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@The Albatross - I said "academic" because though my friend and I are no longer speaking (his choice, not mine), I'd like to understand for my own knowledge. When someone shuts you out completely, I think it's normal to try and process that and understand why. It occurred to me that as all of...

Just something I was thinking about lately...I don't know if I mentioned this before, but my ex-friend is a Muslim. The past few weeks they have been fasting for Ramadan. I'm curious what effect the Ramadan fasting might have on a sufferer (and yes, I do realize it's mostly academic at this...

Peach, I just wanted to say you are one awesome person. I hope Tater realizes what he's got!

Thunderstorm, I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you really need to take some time out for yourself. It might help to seek some therapy, maybe a psychiatrist to see if some meds might be necessary. You have every right to go off and take care of yourself and not worry...

Thanks Peach. The interesting thing is, we really were just friends, well at least from my point of view. I do love him but it's as a friend, not a romantic love. This makes me wonder though if he had some feelings besides friendship. He had tried to make some moves on me a few times, but...

Just one other thought I had about this, I think what bothered me the most about the comment was that it seems to invalidate our whole friendship. It would be one thing to say, "Hey I do/did care about her, but I just can't be friends with her anymore." At least that would acknowledge that we...

I don't really have any advice, just, I'm so sorry that happened and you didn't get that opportunity to reconnect with your vet. Life pulls this crap all too often, doesn't it? Ugh. Stay strong!

Thank you @itsKismet, I appreciate the response. You're right, I keep forgetting that the mind of a PTSD sufferer and the way they respond is not going to be the same as a normal person. I hear you on the secondhand info, I also had that thought. But this info didn't really change anything I...

So in my previous post I mentioned letting my friend go, that I had written one last email (very short, nice, and nonchalant), etc etc. I now know for sure that letting him and the "friendship" go was the correct decision and the right way to proceed. We have a mutual friend and that person...

Kefira and Anonymous, Thanks, you are right. I was feeling a bit defensive and that's why I wrote that. I'm sure it does depend a lot on where the person is in their own healing process, and I should not lump all sufferers together. As it were, my friend is only 3 years out from his...

I hear what you are saying, but honestly, I've never had this problem with anyone else. I've never had anyone cut ties with me because I just wanted to ask how they were doing and was concerned about them. In fact, I can't recall anyone ever cutting ties with me that abruptly before, ever...

@Justmehere, your point is well taken and I do agree that I haven't behaved perfectly here. Believe me, I have definitely considered my role in the whole thing. However, I do feel the need to add some context for why I did what I did. First, there have been many occasions when he's told me...

Thanks so much for all the great responses to my previous post. They really got me thinking about my friend, what I can/cannot do for him and for myself, how much I am willing to put up with (or not), etc. I've been doing a lot of thinking about it and it's now been about 3 weeks since he shut...

Re-reading my post, I think my frustration definitely comes out. My friend can definitely be all of those things at times - an asshole, nitpicky, etc. But he also has good qualities, for example, he is always ready to help you with anything that you need (assuming he is not isolating himself...

Peach, you gave me such great insight on my post, that I just have to chime in here. I hope I can be a fraction as helpful to you as you have been to me. One thing I've learned is that PTSD sufferers are deathly afraid of change, especially major ones like moving, changing jobs... or letting...

Peach, Thanks so much for your reply, and for the link - that is truly eye-opening! My friend has actually on occasion apologized to me, but sometimes he just seems to want to move on and refuses to talk about whatever happened. I suspect this time, when/if he comes back, he will act as if...

Hmm OK, thank you all for the good responses. I guess I was attributing the jerky behavior to PTSD. It's my first experience with someone that has it, so I didn't know what to expect. If this isn't considered "normal" even for someone with PTSD, then for sure I'm better off not contacting him...

Sorry! This post is a duplicate I made by accident...please ignore.