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The one thing I've learned in my journey loving someone with PTSD is that love is not enough.

Sounds familiar. My soon to be ex has PTSD, but not from his service (or at least not JUST from his service...who knows at this point). I am trying very hard to come to grips with the fact that it's no longer any of my business what he thinks of me and my role in the end of our marriage. I'm...

@Never_falter - I looked at couples counseling as a way for us to be honest, with a "referee" if you will. I was looking for it to be a way to learn to communicate with each other, how to effectively compromise, and how to get through what I thought was just a "rough patch," and end up stronger...

Well, part one accomplished! Mom has arrived in her new home. My soon to be split household is a bundle of nerves - he is pretty symptomatic, there is a lot of all or nothing and other disordered thinking. I'm an emotional mess - there literally is no room in my mom's new house for me or ANY...

It's been quiet the last couple of weeks, on the supporter section here, and even at home. I'll be taking some time off from the board - moving day for me is around the corner, but before that happens, I'll be gone for over a week, helping my mom move as well. So in the next week, I have to...

Finished CoDependent No More a few days ago, and now I get it. It's definitely helped me see what I was doing, and the patterns in my life. My T and I are now working on WHY I'm codependent (I have been, long before this marriage), how to fix those patterns, how to prevent it from happening in...

Haha, I know! 42 is young! (40 is the new 30? I always laughed until I turned 40 and still felt...30) And I always joked I am 29 with experience - drove my sufferer nuts when I did that, I have no idea why. I was always like...I KNOW I'm not really 29. It's a funny! A joke! And March 8th? Oy...

My day was more of the same. I'm in a holding pattern until March 8th, then things start to happen. Ooh in one month, I move! I just realized it's one month. But May 8th is when it starts - getting my mom moved to where I am, and the next adventure begins. I fly to Iowa, we get her loaded up...

Ghost

There are a lot of us here. Feel free to reach out. I second the recommendation to read @Snowflakes posts. He's helped me through the last few months, which, unfortunately, has reached the point of the end of my marriage. But we're here, we will listen, and we will help however we can. And...

Yup. HUNDREDS of threads here. It sucks, it really does. Mine was after 7+ years together, 5+ married, to "I don't know if I love you anymore," and "I need to be alone so I'm ending our time together." I also heard "It is what it is." I had no say in it, whatsoever. (read my other posts for the...

Bitchin' Camaro - The Dead Milkmen

I am going to have to watch this series. I was suicidal as a youngster (from at 8, being comfortable with the idea of just ceasing to exist, to my teens and slightly beyond, being actively interested in killing myself). I was bullied (though I didn't think of it that way at the time) all through...

@ArtsyYogi That makes sense. I'm not even half way in, and the farther in I get, the more I understand, and see what you're talking about. I do need to give it more attention, since I admit I've been reading it in short spurts, and not giving it the attention it deserves. I also admit I'm...

So my first beef with CoDependent No More...some of the stuff that is supposed to be so awful and manipulative that codependents do...it's kind of what a relationship is about, ya know? X, Y, and Z need to get done (chores, grocery shopping, familial obligations, etc etc etc), and the sufferer...

Eucher...Euchuer? Euchre!

I think it could also be how he sees them too, same scenario, different mind-set. My sufferer and I (should I even still call him "my sufferer" at this point? Oy) could have an argument, and during it I am just a liberal shill, have no idea the sacrifices he's given, the life he's led because...

Zoot suit

I don't know if it's a "trait" of c-PTSD or not, but it seems to be common among some sufferers - that is calling any emotions someone else (like a supporter) or questioning of their behavior as "controlling" and/or "abusive." I was accused of the same thing for having "negative" emotions...

An update! Now that sufferer is on the path to independence, he has been relatively relaxed and happy. As my therapist said, "Of course he is. He's getting what he wants, which is to run." So, of course, with the relaxation and happy, comes the goofy side of him again, and the pet names, and...

Daniel Kahn performing Leonard Cohen's Halleluja in Yiddish. It's really quite amazing (available on Youtube)

@Sweetpea76 thank you for that link! It makes so much more sense to me. @annie8813 Welcome to the wild world of PTSD. Without tools to cope with stress responses, it seems like everything is a stressor to a sufferer. My own sufferer can't deal with any sort of emotional conversations. Our...

My therapist just recommended CoDependent No More to me. It was already on my "to get" list, but it got bumped up. She wanted me to follow a book I started on my own, Susan Anderson's The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, with something on codependency, so I don't fall into the same patterns...

Haunted

Nothing to Fear (But Fear Itself) - Oingo Boingo