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School is just one way to access learning. There is a whole world of other options out there. School is a lot like every institution that exists: after a while it is more concerned with sustaining itself than it is concerned with the original reason the institution was formed.

You can have dozens of traumatic experiences. Life sucks sometimes.

I'm having to think about this judgmental thing more than I used to. I feel like so many things change as I get older and I am a parent for longer. I think I'm terrified of being judgmental because people judged me very harshly when I was a child and they didn't give me chances to grow or do...

I don't know. This is such a huge, fundamental part of my self identity. I've never understood why it feels life or death to me to feel like I am not judgmental. Decades of therapy couldn't unravel this priority.

I have an absolute terror of being judgmental. I desperately want to be an open minded, accepting person; often to my detriment. A few things that are causing me to really worry about the relationship: Her tagline on social media is "I'm not good, I'm not nice, I'm just right." That's really...

Not really. I am afraid that I am being stuck up. ?

I lived in one area more on than off for 30 years. In that time I was super outgoing about building friendships and I carried the load with many dozens of people. My Christmas card list was just shy of 100 people long and that's because I limited it to people I had seen in person in the last...

I've been in and out of the poly community for 20 years. If you didn't consent on your own without pressure it isn't poly it is cheating. Your needs are not being considered at all. I'm really sorry you are being hurt like this.

Not sure why you care so much what I do with my money. It doesn't impact you and I didn't tell you what to do with your money.

I don't know about your child. My children have been in therapy because having a mentally ill parent is 1 ACE point and I want to keep ahead of the game as much as I can. Therapy was very useful for both of them. There was no shame or difficulty or precipitous event. No abuse in the home... just...

I was encouraged to start with twice a week so doing it every second day seems like a lot to me? No wonder your body is struggling with what feels like an intense new exercise regime! It's kinda like a couch to 5k. You don't start out trying to run every day. :)

I would bring up topics of consent in a round about fashion. I would say that someone mentioned a youtube channel called amaze.org and I want to share some of the videos because this kind of education wasn't available when I was young and I want to make sure she hears about it. (Go look for...

What an absolutely horrible doctor. I am so sorry. That's wrong for any doctor to imply that any vagina should be any particular way. Every body is unique and every woman has her own road with how her vagina works. I am so sorry.

I'm a little bit late to the party... I haven't been active here in a while. I was off being busy in other parts of my life. Your name and your advice would come back to me at key moments. I think of you as being a really insightful person. You had influence on me learning how to...

So first... I would like to gently and delicately and kindly challenge you on the idea that you betrayed yourself. Darling, you were trying to trust and you were hurt by someone who wasn't worthy. Every single person on this planet misplaces their trust sometimes, sometimes to bigger effect than...

I have used dilators to deal with my vaginismus. I needed the help of a physical therapist to get started (that was AWKWARD) but it was also really wonderful in a strange way. The lady I worked with was just... mind blowingly kind. She didn't understand. She had zero trauma history. But she...

Well, I think this stuff is complicated. At 38 after 34 years of therapy I am not "all better" but my symptoms are few and far between and I rarely get full on triggered. It took a lot of work. In my teens, twenties, and early thirties I didn't think there was much hope. I'm in a genuinely good...

That's really great! I have never been that fast. What an accomplishment. :D

I had a therapist apologize because we worked together for 5 years and she never identified that I have ADHD and autism in addition to the other things that are complicated in my brain. She referred me out to official diagnosticians when I asked but she was very negative about the likelihood of...

It sounds like therapy could be helpful for you. I've been in and out of therapy for 32 years now. I've come a long way. I have had ups and downs throughout my life. I'm 35. I was raped by my father for years and I eventually prosecuted him. He killed himself instead of going to prison. It kinda...

It sounds like maybe some time in couples therapy might be useful. Maybe if you had help describing your touch aversion stuff he might understand better?

You should have been protected. I'm sorry you were failed.

How can you be blamed for someone else's actions? You didn't initiate. You didn't want it. It isn't your fault. It is messed up that your boyfriend will support a buddy over you.

My mom chooses to live with the child who has raped their own children. I have cut off contact because I can't control or help or change anything. You are picking loyalty to a rapist over me. Ok. It is a wound that never heals.

Alright, I will explain that I am talking about a non-licensed therapist (consciously so) who works with a chemist and provides illegal drugs. How do I find such a person? Well if I told you that everyone could get in trouble so I won't. I met this person through a very trusted source who is a...