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I'm so sorry too. It's not easy being pushed away and it's something I'm still trying to understand, experiencing it myself for the first time right now. Try to keep busy, make some plans for yourself for things that you'll look forward to. I know it's hard, I am having a bad day myself right...

I work in a statewide govt position and we discuss it on a daily basis. It varies by state, by person, by local level etc in the US but I think a majority of people care and want to make a change.

Thanks for your input! Yes that was a question for the sufferers and I was just curious. I know even for myself a week can go by and I'm like, where did the time go and I didn't do much of anything it seems like. So I wasn't sure if when your mind is full from stress and being triggered if it's...

I haven't heard from him for almost 3 weeks and this gets harder everyday not easier. I know he's working on things he needs to work on for himself but it hurts not knowing how he's doing for so long. Question, do you tend to lose a sense of time when going through this? I can count the days...

I completely understand. I'm there with you.

I'm so sorry. I can't offer much advice as I'm new to going through this as well. But it's a good step I think that you at least had a conversation via text. I don't know if you said how long he's been out of touch but texting and having even a short conversation is good I think. I'd stay hang...

This. This is exactly why we continue to fight for our loved ones and refuse to give up that they'll come back, or get help, or want us there even though they aren't talking to us at the moment. You can't help who you fall for, or the great relationships you build with someone. And with that...

Thanks for your advise and input. I am definitely going about my life and living it for me. I'd love to be there for him but he's not ready yet. I haven't given up hope that he'll return. I'm not ready to give up just yet.

Do you reach out at all when he's pulled away? Like every few days or once a week to say you're still there for him when he's ready to talk? Or do you leave him alone completely and wait it out till he comes around again? Just curious what others do, I know everyone is different but thought I'd ask.

@Friday that all makes perfect sense too! I guess I didn't mean for him specificall to know he's safe, I was just referring in general for people who think that. The forums are helpful but it's clear everyone has their own opinions on what someone with PTSD may do or think or how they may act...

I completely here you as I'm going through the same thing right now. Why can't they just say something? Anything? I'm trying to understand too, it's not easy at all and this is completely new to me. I tell myself it's not personal, it's him, needing to feel safe again and empty his stress cup...

Also, we've talked since it happened and I have no reason to believe he wouldn't talk to me eventually. I'm sure he could have changed his mind since then but I still feel he will reach out when he's ready, like he said. It's the waiting that sucks. So yes I need to go about my life.

True, but he's also has said things that make me believe he's still dealing, processing and isolating for the time being and still wants me around. I'm trying to stay out of that state of angst but it's not easy at all. Easy to say you should do it but not so easy when you feel what you feel.

I sent him my email address last evening via text. No response. This is such a strange situation to be in, completely cut off for this long and knowing he doesn't want anything to do with me right now. Hopefully he'll be more comfortable sending an email and I'll hear from him but at this point...

Thanks for this info! I'm going to check it all out.

I understand. And if this really never happened to him before like he said, I'm sure he didn't even see it coming. I feel a million miles away not being able to see him or talk to him.

And yes to all of this! Unfortunately I didn't make the cut as I'm stressful. He's told me he's under a lot of work stress. He was pushed to far when something happened that ended up being a trigger and a few days later that landed him in the hospital. It did seem to happen suddenly out of...

Yes to both of your questions and I was thinking the same thing. He clearly tried reaching out after it happened and to me seemed like himself. I probably went overboard with the "I was so worried about you" stuff and he went back into hiding. He tried to be himself, it was too hard, so he went...

I personally think this is a great idea. I'm new to all of this as I just experienced someone in my life going through their first trigger since being out of the military for a decade and I also felt lost with where to get info and how to best handle the situation. Unfortunately I didn't have...

Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. I'm actually afraid to reach out right now. I feel that I panicked and went overboard when this first happened and I've apologized profusely but want to give him some more time. But next week I may reach out again if I still haven't heard anything from him...

@joeylittle thanks for the advice and kind words. I actually don't have his email and he isn't on social media at all so I only have his cell number. So I thought maybe I'd text my email and say I was just checking to see how he was doing and here is my email if maybe he'd prefer to respond that...

I was actually contemplating texting him my email address at some point, maybe next week, if I don't hear from him by then. I was thinking maybe if he doesn't want to text or talk on the phone, if he had something he wanted to say he could email and not have to worry about a response popping up...

Sorry I misunderstood then. That's sometimes the issue with texts and reading and not talking in person. I'm just having a hard time with all of this and there are a lot of unanswered questions in my mind. Hopefully we will talk at some point. We may have a strange relationship dynamic but we...

@nursenurse @Freida and @Tinyflame I honestly don't know his situation, I am making assumptions which I shouldn't so disregard that completely. They could be roommates or broken up, I have no idea at all. Some people stay together for a while to sort out the house and bills, etc. I know many...

So I am guessing once you have your first trigger it's bound to happen again? I know everyone is different but wondering. I wish I knew if he was getting treatment because I think that would really help. Everyday I keep hoping I'll hear from him. It's been 2 weeks since we spoke last and it was...