- feeling inextricably drawn to a person believing (subconsciously) at the time that they could save me. I would do anything they asked, could not imagine living without them. They came before family. How they felt about me mattered more than anything...

This is exactly why friendships with therapists don’t work. There’s this fantasy that the T would be this totally present, nurturing, supportive person because that’s (hopefully) what we see in the therapy room. But we pay them to put everything else aside and to give us their full attention and...

I understand that it’s not hiding/pretending to say “fine” to the general population. I mean when my T asks me and wants a real answer. I don’t know how to answer. Especially during the week after a hard session and her email says “how are you doing?” I’m totally fine with the regular day to...

That’s precisely what I’m getting at. Sounds like we all pretend and hide. I know that’s necessary in certain professional and social situations (or most). But I just want to know if I’ll ever BE fine. Actually really fine so I don’t have to pretend. I know life will always be a mix of hard and...

I guess what’s most frustrating about this question is I’m deeply afraid that I will never be able to answer honestly that I’m doing well. My T also always challenges my “fine” or “good” and it is making me realize that i never feel truly feel good or fine and maybe I never will. That’s a hard...

My T means it when she asks, as a way to segue into any symptoms that have been particularly prevalent or any current major stressors as I’ve had a few she’s keeping tabs on. And I have two close friends who know about my ptsd/symptoms and are extremely supportive and thoughtful and really want...

Does anyone else hate this question? Sometimes after a hard session my T will text or email and ask this. (It feels so supportive and means a lot to me. But i never know how to answer). And she usually starts the session with “how have you been this week?” My very close friends will ask as well...

My T has her own practice so her room is her own. It has windows, second story looking out over woods, is painted in muted colors with small bookshelves, a desk, white Christmas lights and a lamp, an essential oil diffuser that’s usually running, a futon I sit on with big throw pillows, a coffee...

I know it’s not from me. My one year old cosleeps with me and he isn’t awake when it happens and if I screamed in his face I’m pretry sure he’d be awake! ;)

I play guitar as well, and so does my husband. But I don’t play when the tv is on. If he does, I go watch elsewhere. @Mach123 i hope you enjoy the magnets. Thinking about getting some for myself...

Nope. No meds for sleep. ‍♀️

Has anyone had this happen before? Three times in the last few weeks I’m jerked awake from a deep sleep to the sound of a child screaming. I jump out of bed and run to check on kids and all are sleeping peacefully. I feel so panicked and hear it echoing in my head for long after.. no idea what...

My T has a ton of “fidget” things- cubes, putty, spinners, marbles and stones etc. I could never use any of them. But last week she had a new thing and I found it to be a really good distraction for my hands and helped me think- Magnetic Fidget Toy Rollable Magnets Fidget Toys For Anxiety...

For sure coconut oil. I swished with it daily for a year and went to the dentist after 18 years and had almost no plaque.

Ugh. The dentist. The word gives me anxiety. ☹️ I didn’t go for 18 years. Then 2 yrs ago faced my fear. Had a root canal and a couple fillings. But I had a blackout when the dentist held my head a certain way. Haven’t been back since and NEED to go. I also have s 9 and 6 y/o who have never been...

Everything @Freida said. I think you’re being amazing and proactive!!!!

I’m sorry I somehow posted a blank message. But we’re here...you’re not alone and we do hear you and we are listening.

I don’t know what she’s normally like, and what your relationship with her is like. But maybe you could sit and journal all of the things you would say to her if she were sitting with you now and you had no hesitation in speaking your mind. What does her no feel like to you? What does it stir up...

I would feel the same. If you’re feeling brave at your session you might say how frustrating her response was. Keep us posted!

That’s SO frustrating. Text back? Ask? Try not to read into it and just clarify as soon as possible would be my advice. (Easier said than done. I understand.)

This stuff is the hardest part of therapy for me. My T encourages out of session contact, maybe because I am terrible at talking in session but via email I’m much more open. If I go a few weeks without emailing she asks why. She wants me to contact her. But I go around in those crazy circles-...

Yes! Talk to your t. I have been talking to mine about this for 2 years. She has said so many amazing reassuring things and I still sometimes feel guilt that she has to listen to me for an hour a week even if I pay her for it. I know she “likes” me. But I feel like a burden. Which maybe feels...