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There is a particular state agency that my parents got one over on when I was a kid. If they were doing due diligence they would have caught onto some extremely messed up stuff that was happening. If they knew about this, the state would have taken us away, probably. They had some policies in...

This is debatable, but otherwise a spot-on post. I don't really know of organizations that could help them. There are some specific, branded social ills here like domestic dysfunction and substance abuse. And I will certainly be gathering all the pamphlets, phone numbers, websites I can. I...

I'd also like to point out that Im not feeling only shame, fear and disgust. I'm also feeling empathy and compassion. I didn't mention those in the OP, obviously, because they're not what I need help with.

Um, no. I don't plan to be abusive or critical. I plan to be kind, and to offer encouragement and moral support. I want to give them some resources, suggest some things that they might find helpful. Also, I'm a happy drunk.

This is a popular bit of rhetoric many of you seem to have picked up somewhere. You've taken it to heart, but: are you sure it's not a line from people copping out of doing something they don't feel like doing? It has a whiff of it, if you ask me.

I'm not sure what you mean here. What is "this" that I have to deal with? In one of many bad chapters in my life that I can think of, I got out, partly because of a reality check and partly because of the guidance of one person who talked sense to me without abusing me. I did not know I needed...

@Neverthesame, you're welcome to share your opinion. But people in abusive relationships with people who are experts at brainwashing them? And narcotics addicts? And people who suffered severe educational and social deprivations? Typically won't ask for the help they need -- out of ignorance...

Because they need rescuing. I really just want to do what I can to guide them, give them resources, support. There are quite a lot of details.

I might be seeing some of my siblings around Christmas. I have not seen them for, like, 14 years. I contacted them out of guilt and a sense that I need to be looking out for them, giving them guidance, since I'm more worldly and "together" than they are. I'm wondering what I got myself into...

Well, it's the fact that it's your own voice, and you're examining your thoughts from the outside rather than have them just running through your head. I'm wondering if that can help unbundle some stuff, or whatever.

I don't have insurance right now, but I could really use therapy. I remember when I did prolonged exposure treatment, we would record sessions. I'd listen to them at home as part of the therapy. What are your experiences with listening to yourself in session? Has anyone tried recording...

An anti-inflammatory diet has helped with my general depression and irritability. You really have to cut out those vegetable oils that are in just about everything. ? I live by coconut oil, because it's one that isn't laden with inflammatory omega-6 fat.

I'm going to tack on to the other posters here, and say I don't get why your T is against naps. How does he know you're not processing in your sleep on some subconscious level? Your body is telling you it needs sleep -- is it wise to override it?

Basically a rant. Title pretty much says it all. I mean, I think I didn't want to face it in the past. I guess hope springs eternal. I just thought I'd pull it all together, and to a degree I have. But there is so much mangled and maimed that can only be dealt with at best, but not repaired...

I'm not familiar with this. Is it for profit?

I am in the USA.

Can anyone offer advice on social workers? I've gotten back in touch with my siblings after years of estrangement. They are all in pretty bad places, and I'm trying to help with practical guidance, but it's pretty overwhelming. Where could I find social workers that can help them with issues...

No. She used some very plain language in the messages we've exchanged in the last few days. Stuff that you learn from the im/text message culture we live in. I noticed some misspellings. I would guess she is at about a first grade level. I'll try to find out more when I see her.

It would set fine with me. I would think, "I can't believe she was thinking about me enough to find a solution and go out of her way to deliver it to me in an act of concern and good will. This is a super hero." Um, it would make me happy that she is doing better and more equipped to take care...

No kidding. I mean, it's not hard to care about them, but to take steps in the real world to demonstrate it is the hard part. It doesn't mean it is not worth the effort especially, if the person is in need of help. I feel like you and Neverthesame are spending a lot of energy casting a...

I won't be the one teaching. I am spending one day with her, and all I'm aiming to do is point her in the right direction and give her the resources she needs.

It means I'll be in a different state so ceasing interaction is pretty much inevitable. I'm open to checking on her through email occasionally to give her guidance. I'm dealing with an avalanche of painful memories here and doing the best I can.

Seriously? It matters because I want her to have a happy, prosperous life and be a person whom others respect. We're both adults with our own lives. So I don't want to get us joined at the hip; that in no way means that I don't give a damn about her.

I'm just going out of state back to where I was. I do feel guilt, shame and embarrassment over the whole thing. It is going to be hard to face it, but I need to get it off my conscience. I would like to go no contact after the visit, but I am open to an email relationship to provide her some...

@Justmehere and @Bkinder, of course it would be ideal to build a relationship with her, but I can't. I'm going away after I visit. She is my younger sister, rather immature and undeveloped, and I am approaching her as someone who is looking out for her. We went through a traumatic, disgusting...