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We'll just say my BFF notices how much ruminating I'm doing. Wondering what the hell I did to provoke this isolation, or why the hell I'm not important enough for him to tell me he's f*cking alive. Maybe....maybe that post he made on LinkedIn was his way of telling me. Then why did he read my...

Ugh...wanted to post a cleaned up copy of my friend's letter but that would probably violate copyright. Dang. :/

Heavens no don't do this. Another person doesn't deserve to be dragged in to the crazy cycle of being in the throws of PTSD. Not right now you don't but if you were in a long-term relationship you should. My vet was on a lot of different meds. He told me about them (even though he was...

So here goes another letter...This would be the letter I'd put with the Tshirt he was supposed to get at the race I did for him:

The man never asked me for a dime. But I said I'd support him and boy did I ever. I cared for him when he was sick and helped him find piecework til his new job was landed. I'll never understand what I did wrong.

I have gotten some help with medication and therapy. It helps to have a forum to write things, too. Thank you for being here. That's just the honest truth how bad it got. I would never share that with him presently. That would be an "after it happened a long time ago..." type story if it...

Oh it was freelance work. We have a book coming out in December. Well our friend does. L and I did the photography together.

Just kinda pisses me off because I am the ONE who got him THAT JOB. ?

Do you have an alanon group you can go to?

I told that mad I had what it takes. He's just not hearing it. I will look at the book. I need all the help I can get.

Cheating, hitting me or my pets, habitual illicit drug abuse

He's gone dark on me after 7 months. He's even skipped my birthday. He hasn't bothered to even break up with me. What do I do to bide my time? I can't decide if I should be letting him go or holding space. The never ending struggle of the supporter. The last time, I let him go because I...

I wish I knew what the end of this loop would be. My therapist wants me to take control of my own situation to give my brain and soul some peace. I keep thinking how horrible it would be to come out of a bad "down" and have your loved ones walk away. It's a catch 22.

Ok...yes. That makes complete sense. Really. Thank you. I’m highly analytical person myself given my line of work. I really appreciate the attention and analysis of all these different behaviors

Sort of? The book author was offering him a free signed copy when it comes out in print in December. The book author happens to be a personal friend of mine. L did paid work in the book for the author. But this type of thing is not his normal line of work.

So he's responding to emails from the author of the book (an acquaintance, not an employer) we worked for fairly quickly. He just doesn't respond to me. This hurts. It kinda feels like neglect or abuse. Is this something normal during "isolation" or is this just him being a jerk? Mind you...

--as an aside from this thread @Sweetpea76 ...maybe that's what's wrong with my Sufferer. He RAN a freaking VA clinic. ??

My ex did that, too. Had a new girlfriend moved in a month after we split. Some people never learn. and THAT POOR GIRL.

@concernedboyfriend - Thank you for sharing your situation. I am in the same boat. I met my love in November last year. I got shut out for 2 months in January...tried to move on, then he came back.. Now he's shut me out again. It's been three weeks since I heard from him and he even missed...

I did it. I achieved a personal best for this distance and won gold-medal in the age 40 to 49 category for women. It’s a bittersweet victory… I don’t know what I’m gonna do with myself now.

No, I get it. It hurts but I get it. I'm just trying to survive day to day now. I have a race to run now. 6 miles for him I signed up to do....because I'm that kind of girl. I finish what I start. Maybe I can cry some of this out during this rainy run. ( I'll post a picture with my medal...

I like to talk a little bit about that. I don't know if it is the new mix of meds or just how it feels this time around because we actually had a lot of time to get close...but I feel literally as if someone is standing on my chest with a poker. To let go would bring relief for a day or so...

So I just saw my therapist. She is also a trauma specialist. She suggested one thing I can do is to attempt to take some control back into my life for my own sake. For example... let him know this is the last time I will ever reach out to him. Set my own boundary. Then it's living by my...

Don’t worry, she won’t. I broke down though because of her kindness and willingness to help. This is so frustrating. I wake up every morning and fight tears because, yet again, he’s ignored me, but still playing on social media. I’ve tried to make it safe to communicate, yet he ignores me. I...

It doesn’t feel right.