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I'm curious as to how exactly the specifics of this played out--the "repeated disreepectful comment", that is. The reason I ask? She may feel as though you're attempting to establish dominance/authority, by insisting she apologize. Or even if she doesn't believe that this is your conscious...

Do you know how you work on that? You voice your opinions whether you feel weak or not. The feelings don't matter, it's giving voice to your opinions that matters, as the yardstick of success. And every time you do it despite feeling weak, you'll feel a little stronger the next time you do so...

I can understand exactly why you'd find this triggering, due to your background of being on the other end of just that kind of abuse, and it being largely responsible for your trauma. It's hard to see challenges such as these in a positive light, in terms of "opportunities for growth", but...

I agree. I think we must do whatever is necessary in order to be heard, to be taken seriously--and if even then we're not, to distance ourselves, for our own good. I've had to learn to do the same with close family members, myself. Holding out for something that someone just doesn't have to give...

I liked I have to wonder, is your fiancee an "old-fashioned" sort of guy? Why? The reason I ask is because it's common for people from traditional "old fashioned" backgrounds to often think in terms that to "be too easy" on someone, is to actually harm them...in other words, that the worst...

Welcome to the forum! Glad you've sought help in order to help your fiancee, he's fortunate to have someone both that concerned as well as dedicated. I've had similarly violent nightmares throughout my life, and have frightened exes terribly for the same reasons. Not only is it realistic to...

Like the previous posts, I'm not sure what you're referring to with regard to "childishness", exactly. What you may be talking about is a feeling of finally being able to completely let down your boundaries, in a sense, the "wide-eyed, childish innocence" implicit in the child's state of...

You're describing me to a tee. But I've realized after a lifetime that it's either learn to, and move forward...or nothing.

I think PM would be a better route to go from here on. I'll send you a msg shortly--just sitting down to a meal.

I've posted elsewhere that I'm 42 and 6'4". The rest is eerily accurate, however, and I've never led anything other than a double life...in more respects than the average person would likely be able to imagine. That's what I was conditioned for, after all. I don't post much about myself, at...

I suspected something along those lines, but didn't want to pry. That doesn't seem like a flawed train of thought, at all. It seems like a loving mother attempting to place her children's needs above her own, to me, and I not only understand, but commend you for it. In my opinion, an therapist...

As you may know, parental betrayal alone can be a potential source of trauma-related symptoms. They knew, and didn't put a stop to it? I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how abandoned that must have made you feel.

Not probably--you do. I understand seasonal depression, as well--though I don't suffer from it (my niece does, and had to move from Seattle, due to lack of adequate UV/sun). But it's hard to say you have "trust issues" stemming from sexual abuse, and at the same time, that you don't have some...

I agree with you both, and I don't think what either you have said is mutually exclusive with the other's Good point Dmerish, about not giving someone more than they're already dealing with. Good point, nurse nurse, regarding trying to take the blame from the poster, and give some insight.

While not a practitioner, I'm familiar with the Wiccan tenets and practices, through study. No judgement or condemnation here. But I would caution you against assuming that you do not have PTSD, or "trauma related symptoms" due to your "consent" as a 13 year old: "Manipulation" IS a kind of...

I have to agree with DMerish. Looking back on it now, with adult's eyes, did he really abandon you? He came back for you--sent the police to come get you. It seems likely he was just trying to go about it the legal way. I don't say this to deny your child's experience of having been...

SO glad you're connecting with other supporters. Yes, being distant is one of the most common symptoms of most of those I've known with PTSD

I agree with both CVC and nursenurse...the common, "average" person's perception of trauma is that in order to have "the right" to have symptoms, we must have witnessed or experienced a bloody and/or life threatening circumstance. Nothing could be further from the truth. There's good, related...

I have to wonder if you have any history of trauma, yourself. I understand, of course, that living in a community potentially violently opposed to your values, might be enough, in itself, to cause you to feel the need to isolate. Been there, done that (and doing it). The reason I ask? For one...

It does sound likely to be dissociation--especially if it's accompanied by a sense of imminent danger/threat. But if you do experience vertigo, as well, I hope you'll see a professional for a diagnosis, as vertigo can be caused by either an inner-ear disorder, or neurological disorder. If it...

Happens to me, as well. I believe what you're describing may fall into the category of what's called "depersonalization", and if I'm correct, it is considered a "panic reaction", even though not necessarily the same as what's commonly understood as a "panic reaction". I see it as a way to...

Does he know this? If he doesn't, it may be the humane thing to tell him. I know that this could come across as a threat or an ultimatum, if it's not done properly--and threats and ultimatums are exactly the kind of thing that usually cause us to both lash out, and run for the hills (as it's...

So glad to hear from you, and learn that you're head injury at least isn't life threatening, and that you even find yourself able to pursue trauma therapy. With those kinds of deficits in addition, that's a real triumph, and I hope you give yourself credit! I'm still triggering and having...

I'm a little confused--are your symptoms PTSD related, or related to your head injury? I realize both can urgently require treatment--but if they're related to your head injury, especially, I hope you can get in immediately--and it might be a good idea to go to the emergency room, instead of...

I used to think of myself as a kind of "Thought Warrior"...no way those thoughts were going to "win"...I was going to beat them at their own game, and emerge victorious. After all, I was "an intellectual", right? Any intellectual worth his/her stripes should be able to out-think his/her...