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@Tanishq Thank you. That's what I needed. I feel too much, too deeply, sometimes to a fault. @gizmo Thank you also! I know this is all true, I just need help and support to realize it! I need the truth spoken to me!!!! @stillstanding Thank you as Well! I do have PTSD to a smaller extent...

@Lilmssunshine Thank you. I just feel like a bad person for it.

Thank you @Neverthesame & @Sweetpea76 i feel better now as where I was feeling I was in some way letting him down.

He came by today to pick up a dog we share, for mine and my kids sake bc he doesn't want to take her from them. He asked if we could not talk for a week and see what happens. The longest he's ever gone is 4 days. He's already texted to see if I'm ok. It hurts and upsets me so bad that he can't...

Thank you @Tanishq. It's the hardest thing for me but there's no other way for me to heal when I'm holding on so tight.

I finally cut him off. I've blocked his texts and calls so he has gone to email. Within 2 hours he's switched from being understanding and kind to being so hateful. This is what I feared the most was that if I cut him off it would set him into a rage. Yesterday when he needed it, I took him to...

I feel like I wrote this myself. Exact same situation. I spend most nights with him but he will say he can't be in a relationship right now. But we've gone on dates he calls and texts daily. He wants me to date other people, which I don't think I can because I am deeply in love with him. He...

@FridayJones Thamk you. I'll use this again and again for reference. So it's ok, because this is for me and how he deals, is on him? He wanted this so all I'm doing is giving him what he asked for, space? And I need not worry about him, I need to take care of me. And can you explain the...

Thank you @FridayJones. I'm just worried about his well being if I were to completely shut him out. As a sufferer, can you tell me what your reaction would be?

@joeylittle You have no idea how bad I want to do that, but as stupid as it sounds, I don't want to upset him and I know that will and I don't want to make him angry bc I don't want it to add to his situation right now. If you have any insight into that, please let me know, bc I need to hear...

And I DO truly want to cut him off but when I have he will always come back. I have asked him to not contact me yet he does. He has told me to never contact him but the. He will. I don't want to hurt him but in the process I am killing me.

@Casey_03 Thank you so much. All of what you said is so true. I'm 42 and have never loved this way or been with anyone where I didn't have walls up bc of my own PTSD. He was different from anyone else. I never thought of it being co-dependent, though I am aware it's unhealthy. My problem is I...

So my ex fiancé, who needs space but is still daily in my life by his choice has me in such a roller coaster that I can't seem to get off of. Each day I will think this is it, I'm done, I'm not responding, then he calls or texts and I get excited like a kid on Christmas morning. I was ok thru...

@Nelson2015 i believe gig were right to not respond. It makes us victims and we feel we have to apologize to deflate the situation. His anger is mostly gone thank goodness and if I see even a tad I cutting him off and tell him will not take it. Since then he has been good. We are going on a...

@InvisibleSun Thank you. I have suffered and this makes me feel better.

@InvisibleSun Thank you. I just texted him in no way to pressure him and though I kmow he is dealing with this I had to set a boundary for me. I know it's most likely the wrong time but he was very receptive. Me even having the guts to set a boundary and say it out loud feels good to me. I pray...

Thank you. I've been told by several people also to try to find a Celebrate Recovery group. Doesn't mean you have an addiction but for everyone that needs healing from something.

@ptsdspouse2b Thank you. I let him be with his emotions bc he knows I am here and always will be. I have noticed that a couple of times he has assumed I was feeling one way when I wasn't so I have asked him to speak with me and ask and don't assume bc it causes more of a rift. He has been fine...

@catlover26 I am so sorry to hear you are going thru this also. Mine will share with me a lot and cry to me, but only backs way away when he's in a serious episode. Otherwise he is fine with me and we don't even really fight. We've always calmly talked thru anything. But when he's overwhelmed...

And most of the time now bc I guess he's no longer seeing me as a threat but someone that takes care if him if I ask about work or his day he opens up and starts talking more which puts us both at ease so we are able to talk now without his temper flaring. Also some of his issues stem from a...

@joeylittle Thank you. I try to ask simple questions so he feels at ease and safe. If I get too direct I don't want him to feel pressure. If I ask how was your day he now opens up and goes into detail. I know that if an answer is fine it means bavk off. We are in touch because he almost demands...

Yes @FridayJones, I've found several here that meet my needs for my anxiety and PTSD and along with other issues such as this I need help with. I love my therapist bavk home but it's like I was a baby when I started and now I've grown and learned and now I'm a preschooler and need more to learn...

@Lilmssunshine I'm in therapy now but via Skype I just moved here and actively seeking a qualified professional here. I've been diagnosed with PTSD as well and I have severe anxiety but I hate my diagnosis bc I suffer nothing like him but in his eyes I've been thru worse.

My guy is in the midst of a horrible PTSD episode. The kind where he pushes me away, which I'm learning and understanding thru this site. I'm the only one in 15 years he's shared his combat stories with. In 2 years this is only the second where pushes me out of the picture. He says he needs...

@Jolly roger Thank you so much. I've realized the push pull dynamic, but it makes me nervous bc I am so afraid of pushing him bc he can't deal with me right now. But when I do push, even just a tad bc I've realized it for what it is now thanks to this forum and research, I will immediately...