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I didn't think I was co-dependent ... I don't think I understand the true meaning of co-dependency. I've never been in a relationship and haven't felt like I've ever needed one? Yet the ones I go for are unavailable, the first was perfectly healthy I just couldn't see him all the time and it was...

I'm also in sales haha but somehow I have the patience of a saint ... maybe I shouldn't be in sales :-/ I know it's an absolute shitter, I'm starting to think I subconsciously have issues ... I don't know where they're stemming from but I tend to go for the guys that in some way emotionally or...

Oh God all the jealousy .... I get this a lot and he tries to do it in a jokey way but I know full well he would pretend he didn't care that I dated someone when in reality he definitely would. I get the whole 'you were on a date last night weren't you' and 'you had a boy here the other night'...

I'm almost frustrated for you that you can't even ask for answers because he won't come round to admitting he's got problems! Saying that I do think you know more about your vets previous suffering than I know about mine, he's very quiet with his suffering and tends to just say he's having a bad...

Haha well be prepared for him to drive you nuts for life!! The Monster is the PTSD and until he is willing to seek help it won't get any better ... if you want to stick by him until he does hopefully seek therapy then you are one heck of a woman!! I'm glad you are better today though :)

Ah right, well try not to apologize too much for yourself until he starts apologizing for his mishaps! I'm not that alarmed just confused because you change your mind a fair bit as to what you want and feel. Looks like you need some time out just as much as he does to cool down and let off...

I might be barking up the entirely wrong tree here but you've essentially just given him the go ahead that his behavior towards you was acceptable and that you're the one that has 'habits'?? Can you elaborate what habits you have and what he can't handle? I'm a bit confused! I know you said...

My vet checks himself into a rehabilitation center that specializes in combat PTSD every now and again for a few weeks, he says it's the only thing that keeps him half sane ... saying that though when he came back he did struggle more than he did when he went in and had to up the level of...

There may be many reasons but one of them could be that his ex wife didn't deem him fit to be a parent if he was suicidal, she may have worried about the safety of their children. I guess you will never know unless he voluntary opens up! The thing is my sufferer cannot and will not entertain...

Sounds like he's had a really really rough ride!! The one thing that kept my vet alive was his son, he gets through everyday for him so I am thankful that he has him and he really is a brilliant Dad so I can only imagine the heartache your vet feels having had his kids taken away, he probably...

Nooooo no substance abuse he is very much on the straight and narrow in that sense. I think if you're codependent then being with someone who suffers from PTSD is definitely not for you, they can't support you because they have too much going on themselves. It sounds like you're also a very...

Oh crikey I'm not sure how I would cope with that, sounds like he has a lot of issues regarding gender roles. I know a lot of that can stem from not being able to trust anyone though, PTSD gives sufferers the fear of being able to trust anyone. Well that's just him doing the standard pushing...

Gah sounds like what my vet says sometimes, they just push you away! It sounds like foreplay may have triggered him though, if that's what was occurring and he started flipping out. I could be jumping to conclusions but maybe he has had some other forms of abuse before or has had some sort of...

@PartTimeWarriorLover Shit balls, is anything any better now? Does it matter that much that his ex was Bi, that she worked more hours than you? I understand that he probably has severe trust issues from the reason of their break-up though. Throw all that on top of PTSD and it all becomes a...

@ldj honestly I know because I've been there, when I send a message when he's not very well I get this horrible sick feeling in my stomach and waiting for a reply is the pitts! That's why now I know it's better I just don't, tricky with my sufferer as from day one I've done pretty much all the...

Hey lovely, In my opinion I wouldn't send it, he's asked for no contact and if he doesn't reply it will make you feel worse!! From my experience anyway I always feel better for not messaging rather than message and have no reply. He knows how you feel and he just needs that space to get right...

I'm trying not to get too happy at the moment, you just never know do you? Once I get too happy it's a crash and burn situation!! Oh brilliant :) this is great news! I'm happy things have got back on track for you recently!

@PartTimeWarriorLover thank you so much for your kind words! What you said is right, sometimes you need time away to straighten things out on both sides. I know I can live without him and I know there's loads more people out there but currently I don't want to be without him and I don't want...

@tlc hey there, how are you? Did you have a good Christmas break? Things are good, we are communicating still, he rang yesterday which was a nice surprise! I'm still away for the holidays until the 1st and he has asked when I'm back - not getting my hopes up but it was a good sign!! I'm...

Hey there, Has he been diagnosed with PTSD and is he seeking therapy? I have had a few experiences with these mixed signals from my sufferer but not maybe to the extent you have as I haven't said I love you and he has to me but not in a serious serious way ... probably because I'm quite...

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@tlc having a lovely time with my family this week! We've been reaching out a bit and i txt him to ask if it was ok to ring later on Christmas Day and he said yes, had a nice chat and he still messages me night with endearing terms. Not looking too much into this though - I've done that...

Time for you to do you now @ldj ... sending hugs!!

Yes I completely agree, I'm going back home to my mums for Christmas for a week and I think being there will ensure the no contact. I sent him his all time favourite link to a video today (I caved) and his response was great. He'd been in therapy all day and said that watching that was just...

@tlc Currently broken-up .... going through the stage of not knowing whether this is it or not. I did the whole looking after him thing at the weekend and then Sunday Eve he said we were still broken-up and he's sorry for leaning on me when he said he didn't want a relationship etc. Haven't...