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P.S. Thanks for listening. It's good to just.. have someone know what's going on w/me and be thoughtful and listen.

Oh yes, I've been through that many times in our therapy- letdowns are normal and unavoidable and really good for growth actually. So, I've experienced and learned that in this therapy and worked through those occurrences. It's the lack of respect I feel and the lack of clarity she has right...

I am angry. I'm angry to be so different that even my good enough mother cannot hear me and embrace me. Or even.... keep calm through it to get to the other side. :(

Yeah, I am hurt and could hardly tell her what's gone wrong anymore, it's getting so big. She thought she had to write me a letter justifying her beliefs, which didn't even succeed, when really.... the therapy should have been about me... not her judgment of me, not her discomfort with what I...

She felt judged and it upset her. She said as much in the letter. But... she's missing the point, she's not seeing this as a therapist, and THIS is why I don't randomly spout off my beliefs to just anyone. What I believe is uplifting to me, harmless to NONE and still, in contradiction with her...

She had said before... our termination would be done right.... I wish she'd offer me a session to say she wanted to end this right.... maybe it feels too final to her, but... I just wanted her to... manage it, to.... not just say there's nothing more to say and come back if I want. :cry: ETA...

I guess it just boils down to losing respect for her. She took an opportunity to witness a very deep part of me coming to light, and instead of holding herself open... she took a stand, an unhelpful (and factually incorrect) stand... and... it showed me... she couldn't keep the frame. The frame...

I just want her to say... "we were hasty, let's back up, I'm sorry I wasn't compassionate about something so important to you." I just want her to remember all the fears I shared about not having this relationship... and... for her to reach out and tell me.... she cares to make it work enough to...

"you will find that you can't be in relationships with anyone because we all have fundamental differences" But see, that's not true- I've always had relationships with people who have fundamental differences, because I have a couple key non-mainstream beliefs. But I've had friends and good...

Hell... I want my mother. I haven't had one in a long time.... and then... for a while here... I kind of did. I had a woman, older, experienced, caring... who would be there for me consistently... help me work on my parenting, nurture me, inspire me (i.e. I applied to college again and finished...

"why do you feel like your relationship has to be over because you had an arguement?" It wasn't over an argument.... yes, we do disagree strongly about some things, but it's never stopped our therapy before really, it was over her inability to... let me be, let me speak, let me... have my...

I just feel sore. It's hard to acknowledge this is real...

Yes, she seemed to entangled today and I talked to her about that- about wanting her to have room for empathy for what I was saying, room for me to be heard, to express something deeply important to me. She said sometimes therapists challenged and sometimes growth came out of hard sessions...

We would have needed to work out our difference together- I couldn't just dismiss the fact that she erroneously told me I was doing something wrong because she was feeling defensive about the topic. She told me she had evidence of something, and when I asked to see it... she told me I wasn't...

I am yeah.... weary, drained, numb, cried out, in shock. I told my husband what happened, he said she was being unprofessional and defensive. It's not the first time we've had that problem, but... this time was worse, and.... she was the greatest comfort ever in my life, but... our therapy...

I wish I was mortified, but... I am aghast at how she reacted when after three and a half years of deeply intimate therapy, I opened up about something important to me, a belief, and she reacted very badly. And she just wrote me back and when I told her I couldn't see how to resolve the...

Today we had a session and it did not go well or end well. I told her she had lost a client... and I meant it. I may have just said goodbye to my good-enough-mother, the closest thing I would ever have to a parent. I'm going to stop there. :speechless:

Just adding how well I can relate. My inner distress has been hard to convey even to my therapist, we finally found a code word to help her get it. I'd just gotten far too effective at masking it and have also tended to always be extremely high functioning with rare exception, and really...

Thanks much, yes, that is an issue- it's getting me irrationally stirred up and I'm trying to keep my head above water in a sense. I know there's strong maternal transference, I know I put a great deal of stock into her personally, and then there's factor X, I suppose. I'm feeling really off...

Thanks to those who shared their experience with advice/opinion giving!

I do wish she was more inquisitive rather than advisory at times, I feel like the best way to enable positive growth is to provide a light. Some typical ones are: 1. Clients are the experts on their own lives, so advice may be off target, with the ideal that it's best to explore with the...

I had one when I was 16 and dropped out of high school. I'm kinda afraid I'm gonna have another one right now. My work is online so they don't know how I work in fits and starts, making up for being distracted for hours by other things with rapid catchup. But I have missed a meeting...

I'm so sorry you're buried under so much &%*(. The only thing I know to say is something my therapist told me with the utmost gravity when I was talking about killing myself: a parent's suicide is the absolute worst trauma a child can suffer, and they never, ever, ever recover from it. You at...

Thanks for replying. It's hard to imagine a month without her and how our relationship would change after an absence that long. I came in needing to learn the lesson of depending on someone, and I guess I definitely have lol. Maybe in line with your suggestion a little, I will say that we are...

I'm not concerned about her health without cause. Excessive sugar and unbalanced diet isn't healthy. Period. Obesity and Type 2 are rising a lot among kids 10 and up (30% increase in a 10 year span), and while diabetes is an extreme outcome (but some doctors predict 1 in 3 adults will develop...