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My goodness...it sounds like we could have been married to the same man. :eek:

My vet/sufferer has panic attacks even when he knows the fireworks are going to be happening. We live in an urban area where the fireworks displays can come close to the apartment building. He did end up having a small panic attack, but we worked through it by staying positive, planning for...

This is the proper response. You did not insult him and you told the truth. Honestly though, even if you held on to the responsibility he would find something else to abuse you about. I gave my ex $27K to go put a down payment on a new house AND took over the mortgage for our existing home and...

My ex would refuse to clean up after himself, I mean even put his clothes in a bin after work. The living room and office would be littered with sweaty socks and work shirts. Then, he would yell at me to be a better house keeper even though I worked 50 hours a week. So, I hired a housekeeper...

My abusive ex did me the favor of stalking me after I kicked his ass out of the house for attacking my dog with a sharp object. Now the police can deal with him. Sometimes they make it a bit easier after you cut them loose. It took me about 6 months of regular therapy to get the nightmares to...

L continues to heal from his broken leg. He was very happy to learn it would not need surgery to heal. That's a big load off me considering he STILL needs surgery to repair his aneurysm...we find out more on that on July 3rd. I was very worried about him needing 2 surgeries. He continues to be...

I hope you save this thread and reread it every time you feel down. Some day you won't need to. You have better days ahead. :hug:

Doing better this week! I caught up on my sleep and finally got a day off after 15 days. L has finally had three days in a row of good news. No surgery needed on the leg and three job interviews and his mom is still helping. It's nice to see him be his happy self again. Family, love, and...

Having a hard time of it today. L's mom has pretty much taken over which was much needed but now I'm starting to feel like I don't matter. I also haven't had a day off in 2 weeks from work. I'm feeling pretty run down. I'm on call for work for the next week, so I'm praying things will stay...

Girl I get you on the wanting to just sit and cry but not finding the time. I finally did break down and cry again Monday after L and I had a discussion about who to notify if he dies during surgery. Do you have any support at home like another family member or a neighbor to talk to? When you...

Aww man, I have the BEST team. I highly recommend a group of strong women for support outside one's relationship...if you are a girl that is.

Hooray! Mom is here...(she's just as freaked out as I am)...but YAAAY! Backup has arrived. <Moderator edit to remove image>

Ugh, I got off kilter yesterday and forgot to take my epilepsy meds. I didn't have a seizure, but I sure felt awful at the end of the day. It is SO IMPORTANT to remember to take care of oneself! I felt so bad, I couldn't go to roller derby practice. I cheated myself. Today I will walk...

I wasn't aware that heart issues could do that. I will have to do some reading. He's at the doctor right now, then off to his diabetes class. He actually got himself there via uber! His mom is offering to come help, too. That will make it easier on us.

Which book exactly?

Thanks for understanding. I know, right? He just keeps cussing at himself. Maybe the drugs they gave him made him more docile, but tonight he responded well to ice cream. :tup: He did let me cook for him, too, but he made sure he showed me how he could get around in the kitchen all by...

They did a bunch of tests only to tell him he didn't have a heart attack and his blood pressure is fine. It's in the thorasic region and will be seeing a surgeon about it. We don't know if he has to have that fixed first, before the broken leg. UGH.

Ugh...what a day. At 4am L. got up for a drink of water, a few minutes later he had a broken leg. He suffered the beginning of an aortic aneurysm causing him to black out fall, and obtain the injury. He had to call 911 for help, as we don't live together and he didn't tell me he was hurt...

Mine did the day before and the day of. I just let him know I loved him and would feed him if he was hungry. He did not respond for a few days, but did catch up with me that Tuesday. It's fine to let them be if they need space. I think they know better as soldiers how to support one another...

... That is what he did...slept all day, but was sweet enough to text me when he woke up in the middle of the night to tell me he was ok. Thanks for listening guys. I'm OK! I went to roller derby practice with my friends and did something for myself. I did not sit around the house and fret...

Today is therapy day for my vet. He lets me know ahead of time because in the past he has been non-communicative afterwards. In his words, "My brain is a pretzel." He's actually made a lot of progress lately, but I think it still takes a lot out of him when he goes. I remember when I went to...

I know my sufferer will log into LinkedIn when he's isolating. I actually encourage this so he can maintain a network. It seems to be a low-effort way to provide a bit of stimulation outside not leaving his apartment all day. Maybe think of it that way? Low-effort interaction as a prosthetic...

Take your time to make the right decision for you. Be safe.

I fully agree! Thank God his friend realized his recurring serious infections was related to something else. He's been so sick he's lost 30 pounds in 3 months. Poor guy has felt horrrrible. We will definitely stay on top of this. My best friend is an Army wife with a PTSD sufferer husband...

I just wanted to take a few minutes to appreciate some accomplishments L and I have enjoyed the past month. First of all, he tried getting out more and signed up to be an extra in a movie. This put him in a group of about 15 strangers all day. It forced him out of his shell and he held his...