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Thank you anonymous. I appreciate the reply. For me, I feel I need communication. I have struggled in this, because I don't know what he needs or wants. I'm kind of left to my own devices to figure it out. He has never even talked about what is going on for him. I don't know if he's aware of...

Hi. I'm new to this forum as per a couple of days ago. I am a supporter, not a sufferer. I am trying to understand my sufferers behaviours better. I feel I have not been equipped to deal with them, although I have certainly tried my hardest. Just wondering, when sufferers avoid, or ignore, or...

Hi concerned spouse, Thanks for the reply. It makes me feel less crazy and more understood when I get feedback Like this . It's interesting to see you refer to the PTSD as separate from your husband. Just wondering why you do that? I personally didn't understand the behaviours or why he...

Jellyfish, It is good that he at least acknowledges it. He refuses to get help? Its not that i want to change my sufferer. I am totally OK that he needs his own space and time. I actually love that he's really independent. But we don't connect anymore. Its there....I can see its there. but i...

Thanks Dulcia, I definitely have a hard time with on/off. I don't think i can do it anymore. Thats what i mean when i say i am exhausted. i felt if i was open and vulnerable and doing my work, that would set the tone for the relationship, and maybe he would be able to meet me and see that...

He is OK with sexual intimacy now. The emotional intimacy seems to be the problem. Before it was a sexual problem. But now that he isn't fully committed to me anymore (not officially together, no resbonsibilites to me, not living together anymore) maybe its easier for him, or easier for him then...

Hes not in therapy. So no therapy= no hope for a future. i did tell him that, but it seems he has made up his mind. It just makes me feel guilty reading all of these posts and seeing how partners have really stuck by their sufferers and work through it. I feel I am up against a wall that...

Hi Nessa, No, he is not in therapy. He refuses to go. In the first 7 months of our relationship, we went after I found out about the lying regarding viagra, and also i caught him texting another woman for sexual advice. It wasn't sexual on his end, but this woman really liked him. So I told...

Hi sweetpea. I feel i am being dragged down to be honest. it affects me on such a deep emotional level. although I have much compassion dn love for this man, it causes me deep pain. I understand hurt people hurt people, but his stuff is not mine to heal. So while he refuses, I feel like I'm just...

thank you. it been difficult for me, i feel i ma in a place of growth. so letting him go maybe the only thing i can possibly do

Sorry, just maybe insight into his behaviour, if anybody has felt the same, so i know if i have just been too much. At the same time, I don't think this is mine to own, fix, or heal. i guess I'm just asking if this is natural for CSA survivors and PTSD suffereres.

Hi there, I've been on this forum for the past few days, and it seems like a really positive environment for support. I know all situations/supporters/survivors are different, but I'm just looking for some insight/answers. Sorry if this is longwinded. I am having a rough time, and just feel I...

wow, thank you @grimalkin yes, thats exactly how I feel, that the man i love is willingly throwing me away. Makes me feel as though I don't matter. I realize he has so much going on. i see him struggle, one minute wanting to be close, the next needing to be away from me. breaks my heart. Im...

@Justmehere thank you so much for that. its really hard, because there is so much love there. i feel.........angry. I'm angry at him, i feel like I'm not enough to get help. He's choosing to hold onto his pain, rather then letting me in, rather then being open to love and growth. I'm angry at...

Thanks justmehere. Any advice? I know walking away is pretty self explanatory lol. But even though he has chosen this path, I still have a support group, read about how to help him, and spend my time learning everything I can. I just don't know how to let go. It's what he wants. He has...

Thanks sweetpea. Its true. I feel like I can't do much else. He has chosen to not heal..... He doesn't want me to be there for him and I've literally tried everything. I'm so tired.

Hi BJ. Thankd for the reply. I work for a hospital, so this morning I messaged him, letting him know that I can get him an appointment to see someone. He saw the message, and then blocked me. I just feel.....gutted. I am trying not to take it personally. But I don't think I can stick around in...

Hi sweetpea. i know, i have thought about that a lot. If he is not willing to seek council, then there is no growth, and no possible future. NO, I couldn't see myself staying in this situation. it has broken my heart a lot. I don't think he can move forward with his life, if he can't acknlowedge...

thank you for your reply. I'm so sorry your in that position. time will tell i guess. when its family, its so heartbreaking. not easy to walk away from.

Hi, I am new to this forum. I have had the roughest 2 years of my life. The man I love has CPTSD, he was sexually abused as a child. I didn't know this until 7 months into our relationship. He has struggled with intimacy his whole life. Unfortunately, I did not handle his actions very well at...