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Ok... YES, I have to both... I have done EMDR, and have dissociated during sex. So, my therapist is super available in that I can reach her any day, at reasonable times... if yours is, call her/him ... if not, have you talked about your "box?" Creating a safety box or your safe place? Putting...

Therapy.. but.. it's ok to love him but realize it's not healthy to be together. Minimally, he needs a batterer intervention program. Minimally, you need to deal.with your trauma of almost being murdered by him. I say this because if you don't, you will pick another just like him. ... it just...

Eve ..abusers can change.. IF THEY WANT TO. there are programs, but it takes hard work. He obviously needs to want to, however.

Perpetrators use a tactic called gas lighting. Essentially, they do something (start a fight) and (then blame it on you) then they make it appear as if it did not happen or that it was not their fault.keeping you up all night is also a tactic. This was used in brainwashing/programming people in...

Guys.. i work with survivors... caution.. I'm not sure there Is a way for YOUR LIFE STORY to be wtitten in a way that your perpetrator would not KNOW you. I work with the perpetrators as well... they are SO GOOD at what they do... please understand, I could not work with them if I did not...

Thanks bristol... i agree.. all of me!! Hahaa

Unfortunately, I cannot disagree... the system has tried to change but there have been few changes and it depends on where you are, who responds to the calls, and the situation. It's a complicated problem because so many women won't go to the police and won't prosecute. Then there are women...

Thank you. I had no idea for so long... but I'vestarted to heal. It's slow and steady, just like the turtle, but it is what it is.

I am not only a survivor, but I am now a CERTIFIED TRAINER in the safe and together model which is the model used in child welfare and with domestic violence advocates... yes, this is common. It is, unfortunately just another manipulative, controlling, abusive tactic. Do not let him into your...

Hi.. thanks.

I keep mine in a safe.. after i have completed therapy, or have processed enough of what i couldn't initially say, i believe that i will have a bonfire.. symbolic, closure, but also, no one is left to know anything that I didn't even want to remember. My memories were repressed, and I am...

The thing is, if the abuse happened to you as a child, it is the child speaking, or not able to find the words. If the abuses happened as an adult, often times the abuser takes that voice from us. I would try journaling first. Write it.. start with i remember when, or one time he... that helps...

So, this is my intro.. I never thought that I would be a board with all of you fine people. Seriously. That is not me being condescending. I just wish that this was not a struggle of mine, as I am sure everyone can relate to. I never knew that I had this issue for , wait for it... 44 years. I...

Missed the deadline.. i am a trainer and survivor. Where are you based out of?

Why? What is the hope in this?

Yes freedomfighter.

Stormysea.. it depends on the "survivor, sufferer" in terms of what they do.. Some, put on that fake smile, go to work, and through the motions, then get home andvbreak down and stay in bed until it's time for the next day. Some use the time to get exta support from therapists, support groups of...

It's hard but it works

Look in your provider book, call your Healthcare provider and ask for names, google..

Why would you say cptsd is not real? Not that it matters. Work this out in therapy. Stay strong.

Gia1019.. i do this weekly and have been for a bit.. I had disossociated during all of my abuse and that expanded decades.. literally. I had no idea until the flashbacks started.. it is a long story, with so many abusers beginning at age 3. Anyway, this therapy has helped so much, more than the...

So, i hear what you are saying.. it's a group that is organized and hurt you.. don't let another group, albeit a well intentioned one, try and hurt you in a different way. If you are not able to prosecute, don't. That is your decision. Although I don't think they are trying to hurt you...

Gia1019 not all therapists are able to do it, but it's awesome!

Silent.. EMDR, brain spotting, is NOT like that at all.. I completely understand your hesitation. I am currently working weekly doing both. It is hard. I won't lie to you. It hurts. It makes you feel pain that you don't want to ever again, but tgen it's gone as much as it ever can be gone. You...

It is a new type of therapy.. really cool..Gia1019