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I think you just made a great statement. I have found that a quality of the T can make a huge difference. Many T's are not geared to trauma issues. They may handle depression per say but not trauma and there is a big difference. I always thought DBT would help but I was just given the...

Welcome Polly Pocket! I ditto on what everyone else already said. I think boards are helpful items and you finally quit feeling that your alone. All of us here suffer, you are not alone. Glad you are in therapy, that is where I get my biggest help. Well have a look around and get comfortable.

I agree with JBS about therapy going too fast. And don't down play your abuse. Like JBS stated everyone here has a story and they are all at different levels. You need to go on your feelings that you were violated and boundaries were crossed and that hurt you. You have a right to feel that...

I just want you to know you are not alone. I can't give much advise right now because I am in a bad place myself right now. I do know suicide is not the answer, this coming from someone who has tried it 10 times. You have to stick it out if I do! lol No suicide is selfish as one of my good...

I definitely feel like my childhood was taken from me. Then it seems you spend your whole adult life coping with that loss and reliving some AWFUL memories. They say you have to go to that innerchild and show them love and understanding. How do we do that? I don't know what correctly defines...

I'm of the same philosophy. I always like knowing that I tried everything then I seem to question my actions less. I'm currently in a one month waiting on relationship status update from current boyfriend. He just up and decided to give his ex a month to see if they can rekindle their...

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Yes, you can forget and have missing holes. I didn't remember a whole 2 years of constant sexual abuse until 40 years later when the abuser died. As soon as I heard they had died, it all came flooding back into my memory. I think it is our brain trying to protect us or give us what we can...

Thank you all for your kind words. The letter was hard to write, but it helped a little knowing that he wasn't going to read it. What I think interesting about my case was the fact that I was more upset about not getting an apology; especially when he knew he was going to die. I would think...

This is a letter I wrote to my deceased abusive father. My father died in 2000 of lung cancer. I am now, 46 but as you will see I always called him “Daddy” I never matured to the “dad” or “father”. My therapist told me to write him a letter and it did help. I just thought I might share it...

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For the last 2 years I have had 1 failed relationship after another. And most of them end with the guy breaking up with me for no reason they can voice. I've just gotten,"I don't think it is going to work for us." So of course I'm taking all this as my fault. Then 4 months ago I found my...

I find I get the most out of therapy if I'm given "homework". I like given worksheets to work on self esteem or trauma issues. I like feeling like I'm accomplishing something and not just blabbering for an hour to a person. I take the week to do the "homework" and then we discuss it during...

Wish granted! You are now a mindful person in the "NOW" And you have tons of love and care to give out without the "stuff" but you are alone on a marooned island and there is no one or thing there to love or care for. I wish I could hire a house keeper to clean. I don't feel like cleaning!

I made it to church and had private meeting with my Sunday School leader. I told her I was in the middle of a crisis and needed prayers. So I got two things done today, attend church and procuring prayers.

I realize my mother will always be a narcissist. I will never be able to please her, so I need to accept this and move on.

My depression is in full swing. Right now my main feeling is abandonment. I really feel alone. I'm a Christian, and I'm even weighing if God has forgotten me or is trying to punish me. I can't feel him in my life; and that is scares me.

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Because of depression I don't get out much. But my weight has been bothering me lately. I have never had a weight problem but I'm getting there. So I joined a gym. I just did the one month membership because I'm scared I'll just quit going because of how hard it is to get me out of my house...

Down Under water Its so calming Just the ocean's movement Peace

Wish granted, but now Papa Bear is in the bathroom all the time peeing. I wish my computer worked faster.

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I know God says you must forgive to be forgiven yourself, but I do have a problem here. I had 3 separate abusers. One of them I had repressed for 35 years. I didn't even remember it until they died; so I didn't waste much hate on that person. I did forgive another of them - but never forgot...

"Snap out of it" - "Everyone has bad things happen. Just move on."

I realize that I will be on medicine and going to therapy for the rest of my life. How depressing.