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I'm sure there are resources you can look up to help you find meanings of the poems. Look for analysis by actual critics or random people writing online. Also poem meanings are often very subjective. You might try letting students voice their opinions on the meaning of various poems, lines...

Could you maybe share with us your strategy for selecting them? Do you have any idea what accounts for the positive experience you've had? Pay rate, insurance, location, background? Personally, I don't put much stock in credentials; I think natural honesty, empathy, and desire to help go much...

Just had to quote this and say, BINGO. The problem is it takes two to tango. I was begging this last therapist to talk about what I needed to talk about. If someone is determined to not talk about something, they're not going to talk about it. There's always going to be a way to change the...

Wow. This is hard for me to believe, because I've had the opposite problem. The therapists I've seen have done nothing but steer away from the things I need to talk about (and not so we can work on stabilizing-unless meandering small talk is your idea of stabilizing). What exactly did the...

I think I read something a while back about the head of the APA really wanting to hold therapists to actual standards of treatment. He said that the subjective, "relationship based" model, while not without merit, just does not deliver RESULTS reliably. He wanted to make sure best practices are...

I think I once read someone on this forum say they've seen 40 therapists over the years, and they could count on one hand how many were helpful. At the time I thought they were exaggerating, but having just left a therapist who flat out couldn't do her job, I'm starting to believe it. What's...

Update: I went in and saw my therapist today. We started by talking about paper signing, the possibility of seeing someone else at the center, how I would be discharged if we determined that to be what's best. She could have probably stayed on those technical topics for the whole session--all...

This is a big part of what's frustrating me. She struck me as a fake from the very beginning, but I stuck with her because she was the least bad option I had. I feel like I'm bringing my authentic self to therapy, baring my soul, and she just sits there with this pasted on smile. She's clearly...

Exactly this. I think @FridayJones latched onto the positive connotation of "judgment" but the way I used "judgmental" was in the sense of personal, gratuitous, often prejudiced and petty, and ultimately not helpful. I might also add that the things she's judgmental about are from years ago, so...

I haven't been in to see my therapist for several weeks. I just made excuses about being busy with work, etc. It's a long story, but I don't trust her anymore. She's been unprofessional, petty, and judgmental about certain things, and has made some subtle aggressions towards me (threw shade at...

I'm not sure I understand your meaning, but it seems interesting. Could you clarify, please?

I agree that excavating repressed memories for the heck of it can overload your brain with too much too soon. But--and I've said this in other posts--if you're already having intrusive thoughts about something, there's pretty much no use in tap dancing around it anymore. It's popping into your...

I have confronted her about it at least once, if my memory serves me, perhaps twice. She acts as if she doesn't know what I'm talking about. She said, "I have no triggers and we can talk about whatever you want." But then it comes up, and the bobbing and weaving commences. Or she'll pick up some...

Sometimes it's the not-phased thing that bothers me, the poker face, like they're not validating you. I find that I really need to talk details since these are deep secrets, and I have no one else to vent to. I feel cleansed by going into details-it's like a poison in me that I have to purge...

Yes, I'm still seeing her. I'm getting madder and madder every week as I drag myself into her office.

So I went back to seeing the therapist that my measly insurance will cover, not my first choice, only game in town. Anyway, I've finally worked up to talking about a chapter of my past that was really traumatic for me, and her response has been less than therapeutic to say the least. When I...

Wow. Really good description of how abusers distort reality. This is why it's practically impossible for people to realize they're lying until it's too late-and something everybody needs to be educated about. One of the psychopaths I dealt with built me up so much at first, I think it may be...

How about making peace with not being good enough? That's what I'm interested in these days. What's the worst that could happen if you don't get external validation? You have to face the fact that you're not good enough? Ok, what then? Can we just face this fear and accept that we might in fact...

I'm finding when I try to go back to what happiness meant in the past, it doesn't hold much interest for me. Going to bars and getting drunk and making a show of myself was how I used to run away from myself. Now I can barely picture myself socializing at all. I don't know if it's because I'm...

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This is exactly what's annoying the hell out of me. It's like a movie is playing in my head while at the same time, there are these other thoughts that should be getting my full attention. I'm sick of coexisting with the movie-I want it gone. I feel better when it's gone, and not trying doesn't...

See, I tell myself nonstop that I need to stop. It just doesn't work. Right, what I meant was why do some of us sufferers seem to be better at it than others? I guess this is sort of what I'm talking about. I just need a technique that can turn the spigot off temporarily so I can get stuff done...

I've been stopping and describing them to myself or, even better, writing them down. It seems to have a cleansing effect, but I simply can't do it for most of the day, especially while running around, working, etc.

Does anyone have any practical advice on how to stop thinking about it? I mean like actual techniques with measurable efficacy. Telling me, "Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to get sick," or "Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?" isn't helping me...

Oh, the lost years. Where I would be today if I'd had the same chance for a decent life everyone else had. The disasters that could have been averted. I guess what you refer to as the "old image" actually feels more like the real me, and how I appear now is just a cover up and a ruse. I feel...