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If I ever asked my sufferer, it was because we were already engaged in a conversation about "it" (insert traumatic topic of choice), that he would have started. My questions came from genuine love and desire to understand. Even though we'd already be talking about "it," he still had a hard time...

I WISH I could tell my sufferer's family about what is really going on. They think our divorce was a mutual decision and that while he needs help, he's not *that* bad. His kids have really no idea why he's been in and out of their lives, all their lives. I know his sister knows he has PTSD, but...

I often wondered the same thing. Way back when, before I knew what PTSD meant, my sufferer actually refused to drive me to the doctor when I was sick - I was running a fever and thought I had influenza, and I had NO energy to drive myself. It was his day off, he was feeling ok, but he was having...

*tilts head at that website for poppies* Huh. Ok then. :O_o: I used to help my grandma sell VFW Buddy Poppies. I had no idea there was a whole world of poppies out there. :eek:

I'd love it if my sufferer would at the very least find a forum like this. I dread him finding *this* forum because, well, it probably would mean he'd completely shut me out of his life entirely. He knows I'm on a PTSD forum/website, but I think the knowing of it's existence is one thing...

I originally read your post yesterday, @NaeNae75, and just haven't had a chance to respond. This has been my biggest issue as well, wondering if maybe my sufferer is right, and I *am* a monster and all the bad things he said I was. I also have the tendency to WAY overthink, but that seems to be...

This is what I got when my husband and I broke up. "I warned you I don't know how to have a relationship but I would try. Well, I tried and it wasn't good enough! I am better off alone! I need to just be alone. PTSD isn't the problem, my not being alone is the problem." Well. Technically, it's...

:hug: Feels kind of weird, doesn't it? I almost feel guilty for being half relieved when my sufferer decided to end things. And now, 8 months later, I feel so much lighter. Free is definitely the right word. Good luck, stay strong, and stay true to yourself.

When I first met my sufferer (and soon to be ex), he claimed his "doctors" told him he only had 5 years to live. But, he had no illnesses that would cause premature death (he was 38 when we met). I asked him what made them tell him that, he had no answer. He hinted at Gulf War Syndrome (which he...

Psychology Today's website has a pretty great therapist locator that has Canada, too. I believe it's even searchable by insurance acceptance, and includes options for trauma, depression, and other specialties. It's a good place to start and find practices.

For my sufferer, as he became more symptomatic, a basic whiteboard was quite helpful for him. He wrote down what he needed to accomplish, I would add things that "we" needed to happen, that were things he had to do (ie, working with his insurance, etc), he'd figure them out in his own way. If it...

@Sighs *hugs if you want them* I feel you. My relationship (or the ending of my relationship and the beginning of remission of my own mental illness) has brought up all sorts of crap I've just glossed over my whole life, that I'm finally dealing with, at 42. The right counselor (and meds) has...

Walking away is the hardest thing I've ever done, and he's (my sufferer) the one who broke up with me. It's been 8 months since he "ended our time together" (after 5 1/2 years of marriage), and I still take it personally, sometimes. He's still very much in my life (we chat online daily, see each...

Thus the conundrum of PTSD relationships. My sufferer lies as a (mal-adjusted) coping mechanism, I think. That, and I think he honestly doesn't remember the details of parts of his life, so he makes them up. Also, he dissociates a lot more than he realizes, and lies to cover it up - there are...

Thinking about the veterans in my life...none of them talked about the wars in which they fought, beyond the general and broad ideas and experiences. My grandfather was a Corporal in the Army, fought in WWII, was stationed in Iceland, and landed on Utah beach on D-Day. I know he was part of the...

I just saw this come through a newsletter in my office and was seriously excited. I've read a few things on this, including trauma therapists who are currently using MDMA (yes, illegally) in their practices because of the results they were seeing (and reading an article on WaPo, it seems like...

As a supporter, I wish I'd known about my partner's PTSD looooong before I did (and that I hadn't listened to him when he asked me to just trust him, it's not an issue, and don't research it. That's on me, but he also asked me to trust him). If he'd ever mentioned it early on, it was just an...

One thing that really resonated with me in my own therapy: PTSD aside, my guy hadn't had ANY examples of a good relationship in his life. His parents and step parents were abusive to each other and to him. He has no way to know what a good relationship is. Intellectually he might know, because...

Oh man. That has to be terrifying. :hug: Good thoughts to you both, @leehalf

My sufferer is not on mental health meds and won't take them. He was taking an antidepressant for nerve pain for a short amount of time, and boy howdy did his (what I now realize were) PTSD symptoms improve. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of suggesting (while we were finally starting to...

My family is pretty "new" to the US - I'm only the second gen born here. They came from Germany and Hungary, so German and Hungarian foods were prominent in my life, and I know how to cook quite a few of them (my sufferer also loves my stuffed peppers, paprikash, meatballs and cabbage, kielbasa...

Yup, I can say my sufferer has these issues too. @scout86, that sounds quite interesting, and would make sense, really, if how memories are created and stored gets changed. My sufferer called me abusive, saying I would scream at him, take out my stress on him, manipulate him, try to control...

My sufferer worked in probably one of the worst fields to work in with PTSD - he was a correctional officer. The atmosphere is incredibly clannish and clique-filled, and there are a lot of factions, some who are in the good graces of the higher-ups (usually the warden and those just under and...

I'm getting to a point with this as well. My mom is one of the most judgmental people I know (she's trying to change - it doesn't always work), and right now, she waffles from "I still love my son-in-law" (soon to be ex-son-in-law) and wants to see him and have him as part of my life, and "Why...

Welcome, @NameHere. Quite a few of us have been through it, too. Look over our stories, read about the Stress Cup https://www.myptsd.com/?s=stress+cup, and learn what you can from us (and, of course, leave what you feel doesn't work). I won't tell you it will be easy, no matter what you choose...