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Thank you for your kind words. Compassion helps tremendously. I think the thing about tragedies is that no one really knows what they would do unless they were in that predicament. As of right now, I'm choosing to stay for two reasons: 1)making a hasty life-changing decision is never healthy. I...

I'm sorry but you're speaking from a place of bitterness which is not constructive at all. There's a better way to speak your opinion. Some ppl split and it was the right decision for them, and some work it out and have a greater relationship for it. I'm not upset by your response but I'd be...

Probably was, but like I said, we were both reeling from everything and not emotionally stable or thinking clearly. Now that a little time has passed, we're communicating better. He's searching for a marriage counselor and individual therapy for himself.

Thanks so much. I've been in individual therapy for about 8 months now. I agree we should get couples counseling too. We shall see.

Being that this has just unraveled, I don't think we're clear yet on what we each want/need or should do. I spoke with my therapist last night and she agreed we should let things breathe for a bit so we can have clarity of mind. I know I want him to see a commitment from him to work this out...

I'm happy that you both were able to move past it and maintain a strong relationship. I can say that in every relationship I've ever had before my husband, I've cheated..because it's how I dealt with.feelings. I couldn't bare to be vulnerable. So in that way, I understand how someone can fall...

Before this happened, he didn't want to go. I can ask again but we are both kind of reeling over everything so neither one is trying to force anything.

Thank you

I really don't have an answer for this. I'm just here for support & advice from others who may have experienced this.

Long story short, my husband and I have had a complicated relationship. I have PTSD. There are many times when I've shut down and tried to leave him during my episodes. Eventually it pushed him away, and he became resentful. The last month or so it became really obvious and our relationship was...

Haha, you're cute :p I just released my anxieties in prayer and I'm gonna hit the sack before my mind continues since I haven't heard from him to say goodnight or anything :( But that's good that you still get to have therapy. Don't stop. Maybe we can keep in touch ;)

We've been together 5 years and married 2. Thanks so much for the positivity. It helps getting someone else's perspective because it's always easier for someone outside of the situation to see things more clearly. It's crazy that your ex would say that to you because that's the same thing my...

You're very welcome. We moved to a new state 9 months ago so I only have one friend here who I will spend some tim with tomorrow, and I worked today and will on the weekend too. In between I am definitely trying to keep busy. As soon as he left, I went into OCD cleaning mode in the house until I...

I'm sending you hugs. I know it's not easy recovering from that. I remember the days my old therapist(the one I saw briefly during my separation & divorce stage) was giving me pointers in how to trust my own self again. I feel that, for the most part, I have good judgement. So I want to...

I'm very sorry to hear that. I'm sorry you have to go through this too. It's a horrible thing to experience..that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach. Have you been working on it in therapy? After I divorced, it took me about 3 years to really start dating. My current husband was the...

Some of my traumatic experiences have been from my ex-husband who was(and still is) a sex addict. The things I'd found him to be doing behind my back were so severe, I wouldn't even want to repeat it. But due to that, I entered my relationship with my current husband with severe trust issues...

Yes I understand that and have been trying to do that, but he's also doing things that make it very difficult for me. He is snapping, hitting my triggers & not even trying to hear about joining therapy with me. He feels he knows all there is about ptsd and that it won't help, and me asking for...

Thank you for you words. That was very well put. I have been trying to extend empathy and understanding but he seems to be getting worse now. He is actually instigating arguments now and I will gracefully bow out so not to engage in it. My therapist thinks he's not taking responsibility for his...

Oh man, you are so on point. He has always said one of his weaknesses is falling into martyrdom, but I don't think he sees how that's contributed to our problems. I don't know if he thought he could save me, but he basically tried to. Just today he told me he's done SO much for me, and he...

Thanks but I think him seeing my posts would upset him.

I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but glad to hear you so strong and positive. I had a situation with my husband today because he heard me get upset in the next room about some financial issues(I did not get upset at him or take it out on him whatsoever) and he got freaked out. I took a...

I haven't always known what my issues were, but since finding out 7 months ago, I've always kept it honest. Even before then, I'd let him know how I was feeling without knowing what to call it. I seek help and I make progress, but he won't seek help with me. He feels he knows all he needs to...

Yeah, I know. Last You're welcome. I hope he soon realizes the importance of him going too. Wish you the best.

I think so too. According to what he's already told me, he wants to just be cool, let time pass and see what happens. I thank you for all of your input. Just talking here has helped me tons.

I wish I could say all those things to him, and you're right about taking all the blame. I tried to tell him before that it takes two and that he has some responsibility here too, but right now, he won't have any of it. He'll start getting upset and say something like, "you're not gonna do this...