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I actually think having sadistic fantasies of revenge can be helpful towards healing in a certain way...as long as they stay in your head and you don't act on them. I know that I was having very violent fantasies of what I wanted to happen to the guy who raped me, and as well as one woman who...

Hi Derek. There have been at least 2 other threads on this subject in this section, but I'm afraid you are among the minority on this forum who consider these plant medicines to be a valid and safe option. Mainstream medicine is still very much something most people will trust over ancient...

I see PTSD as a natural result of abnormal events in my life, and not an illness as such...more a brain injury if anything. The less I take on stigma and labels, the better...at least for me. I realise that many people find comfort in the label and the naming of it. I just don't consider trauma...

I actually find the question "are you ok" somewhat unhelpful in most situations. In my experience most people do not really want to hear how I feel. They want me to say "I'm fine thanks, and you?" and keep the thin facade of "okay-ness" intact, to prevent any uncomfortable sense of awkwardness...

Your GP sounds like he doesn't know what he is talking about and he's filling your head with nonsense. I'd go with what digger and joeylittle advised and seek a new GP. Also, using someone for sex? You mean you were having fun and the GP decided you are a slut who needs to stay away from the...

Yes, I reacted to the situation.

I was thinking about this very thing the other day. It's also been my motto in the past to live like this, however, I can say without being proud of it that I have called people out from an angry place before and not to help them as such...to 'make' them look at themselves because they were...

I agree, however, I did not say someone made me react, I said "it" made me react...the situation. I reacted to what he said.

That would probably have been a better way to keep the peace, however, this guy was really being very bossy and telling the poor guy what he needed and trying to be the hero and it made me more than cringe, it made me react by saying I thought he was doing this to make himself look good and...

I really loved both these last replies. Thanks guys for your input here. It helped a lot. I especially agree with joeylittle, and was reflecting on this myself yesterday...just the way I tend to jump straight to assuming that if I feel pathetic in relation to something then it must mean I Am...

I think if you go back and read it again you will clearly see the words "passive aggressive". I was not feeling angry, but this was another thing I would be accused of on the other forum...being angry, when I wasn't...at least not about what was being said. My father is from Malta though, and...

I was not intending to get into scenarios that occurred on another forum. When I felt accused of being passive aggressive on the other forum, I then gave examples to put things in context. The original question I asked in my first post was about how others perceive "attack"...not "why am I being...

I gave my thoughts on the subject, but I was looking to hear from whoever wanted to participate what their thoughts are about it as well. The thread took a turn into a different place than I was looking for, but that's ok.

I'm not quite sure how to interpret your words here. My female brain tends to hear "you are making it all about you and it's not." Yes, learning is always a good thing, and I think I'm pretty open to learning and improving on who I am today tomorrow, but only if it's something I do actually...

No, you're not the only one mentioning it...catjudo has as well. Others here have said they don't have a problem with the way I communicate though, and have never felt like I've been confrontational with them, so I will have to take some time to understand how reacting to being accused of...

That may have been your intention, but your implication here was that I was the one causing people to feel attacked. Thankyou for clarifying though.

I don't quite understand how I get confrontational when I feel defensive though? I didn't confront catjudo with any personal flaws or faults. I pointed out the reality that catjudo wasn't there to make an accurate assessment about who was the cause of the communication breakdown and just assumed...

I don't know that i have a better grip on it, but in a work situation, if I spent my whole day worrying about what they 'might' be saying about me, I'd go crazy and it would ruin my mood, which I need to keep uplifted or at least on an even keel to work. I sometimes don't always let myself...

I feel like I am being accused of things I didn't do...so of course that would make me feel on the defensive. How is that actually being confrontational though? I'm ok with not continuing to converse with you catjudo, but it has left me feeling pretty perplexed and somewhat patronized, I admit...

I agree, and different people do sometimes take things personally like that and then feel attacked. I've just spent 6 months surrounded by asian women who spoke asian all day around me, even though they could speak english. It's hard not to think that sometimes they are snickering about you, to...

I wasn't speaking specifically about this forum catjudo. Yes, I think I and other people here have already reached that conclusion. What feels like an attack and what IS one are sometimes very different things. So, you consider being gaslighted to be something not worthy of confrontation. Is...

I like this idea a lot. Thanks.

He can't evict me for that legally, no. It was a bit cheeky as they upped the rent before they'd even started fixing the toilet. I have a feeling they intend to up it again once things are finished...if he ever does get around to that. I pay $155 a week rent now as it is, and the bungalow is...

I've been living in this bungalow, which has served me very well for the last 2 years, and I do love this space. The issue I have is that the man who owns the bungalow, whom I am helping pay for his mortgage by paying rent to him and his wife (who just left him) still has not attended to and...

I'm not surprised by it. I expect people to be upset if I point out behaviour they don't like hearing about. I wouldn't say I look for confrontation, just that sometimes it is necessary unless you want to let someone get away with behaviour that isn't acceptable or that impacts on your life...