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You will struggle for awhile with this. Just keep knowing and holding on to the valuables that came from this friendship. His absence here will be difficult and his presence hopefully will continue to be felt by you in the memories he gave that let you know the friendship was mutual. You...

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I join you on that as I too do not like, inner child, younger parts reference. for me is that I have no connection, very little memory of those days and get frustrated with something that does not resonate at all. I know we all need to be heard and helped but sometimes it would be better if we...

I wouldn’t do a list. Just do a check box In your head. so I had to check in, do the covid screen, check, change mask to theirs, check, sanitize hands, check, listen to how to get there instructions check, repeat in my head because I feared getting lost, check, elevator wouldn’t work major...

Same or very similar fear. The oddest thing helped me and it was an accident so I did not even plan it the way it happened. My fear was anyone going down the throat and the camera also was a huge trigger. The day before the procedure I accidentally dropped something of great importance to me...

I’d take the island, books and berries too, just maybe not certain creatures that may inhabit the island. It is a noisy world for sure. I was reading this thinking that I have my own island and books here at home. Did that myself and the quiet is found early in the morning and late at night...

Well if it was me I’d say I had partially dissociated. As in moved away inside and did not give full attention. So if it were me describing what you experienced I’d ask myself what happened before I slipped off? Did I sense she was heading somewhere that I perceive to be unsafe. It would then be...

Time to form your own truths to help you get down to what you believe as opposed to what others believed for their own benefit. I experienced a lot of similarities and come to find out this helps caregivers protect you when they themselves were terrified of either sexual abuse or harm towards...

Everyone’s experience is different and I hope yours goes well. You’ve taken an important first step and congratulations for that. When I’m worried about an upcoming appointment I remind myself not now. In other words, it isn’t happening right now so don’t sit in the worry of the unknown. It...

When I reflect on it, I’d say past experience . so if mental health was shared then even a cold was all in my head type of never getting heard. Or just getting viewed as mentally unwell so that once I got away from that situation I actually stayed away from doctors for a long time. I’m building...

I worked with a dietician and wasn’t honest about my complex trauma issues and I’m okay with that but psychologist is pretty much pressing me to let him on the team. I have no trust in joining them up because then everything becomes about the trauma and nothing about the physical which I also...

You have a lot of great insights so I just want to encourage you to keep going. If it is from childhood and you are catching a glimpse of it you may want to poke around in it a bit and see if as a child you also learned that it was best to disconnect from helpful people when you were upset just...

Welcome. Consider it a journey where you have to unpack and then pack differently for the trip. The past did happen and that is what has to be unpacked. Typically with a good therapist who helps you do this. The diagnosis is the name of the trip your on but doesn’t define you. You are still who...

You would be in a struggle as you saw him as worth saving whereas he may be angry you did and hence not speaking. Part of the divorce starts with separation and in this case therapy for you to help you separate all the pieces from you and him is going to be important to moving forward.

Oh dear. I’d be so leery. Sounds like therapist has to do more work on self. In my situation I have a lot to work on regarding my mom and I’ve always avoided a great deal of it. Last year my t needed to go home to be with is mom. He was merely saying why he’d be away. I asked if she will die and...

Sounds like you have an excellent therapist. You are doing great and observing feelings that others have that you shut down. Even recognizing that you shut them down is part of the work. I’m really glad you wrote this as it gives me pause to ask myself what I’ve learned and where I’m heading...

I had done some therapy work before the process which was important as they helped with some of the paperwork. Building a support team is essential as it is a lot to go through. Know also that it is a long haul. It can take a toll on you with what gets said to you by people asking for paperwork...

It’s a process. Therapists who know those types of therapy tend to be able to help you along the path whether they use it or not. I would investigate with potential therapists what they can offer. Add some others too, as I know of people who also go to art therapy as an add on and find really...

You are who you are, so you may not have nightmares. Most definitions of ptsd include many things but not everyone expresses it that Way. Try looking for some who knows about complex ptsd. A lot of people have done well with the book, The Body Keeps the Score. It is in my opinion time to look...

First thing I do after therapy session is dump as much of it as I can recall in my notepad on the iPad. Then throughout the day as odd phrases pop into my head I add them to the note. This helped me place it somewhere so that I’m not running it through my head. I have therapy on Friday and am in...

I’m reading one right now that is highly triggering content, but I’m being very purposeful in my mindset. I want to know how she got through what I’m reading about. Sometimes instead of avoiding a trigger in books I learn about possible resolutions. I don’t really know what to suggest to you as...

Mostly the t works with the angry parts or the parts others are afraid of. He’s not afraid of them. They just work together. Certainly there are boundaries and everyone including those parts need to come to terms with that. We’ve worked hard to let all parts know that the body has already been...

You wrote it well, so give it to the therapist. They can answer all your questions, get you on the right track and you will feel better for revealing your authentic you. Sometimes we lie to some providers because of fear and rightly so, however the therapist may be the safest one to share this...

Well if I’m going to spend years in therapy getting in touch with the emotions that never got to express themselves, I’m going to get in touch. What I won’t do is linger in the emotional mess, but acknowledge and move to whatever is next. I don’t buy in to everything out there. The word radical...

Your in the tough place of thinking money could help resolve it. Which is how I feel given I’m pro-bono after paying for 4 years then money ran out and he said he would keep going. About 6 months later he said every two weeks wasn’t sustainable and he could do every 4 weeks. We’ve never had a...