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@Peach @Tanishq Trust me, it's not easy to try it at all for fear of losing, but if you lose that person or they come back, you are better either way. When mine says he needs space it doesn't last long but I will be short and a little distant myself. One to show I'm doing as he asked and 2 to...

@Peach I know with my guy, it does work. But everyone is different. In this case it wouldn't be to trick him into wanting me, it's for clearing my thoughts, having a chance to write them out so I can see them clearly and also go to my therapist with them, to further understand them. I am...

@joeylittle @Sweetpea76 @Peach We did talk about it last night. He's a big "how do you think I would feel" so I gave that back to him. He realized it. He always promised I'm going to the next family function. He said today was his dad's birthday and his dad is medically fragile and still upset...

So I posted the other day that my guy said I love you to me and I was ecstatic because I am seeing pieces of the old him coming back, some slowly, some a little quicker now. On Wednesday, he got really sick at work and texted me that he was going home and would I come over. Of course I ran to...

@Tanishq Thank you. It's been a long road for sure. I've felt for so long that I've just lived my life in survival mode and now finally I feel like I am living free of it all. I've started to enjoy my hobbies I have long forgotten and my anxiety is barely there and it was a daily thing. I...

@Tanishq Thank you. When my therapists say rid myself of toxic relationships she was always first but it was hard living near her and having her grandchildren. Now it won't be an issue. A few days have passed and I still feel vindicated and free and I feel this chapter is over.

@WillyKat thats a good stress reliever. The worst for me is that my mom will defend him to his death and I am the bad person. She has told me I am ruining the family. Which is a heaping load of ish!!! Moving a thousand miles away from her was one of the best choices of my life! It's been...

@WillyKat I am in therapy now and my dr has changed my prescriptions which has made a world of difference to me. I do not expect a reply from my brother or any interaction at all. The email was simply for me and only me and it felt great. It was what I have needed for my closure and not his. I...

I've mostly talked about my guy with combat PTSD and my issues of being a supporter. But today was My chance to take back all my brother stole from me when I was age 4-10. My mother who acts like she knows nothing about the sexual abuse, though she does, inadvertently forwarded an email to me...

@itsKismet Could this stress also be the reason that even though we are together almost daily and we seem as a couple, as we were before, he still can't actually say we are in a "relationship"? I know he was this way in the beginning of our relationship also. He's said I love, everything points...

@itsKismet Thank you for explaining it that way bc with your perspective it all makes sense. It was all family and some close family friends that also know me. If I had been there it would've been all "oh so you're back together" then it would constantly be brought up to him in that context...

@notsurewheretoturn We are now back in our relationship did. I went on tinder for an ego boost as well bc it's simpler. He found out and was crushed and right then we quit. We know and both said we give eachother all we long for. Thank you he is a changed person seeing he could lose me.

@Lmm and for sure PTSD relationships are anything but textbook. I know he's coming around and now at at faster rate and I'll take just that. I don't need more. I'm good with how things are in the here and now. And I know if I don't push it they will continue this way. I'll just stick with my...

@Lmm my thoughts exactly. Thank you. His parents are older 76 & 78 and his father has severe heart problems and I know he doesn't want to confuse or upset him. I do know from his mom, sister and niece that all his parents want is to see him happy and they know the extent of my feelings. I do, in...

@New30 i found mine on a dating site also recently and last year when he went thru his trauma anniversary he did the same. He doesn't communicate with anyone on there and when I questioned him he said it hurts him that I could have "any guy and a date every night of the week". He gets completely...

So things with my guy have been great, really great lately. The only thing right now "bothering" me is that he won't invite me to join him with his family. Even at 46, almost 47 (next month) he is too worried about "what they will think". They all adore me and he does talk to them about me but...

Thank you @Peach. It has for sure been a long hard road this time around, in 2 years only the 2nd time he's done this but the first was way easier than this and we lived a 1000 miles though on this day we were together here in Texas. I'm letting him come around but taking care of me and doing...

THANK YOU both.

First let me say that I couldn't have done this without all of you wonderful guys here and the advice and support you've given me!!!! So, Thursday and Friday, he has said "I love you". Then yesterday evening he went to my neighborhood pool party and met all my friends here and wasn't stressed...

@joeylittle Thank you. I don't think that was super negative at all. I'm taking the steps to better me. I've started with a great therapist here, my meds have been switched which has made a huge difference in my stress and anxiety. I've met a lot of good friends since I moved, which I didn't...

@itsKismet Thank you so much for your response!!! I have definitely taken your advice and my new therapist is wonderful and I am very hopeful. As always your posts are inviting to me and you have always been a ray of hope on this difficult journey for me and I appreciate it more than you may know.

Thank you anonymous! I know the help will throw him for a loop and I am prepared as much as I can be. It's scary to me slightly bc I worry that it may cause him to shut me out forever, but he has always come back so I will continue hope in that. He knows I'm always here for him and even has...

@FridayJones Thank you. I'm still letting him hold the reigns to an extent so I don't stress or pressure him but we have talked a little more in depth. For him to admit he wants to see me and we are good for each other's well being is a good step for him. I just don't want to swing him off the...

Thank you @itsKismet I started with my new therapist the week and already love her. She and I are coming up with a plan of action instead of just going on with therapy with no end in sight. And he's said things like "I'm sure we'll end up together" even though right now I feel we are back in...

So I posted about a week ago that I had cut off my vet with combat PTSD. He then went from calm to irrational and very upset. That night he also sent a very good apology and came over the next day to apologize more. He suggested that day that we go a week with no communication. He later texted...