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Thank you @Buttercup for sharing & I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through. Ultimately I think you are probably right. I guess I keep hoping that breakthrough moment is going to just magically happen somehow & after some time apart I crack & give in to her asking for another chance...

Yes I’m aware that this is going to be a very difficult process for her, if she does decide to really start it. And maybe we won’t be able to get through it together, but I hope for her sake she can come out the other side one way or another. Well her being a mother is one thing I have been...

Yes I’m starting to feel I am at that breaking point where I don’t know how much more I can take. Yet something in me STILL does not want to give up on her. I guess I find it so hard that she can create such huge dramatic moments out of seemingly thin air. Even gestures of kindness can often be...

Thank you so much @leehalf for your truthful comments. You are quite right; I am on a PTSD website talking about my partner suffering from Complex-PTSD & yet we have no diagnosis. I have simply read what I (& very occasionally we) can find & THINK that that’s what it sounds like. Believe me...

Thanks @Buttercup for writing. I am so appreciative of anything anyone has to say here. All new to this & it’s feeling very good to share. Haha, yes we really can hit those turnaround times extremely fast! Often we don’t even make the 24 hour mark before the world comes crashing down again! A...

That’s great that your sufferer was at a place where he could be open & honest with you about his PTSD when you met & he was getting treatment for it. I don’t mean that in any way dismissively of course, it’s obviously still such an uphill battle anyway, but at least I’m assuming you could have...

That must be such a difficult situation to deal with & I can’t imagine what that must be like for you. I am glad you have the confidence that your sufferer would not step over that boundary. Do you mind me asking, were you with your sufferer before the PTSD developed or is this the only way you...

Yes you’re quite right. Ironically I’m quite a solid personality outside of this relationship who would not stand for any nonsense from anyone. I guess it’s a case of applying that same thinking to her. I can’t quite bring myself to block her because I fear for her sense of abandonment. But then...

That’s very good advice @Snowflakes. It sounds completely reasonable & correct to ensure your own health is in order first. One difficulty we have is that we do not actually live together & she insists on conducting so much of our communication over text message (which really does not help!)...

You are of course completely right. And I know exactly what advice I would be giving to anybody else in my shoes. I suppose it’s knowing where the level is. So many on here seem to stand by people (quite possibly managed far better than my current situation for the most part I’m sure) that on...

@Snowflakes thank you. I guess I’m at that point where I’m questioning everything. Deep in my heart I still have faith in this girl that I love. I see the scared little girl that’s trapped inside her & I so desperately want to be the person to support her & see her grow. And when she is...

Well this is the area I’ve feared we’ve been slipping into. I’ve tried to be careful in how I approach this with her, but I have tried to explain that as much as I know it’s not her malicious intent, & as much as it’s the illness & not the real her, but that a lot of her behaviour is...

Yes. I suppose that’s a better way of looking at things. Thank you. She does regularly tell me that it is me making her unwell. And as much as I know this is not true, I still constantly question myself. I still constantly look for what could have possibly caused the upset in her. And if I...

This is the approach I want to be able to apply but it’s success has been far less successful with me. But then maybe I am getting it wrong or maybe not consistent enough.

Can I ask if anyone has any advice on how I can approach certain things. I understand that my partner is triggered by things I say & do. And there are certain things I can work on to avoid or change in order to help with this. But there are certain things I can’t see how I could possibly...

I’ll certainly second that! It’s such a sad & evil thing for our loved ones to have to live with. And it’s that feeling that as much as I read & “understand”, I can never actually understand. They see the world differently to us & I so desperately want to turn the light back on for her.

This is very true. Not even sure why exactly I have posted any of this, guess I just needed a place to vent! So thank you to anyone has read & especially those who have responded. It’s hard not to take it all so personally & question everything about yourself, even when the logical part of...

Thank you for the responses. I do try to set boundaries. I try to remain calm & strong & tell her that I will not bow down to anger & rage or simply anything that i find to be unreasonable behaviour or demands. It doesn’t seem to get me very far tho. I guess the problems are maybe that she is...

Apologies if this comes off a little ranting! I will try to curb it best I can. I fear my relationship with my sufferer is damaged beyond repair & I don’t know if there is anything that can be done anymore? We met 2.5 years ago &, like so many others I have read on here, I too can describe a...