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I believe that the administrators could possibly know who you are. But they would not reveal your identity, I don't think -- otherwise, what's the point of having an anonymous forum? If you want 100% anonymity, you could start a different account here and post in the anonymous forum just this...

I'm disgusted by this therapist. I don't care what you said. You were obviously ashamed and repentant. It's not like you were sitting there bragging about it. I guess it is preaching to the choir to tell you that this is not how therapists are supposed to be. Withholding personal judgement is a...

I'm still working on it. Do you sit facing your therapist? I find that I can get more out if I lie down and look at the ceiling or close my eyes instead. If she doesn't have a couch, you could possible bring a yoga mat and use that. I don't like the sound of this. Therapists are not supposed to...

I always recommend an anti-inflammatory diet for depression. Particularly, you need to balance omega-3 and omega-6 intake. The standard American diet now contains waaaaaaaay too much omega-6.

This may have something to do with it. Your insistence on keeping it secret could be preventing release. I say tell your therapist -- that's what they are for. I find when the most horrifying stuff comes up in my mind, there are two voices: One says, "Oh my God, if anyone knew about this, I...

The problem is that even when this defense mechanism mitigates bad feelings in the short term, indulging in it further ingrains the pattern in my brain and keeps me dependent. It's like drug addiction. Taking another hit will make you feel better in the short term, but it's still a net negative...

I did not read the other posts here, so it's possible someone else mentioned this. Have you considered tapering off instead of going cold turkey? This is how I quit smoking (and also drinking -- twice). If you smoke a a pack a day, try smoking 15 a day for a week. Week two, cut it to ten a day...

@Justmehere, thank you for a great, intelligent reply. The word "containment" brings to mind a therapist telling me to mentally take the trauma and put it in a container. To me, that sounded like a joke, basically. Like, oh really, it's that easy? As for pacing, I don't think I've ever had a...

Haha. Such as things I won't be going into on this forum. And no, they've nothing to do with personality.

@gizmo, some things can't be changed -- they are just unalterable facts.

So you are saying I should pretend to be someone else some of the time, but revert to reality at other times? The problem is that coming back to reality after living in denial is like crashing from a drug. Having to go through the crash on a rapid cycle is a lot to take.

I may be misunderstanding you. What I meant by "falsify your story and identity" is to do so in your own mind by sugarcoating or spinning the truth. Or maybe just blocking certain things out.

What gets me is that the self censure and flagellation is never enough. It's like I wish there were some way to punish myself adequately, so that I could move on, feeling that I payed the price. But it just never seems enough. I almost wish that someone else would come along and punish me for it...

That isn't an option. Too much to get into.

The past week or so has been really rough. I was fed up with constant (trauma-related) loops and fantasies that go through my head all the time. They are distracting and they keep me out of touch with the present. So I started doing some aggressive grounding techniques to stop the loops and the...

Yeah, we seriously need to get the edit function back (*note to admin).

The person from my adult life is long out of the picture. I really did not even know him, if you can believe that. But I am still obsessed with him and with the rejection. Also, what you you mean by "trauma religion compulsions?"

It is this feeling that my life depends on it that's really disturbing. I feel genuinely terrified of this person. So how do I complete it? How do I move on? Should I start thinking/talking (in therapy) about my dad more? Or do I continue trying to resolve it with the person from adult life? How...

I get triggered in grocery stores too, and I have no specifically supermarket-related trauma. For me it's just something about being in the open, being seen and being physically close to people. I'm agoraphobic, I guess. Maybe you have that issue too. I'm sure a man like your father acted...

I don't really know. Judging by this case, I might say preoccupied. The reason I think it's attachment is because of the persistence of the loop -- this has been going on for over two years now. And also, these fantasies of redeeming myself to him despite their being zero chance of that in real...

I have this memory loop of this person, which I think is a re-enactment of some kind of parental rejection/attachment disorder thing. It is ridiculously hard to go a whole day (or even an hour) without thinking of it, so I'm pretty sure it's significant. Anyway, I was doing some aggressive...

Did you and your husband discuss this issue you have with physical contact before you married? Did he enter into the marriage on one set of conditions only to find himself now handed a different set? It's not your fault you were traumatized and it's not your fault touch is triggering. But...

I don't know of anyone personally, but I would suggest you do a Google search.

That in effect would be telling her I want a different therapist. Can telling her this change her personal view on her job and her patients? Can it turn her into someone with a great deal more knowledge and skill that she happens to have?

Sometimes stupid, sometimes slacking, sometimes both, I assume. I don't want them to get "emotional," I want them to understand. And I think 15 years of psychology training and practice should equip you to at least ask the right questions when you talk to someone. I've had good sessions with...