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This is all too familiar. You used the word ‘fear’ and ‘not wanting to rock the boat’....because of what might happen. I’ve been there and walking on eggshells is a shitty way live. REALLY shitty. They get away with unacceptable behaviour and you feel like all you can do is stuff it down...

I agree. No contact. Don’t open that door again and expose yourself or reopen those wounds. History is likely to repeat itself. You are doing great! Stay strong.

Wow. I really feel for you. I agree with Blackemerald1 and Sweetpea76. Him cheating was a choice that he made and he is the only one responsible for it. PTSD is not an excuse for any of this behaviour. You know what you are willing to accept and what you aren’t. His projection, gaslighting...

YES! Absolutely, yes! It is also important to understand that these issues can be comorbid. People already affected by NPD can develop PTSD and, in some cases, PTSD can lead to narcissistic-type behaviour and even full blown NPD (with my sufferer, the medical team involved could not...

Consider joining the Private Supporters Group on this site. It took me a while to find out there was one and I wish I had been posting on it sooner. Only Supporters allowed....so he would never be able to see a post accidentally. Wishing you the best.

There is a private supporters group on this forum. You have to ask to be made a member. It is great for privacy, but you are someone limited to feedback as there are much fewer of us on there. They also have private groups for PTSD sufferers ie military, first responders, etc., so your...

Better. Has to see him again this weekend at hockey. Be easier if I didn’t have that to deal with. Trauma binding was definitely me (not that that was all that it was). Come here go away come here go away come here go away. But thank you so much for asking!!!!

There is actually a name for it. Trauma bonding. Let me know if that fits for you. That was me (Still is? I wonder if it is like any addiction - and it is never really gone completely but at least fades into the background a bit).

It can be very confusing. It is also incredibly painful. Consider starting a new thread with a new post (since this one started long ago). You may get a lot more helpful advice and be able to vent a bit more freely.

I hear and understand how much pain and confusion you are feeling right now. I have also experienced this, unfortunately, many times over, and you can see from the above thread and hundreds of posts on this website, that countless other people have as well. I know it is natural for many of us...

I’m curious how long you have been with your sufferer and if you feel that the interactions have gotten worse over time? And, if so, what aspects have gotten worse or become more challenging to deal with? My relationship was 5 years long and it did progressively seem to worsen. The ‘good...

Okay. I think we should tread gently here, in regards to how we express our opinions and our feelings. The best thing, for me, about this forum (aside from how much I have learned) is that everyone has been so positive and supportive. I stopped feeling so alone. I never felt judged. Advice...

I TOTALLY get where you are coming from. I have asked the same questions over and over again. I have come to realize that, for me at least, it only makes it worse for me....it prolongs the agony. You and I and everyone else who has had the same thing happen to us (some of us multiple times)...

I would have thought the same thing. I would want to wait until I knew the person much better before sharing that information.....but my sufferer told me immediately. Literally during our first conversation (he also told me he was going to marry me less than a week after we met and before we...

You don’t need to be sorry for anything. We each process things in our own way in our own time. Sometimes are brains are just not ready to let the memories, the knowledge, or the pain in. [ You sound like me....it wasn’t that bad. I did that after the CSA and throughout my adult...

Welcome to the forums ppippi. I don’t think, having read the more detailed description of what you experienced, that there is any doubt that this was child sexual abuse. The fact that you are asking these questions and on this site would indicate that you also know, at some level, that what...

I understand your confusion. I absolutely do. The first time my sufferer suddenly picked a fight and disappeared I truly believes my relationship was over.....and that time it lasted less than 24 hours (it happened repeatedly over 5 years with some lasting months)! This ‘absence’ can be a...

TRIGGERED!!!! Gymfanatic I understand very well what you are going through. Please know this is coming from a supportive, loving place. I have experienced a similar relationship and I know that you will only regret any decision that involves maintaining a relationship with this person...

I hear that you feel that you are struggling, but please do not minimize or undersell yourself or the work that you are doing. Just reaching out to this site and this thread shows that you are doing what you can right now. That proves that you do want to get better. PTSD is a monster. It...

My past partner is very artist. He would doodle but, mostly, he would paint. Beautiful ones too....but he always said he needed to feel a connection to the subject. Much was various 'scenes'/images/connections from his past traumas/work-related....some were related to me/relationships....and...

This is definitely an area where everyone needs to be careful and evaluate their relationship for themselves. Yes, sometimes it is strictly the push-pull dynamic of PTSD....but sometimes it is more then that. The 'intensity' of a brand new relationship like she describes is also found in...